things are not happening?

Question

I am a cool down to earth guy who had all the dreams about a perfect marriage and alws thot " so wat if i neva had a gf my s/o wud be my gf"
1 year down the line things are not happening i m the 1 who is alws taking inititaive in bed ,i m the 1 to patch up first and she simply is not able to leave her manager image at office her way of speaking is as if i m her subordinate, finding excuses to goto her parents place every week are taking the toll ...i have taken the route of being patient and not aggravating the argument someimes taken the path of ignoring her and not calling her ven she is at my inlaws place but of no avail
I know its easy to say that sit together ,communicate and sort out but thats not happening and dats why thot of discussing it here any1 who has gone thru all this to give some insight and at the end of it i still want my marriage to work and still thinking on this sunday evening to buy the best valentine gift from the nearest mall

Answer 1

THINGS ALWAYS DON'T WORK OUT THE WAY YOU PLAN THEM. JUST EXPECT LESS OUT OF LIFE TO BE HAPPIER.

Answer 2

My friend, you are inviting her to treat you like dirt. You are tolerating much more than you should, and that motivates her to further demean you. You must retaliate subtly.

Bring in the name of a female colleague (preferably fictitious) now and then in your conversation. Tell her "Rita said this or did that. Don't you think that's great?" After a couple of days "It was Rita's birthday, so we had cake". then "Rita suggested a damn good restaurant," etc. Let Rita be mentioned a little more than she can bear. And if your wife loses her temper about Rita, tell her "But Rita is such a nice girl. I wonder why she didn't marry."

Don't care too much about the sex initiative. Instead talk about how free sex has become and how casually people take extra-marital affairs.

Don't stop your wife from going to her mother's over the weekend. You go visit a relative during a weekday, when she's at home.Take your time in returning home. Let there be a showdown.You stand your ground firmly.

The idea is to convey to her that she is no longer the centre of your universe -- you are.

And forget that "best" Valentine's gift. It will not be appreciated. Keep it cheap, or better, say Valentine is for lovers, and you don't see much love the way she behaves. If I were you, I'd buy myself a new tie and say it came from Rita.

Does she earn more than you?

Answer 3

perhaps you are focusing a little bit too much on her,,,,, try to develop some of your own, outside of the marriage interest,,,,, say join a gym,,,, take a night class,,,,,,, join a bowling league,,,, do this to develop yourself as a person,,,,,,, not to replace your marriage/relationship,,,,,, a couple doesnt have to spend all of their non-work time together,,,,, if she is only visiting her family,,,,, then i dont see a big problem with that,,,,,,, as long as that is all she is doing,,,,,,, she may feel that you are there and available for her whenever she wishes,,,,,, not being that available might give her reason to pause and think about the relationship,,,,,,,,,, do make sure to keep up whatever interest you develop,,,,,,, if she does notice and starts wanting you to be there every day,,,,,, (which some like this do ), then dont, continue to develop yourself outside of her,,,,, that way you have more to offer when you are with her,,,,,

Answer 4

talk to her directly about it all & make her clear that it need 2 hands for a applause.if she is interested even a bit in making ur marriage a sucessful one then she have change her way & attitude otherwise it will be best for u to leave such a woman.this should be the first thing u should do if ur summit fails.

Answer 5

i think you should find someone who treats you better,respects you, and someone who wants to spend time you.

Answer 6

bro you are young move on