2007-02-10 23:57:42 · 18 answers · asked by Sparky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
99% of the time, YES. And to their children, too, which they typically do not think about at the time.
2007-02-11 00:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by zzzzzzzzz27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is by definition monogamus (that is, two people stay faithful to each other and only each other). When there is a third person involved, humans naturally get jealous. Most humans are like that. They get angry, hurt and jealous when extra-marrital affairs happen. I've read cases of jealous spouses killing their cheating spouse or paramour. It happens. Some couples get divorced. Other couples have to work extremely hard to hold their marriages together. Hence, extra-marrital affairs are, for the vast majority of the time (about 99% - even though saying 99% is such a cliché). There are always exceptions, but these are very very rare - and may not be because what is going on is seen as an affair. For example, one adult worker (I forget her name) has sex with other people as her job AND she has a husband. They don't see the sex as part of her work as an affair. She sort of mentioned that if she did have an affair, it would hurt the marriage terribly. I've heard similar things from married swingers.
Apart from the freaky exceptions (and there always are exceptions in everything) - to answer your question, yes, extra marrital affairs are always detrimental to marriages.
Hope this clears things up and helps.
2007-02-11 00:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is, what would you think. I can't believe you asked this question.
If you were involved in this type of relationship you'd realize what you just said. It hurts, it hurts real bad. The one you love in the arms of another, behind your back and then, that very night, making love to you again.
Some States, to ward off the high divorce rates are now making or reinstating the "adultery laws" and making them a punishable crime, which they should be.
The vows taken at the alter were taken for life, not until one got tired and wanted to try the grass on the other side of the fence.
2007-02-11 00:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not if your swingers. I f anyone is going to have an affair don't get married in the first place (it kind of defeats the purpose of marriage). No, affairs don't just happen, people have the ability to stop any situation before it gets out of control!!
2007-02-11 00:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by eplve29 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no longer likely... yet those human beings around or in contact,no count if at as quickly as or no longer at as quickly as, interior the extramarital affair continually get something undesirable out of it. yet possibly,even after long generations have surpassed...that's achieveable for the affair to be stumbled on...
2016-11-03 03:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not always as I was a working mum I just never contemplated that it could possibly happen. I guess I just totally believed that the panties and the champagne cork found in the car when I cleaned it occurred when my husband lent the car to someone else at work. In hind sight I think other darker thoughts but then I was content with his explanation as I was content with my partner and I believed he was content with me.
2007-02-11 00:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by njss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
And you will probably die a mysterious death.
I only say this because I have a friend who's mother and stepfather are happily married. But recently he found out that his stepfather is cheating on his mother. He's now considering having his stepfather bumped off.
So yes. If your spouse find out, he/she will have issues ever trusting you again. And if your kids find out, they might just kill you in your sleep.
But if you can stop the affair in time, confess to your spouse and beg for forgiveness, maybe it can work out?
I don't know. I'm not even married.
2007-02-11 00:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Just Bianca 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it depends I know a couple that the guy had a thing going with a coworker but the wife was told by him and he was so sorry she kept him. Though they need to rebuild the trust thing, I think its making them both stronger within the marriage and that only brings benefits to the kids.
(but better not to you might not have such a forgiving spouse!)
2007-02-11 00:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah. An affair destroys the trust. It's betrayal to the spouse.
2007-02-11 00:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im not an expert ---- however its not the end of the world.
Marriages have survived worse situations. My suggestion is to try to work out the problem, and find out what caused the problem(s) in the first place.
Good luck hope things work out for the best!!
2007-02-11 00:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by neon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋