what is the point....in getting married ,people change...i give up!?

Answer 1

People Change. But Love never does. If there is Real Love? Then there's nothing to change. Have your love, coming from Your Heart. Make sure the Love, that you reiceve is from The Heart? You're a Winner.

Answer 2

Yep people do change but that can happen a lot later and being married is just so great ;planning the holidays together; planning the house ;buying the furniture and bringing up the children all things that need two people's input why give up when it can be so good and if you do change so much that it is no longer viable you still have some great memories and hopefully learn from your mistakes and wrong moves so please go ahead and get married and think only of a great future and you may be one of the lucky ones

Answer 3

Marriage is a good thing!..but for lack of knowledge on how to make it work many find it stressfull and a necessary evil. There are countless testimonies of many marriages that are working and fruitful. Unfortunately, society and the media publicise more of the evil in marriage and family life than they do the many wonderful good that are also present.

Also, people in marriage do not really change they just exhibit what negative and positive tendency they have been having all the time. Most of the time to-be partner do not take time enough to get to know who they getting invovled with before they finally commit to marriage.

The key to getting a good partner is firstly being a good yourself and secondly spending enough time to get to know your partner well before marriage. That way both of you get to understand each others tendencies and ways before commiting. And communicate about what you both do not like and like about each other and discuss how that can be resolved.

Most people that find problems in marriage after commiting should look back at the period of courtship...They are always likely to find evidence of menifestation of their partners behaviour which they ignore to consider and confirm before commit.

Marriage is a choice you make in the selection of a partner suitable for your companionship in life. If your choice was not done well doesn't mean marriage is not good.

We need to learn how to make the right choices of a partner before committing.

To help you understand better you can read the following books:
- Understanding the purpose and power of Men
- Understanding the purpose and power of Women
The author is Dr. Myles Munroe.
It will give you a better perspective of what to expect from your spouse and what to get out of marriage.

Answer 4

If you do find that right person you will learn to change and grow together and become fulfilled as you grow with each other. Sometimes people marry someone just like them and they get along for years, but then it becomes mundane.

"Opposites attract"

Also realise if you think whats the point of marriage you are automatically setting your self up for failure. How can you be committed in a relationship if your thinking in the back of your mind "This isn't even worth it"?

Answer 5

Marriage is a committment to one person for the rest of your life.. That is why if your smart you will go through counseling sessions BEFORE you get married. You need to look at the long term and you need to learn about compromise, the vows for better and the worse and understand what that means.
People study for driver's licenses longer than they do for marriage licenses.
Everyone wants the easy way out.. well you canget that but it doesn't make you a better human being, just a quitter.

Answer 6

people do change, but ideally the two people will change together in the same direction. my parents have been married for almost 27 years. my grandparents for 50! only one cousin on one side of my family has ever gotten a divorce. i think society makes it too easy to give up. or maybe too easy to get married without seriously thinking it over first. i have been married for 5 years and i hope to never get divorced. i have changed since marriage and so has my husband but thankfully so far we have both changed together and in the same direction.

Answer 7

Exaclty. Marriage should be banned. All it does is turn happy couples into bitter azzholes. I should know, I'm one of them.

See, if you are not married, you are together because you want to be.

If you are married, you are obligated to stay together and women will fight to the death for this idea it seems. They have no morals about how many c0cks they devour with thier lady parts before marriage. But after they get married, they all of a sudden develop morals and think everthing not done with them is "cheating".

Answer 8

your right getting married people change but you wrong about giving up . don't do that only for that one time there is some one for everyone .Yes you may say that person in my life was the one for me and I'm telling you that you will find someone else but that person will be just a tad bit better ,Good luck and my God bless you

Answer 9

I agree. Marriage is unnatural. In most cases you are forced to live a life of compromise that militates against your every wish. Or you voluntarily turn up being a person that you are not, and that creates unending tensions and arguments.

I've quit my marriage and we are the best friends with my ex! We both feel liberated!!!!

Answer 10

marriage puts extra stress on any relationship to do well to financially take care of the family, to be the adult, and sometimes these individuals don't have it in them, they run from the responsibilities, run from the problems, do immature things, cheat and leave with the other person all over being too immature to deal with life and its problems. also because of selfishness, and being unwilling to put the spouse before their wants and needs.