Well, i'll soon be married to a man, but i am a bi-sexual.
should i confess this to my man before i marry him ?
what would u do ?
2007-02-11 00:49:58 · 12 answers · asked by Silly Shelu 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Generally, marriage is supposed to be for very strong, serious relationships. Such relationships DON'T exist without honesty. He should know who he's marrying. Even people in arranged marriages know a little about their soon-to-be spouse.
2007-02-11 17:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, even though I am a man, I told both of my wives before marriage. With the first one, I thought I could make a commitment to be with her only. It didn't work though, I was miserable for 12 years, but I made a promise. Before my second marriage we came to an agreement about how I would get my needs met without her feeling betrayed (for the lack of a better word). First you need to figure out how you would like to live, then you and your boyfriend need to figure out if he can live with your needs. It takes a special person to deal with our situation. To Confess usually implies something negative, do you feel your sexuality is a negative? Your feelings about yourself are more important and must be dealt with before you can consider marriage. If your not 100% sure of yourself you would be doing the wrong thing to this man if you marry him.
2007-02-11 09:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I wasn't sure I could remain faithful to the person I was about to promise that for life, I wouldn't marry him.
When you marry, generally, you don't get involved with other men, so what's the difference? You may always be bi-sexual, but you are agreeing to be with this one person for eternity, so what does it matter?
So yes, if being bisexual is something that is going to leave you unsatisfied with the man you are marrying, do him a favor and ask him if he cares if you have a sex life that excludes him.
Or just don't get married until you understand what you are doing.
2007-02-11 09:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well approach it maybe by asking him what he thinks about bi women to get his reaction-then you will know how he stands on the subject.Before my husband and I were married I told him I was then he laughed and smiled and said I already knew that.Women that are bi are better lovers as they feel more confident and are willing to try new things is what he said using his own experiences. But then again he can just tell with people.It was a positive thing for us.Good luck and congratulations on your up and coming wedding.
2007-02-11 10:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by C E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bisexual woman married to a man and he knows. I don't believe in keeping secrets from my spouse.
2007-02-11 10:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello I was bi curious and i told my husband that and the first thing he said was...lets find out if you really like it and we set up a threesome.....trust me alot of men have fantasies about being with 2 women.....let him know your feelings and he might just want to join in. GOOD LUCK.
2007-02-11 13:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes definitely! You owe it to your fiance to be open and honest about your sexuality. I don't believe that it would be a good idea to go into a marriage being dishonest and deceitful. Just be up front with him and explain your feelings.
2007-02-11 10:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should probably tell him soon. The more you know about someone before marriage, the better.
2007-02-11 12:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Santa Barbara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better tell him.
He will find out someday when you kiss him and your breath smells like fish
2007-02-11 09:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by wacky weed 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If he is a true man he will be at first taken back and like wat! then hell be like hey.... wanna get some use outta dat? thats just how id be
2007-02-11 09:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by Brandon S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋