My daughter is leaving to college to another state, I feel she is not very responsible yet.?

Question

Being the only child she had carefree teen years. What are the things I should tell her. She is a good student and a good child !!

Answer 1

One of my favorites is "Make good choices." It covers virtually all the ground you want/need to.

Depending on you/her tolerance for chatting, you might also want to cover:

1) Be sure she knows how to do her laundry!
2) Be sure she can keep her room reasonably neat and organized
3) Remind her to eat well, get enough sleep, take vitamins
4) Suggest that she join clubs and activities so that has additional outlets (beyond the dorm and classes) to meet people and get in "synch" with the school
5) Remind her to (definitely) "make good choices" when it comes to sex, alcohol, drugs...there will be many temptations and she needs to be very careful
6) Remind her to be sure to focus on her studies, to learn ... not to the exclusion of the social aspect of college, which is admittedly very important
7) Reminder he to be careful with her money
8) Work out an arrangement where you speak at least once a week...e-mail, letters, texting, instant message can cover the other communication...but a once-a-week conversation is a good idea.

Answer 2

I'm very sorry to hear about that but this can be resolved so easily than you think. have you sat her down and told her how you felt? Well, if you haven't I suggest you do it now. You say she is a good child so it is possible for her to listen and try to re-think it. You should tell her that you love her alot and you don't ever want to see her get hurt. Tell her you'll miss her too much and couldn't deal with it as a mother and would love if she would stay close by your side. Please don't tell her she's irresponsible or make her feel like a kid because that's the last thing we want here. If that doesn't work, this may sound kinda hard but sometimes you have to let them go and taste what it's like out there. Mistakes always make a good child stronger, it did to me. You can't protect them forever, they don't even let us. If she decides to go, let her know no matter what you'll always be there for her and trust me she'll be back if things go wrong which we hope won't. Cheer up, you said she was a good girl! Good luck miss.

Answer 3

My brother is a freshman at an out-of-state college, and he is doing just fine. Yes he isn't an only child, but I am younger than him and in high school still. But my mom thought he wasn't going to fit in, but he has made so many friends on the baseball team and every time I talk to him he is doing something with someone like playing Xbox 360 or studying with a team-mate. Of course he had a girl-friend in the beginning of the first semester and that was not the best idea since she still lived in Florida and he was in Georgia, and every time he talked to her she brought him down and made him feel guilty that he was there and she was here. But he finally got rid of that little *****, so now he is enjoying the college life. But safely he doesn't party or do any wrong stuff like drugs or alcohol. So she'll do just fine.

Answer 4

It sounds like a typical mother-daughter "thing". We all have that feeling. If you know she is a good student and a great "young lady", then you really don't have much to worry about. EASIER SAID THAN DONE, huh???? You know her best. You need to tell her about being sensible, responsible, knowing where to go and NOT to go. If she's living on campus, do you (or she) know her roommate/s?
Does she have a phone? Is it a safe area? You are far more likely to be nervous and concerned FOR her. We all have a natural instinct to protect our children, that's all you are trying to do. Sit down and have a big heart-to-heart talk (w/Kleenex) and I'm sure BOTH of you will be just fine.
Good Luck to both. God Bless
Kimberly D.

Answer 5

be firm but fair about what you expect of her when she goes to college. tell her that you want her to have a good time and to enjoy new experiences but to keep up with her schoolwork. tell her poor grades will NOT be tolerated but that you don't nec. expect all A's, either. You just don't want her to jack off like a lot of first year college students who get in trouble with grades. if you'll be giving her money, then you always know how to hold the purse strings. other than love, you'll always have that influence over her!

but, yes, at the end of the day, it's up to her. she's a free bird now.

Answer 6

It sounds like you have a pretty balanced child...being a college sophomore, I know what it's like to be on your own without Mom or Dad telling you what to do on a daily basis. Believe me, she may experiment with a variety of social activities common to college students *cough, cough* but try to assume that her better judgement will be used in more extreme situations...

Answer 7

Well, there's really nothing you can tell her. She's going to what she wants when she gets on her own, no matter what you say. Just tell her you love her, and to be careful. If she drinks, tell her not to leave her drink unguarded. Tell her not to let anyone but another woman take her back to the dorm if she's intoxicated, otherwise she could end up as the evenings "entertainment" at some horny frat house. Tell her to focus on her studies, NOT partying!

Answer 8

i theory you have been in basic terms 20??? meaning better than probably you haven't any longer graduated from college yet except that is with a 2 twelve months degree and honey, hate to interrupt it to you yet you may no longer get into regulation college with a 2 twelve months degree... yet permit's purely say for arguments sake which you're no longer trolling... i'd be truly disillusioned in case you have been my daughter simply by fact it style of looks such as you're extremely immature and are not even on the factor of being waiting for a baby... they are no longer dolls. no longer some thing lovable and candy which you get to gown up and play with and then placed away once you're finished. a baby is amazingly some paintings. Getting up in any respect hours of the evening, the two gaining wisdom of the thank you to breastfeed (that's hard) or bobbing up with money to pay for formula (that's truly high priced) changing diapers, getting puked on, pooped on and peed on. no longer getting any gratitude for the failings you do as infants tend to be a tad bit narcissitic. i like my infants... yet i'm additionally mature sufficient to preserve them. in case you would be a youthful mom (which i became with my first, i became 20) then you prefer an astonishing help equipment, in case you haven't any longer have been given one that is going to likely be hard. Why would you opt for that??? i like looking after my infants... i like each messy 2nd of it yet that does no longer advise that that is exciting. you truly need to parent this sh** out as we are all bored with you getting on right here and occurring and on related to the style you prefer a baby and the thank you to help a baby etc... families the place there are 2 mom and dad sometimes conflict... single mothers extremely some situations conflict plenty. Why interior the worldwide would you opt for to circulate with the aid of that or placed your toddler with the aid of that? no longer that i'm announcing that single mothers are undesirable mom and dad are something simply by fact maximum single mothers are mind-blowing mothers and circulate above and previous what's mandatory... yet ask anybody of them and that they are going to inform you procedures complicated this is!

Answer 9

Not your choice, your daughter is a grown woman. Tell her to keep in touch and you'll be there if she needs to talk etc.

Answer 10

Teach her how to cook, clean, wash clothes,etc.Tell her to follow her dreams wishes and desires and live the way she wants to live.Tell her that she is the person she should believe in most.