He is 53 and not married, I am 35 and thinking about a devorice. He is also my sons best friends great uncle.
2007-02-10 23:18:05 · 15 answers · asked by jodi s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At your age not at all. If you were still in your teen years then I would be a little more weary.
But I would wait until after you settle things about your current husband. Have you worked on your marriage but can't seem to fix it? Is this older man just offering you a means of escape from an unhappy situation - or do you really love him?
You mention you have kids - make sure you keep them first in your mind. Think of what an affair would do to your family. Also, make sure divorce is really your best option - since that should be a last resort.
But - all that aside - larger age gaps between older couples are common. They are nothing to be scared of, and shouldn't be a factor in the relationship. In the teen years and early 20's - yes 18 years is a big difference and I would be wondering why the older party would be interested. But at the age of 35 - not at all.
2007-02-11 01:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jodi, again I'm in a dilemma. I would love to point out that women of the same age are usually more mature than men, so it makes sense for a woman to seek a relationship with a much older guy to equal out the maturity or to make sure he is more mature, but, again the gun has been jumped here. You are not divorced so you shouldn't even be considering messing around. I don't care if there is no way to save the marriage. Your actions put you at the cheating end of the relationship and that means you lose!
2007-02-11 07:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say "no" but, that's a but, if there's a choice, I'd take it.
I'm 68 and look 55, I had a young cashier after me for the longest time. I and my wife ignore her station for the embarrassment she brought. She didn't hide it one bit. Finally I faced her off, with my wife there. She admitted she liked older men. She was 18. We're friends now that the laundry is out to dry and we understand each other. I did tell her to keep her sights a Little younger, like a few years, I think she was looking for a father figure.
2007-02-11 07:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to be attracted to someone older than you. Forget what other people think is 'right' or 'normal'.
But, if you are married, and are thinking of a divorce just to be with this 53 year old - I highly highly advise you to think twice. If you are married and are attracted to someone else, THAT is wrong: look away! Marriages are not meant to be 'oh this isn't working anymore and I don't love my husband anymore and this other guy is so wonderful so wonderful i want to be with this other guy forever and i love him so much and the kids love him and he loves the kids and we are gonna be just so happy' - NO NO NO!!!
Marriages were never meant to be easy. They are hard. And if you leave your husband for this guy, its gonna be ten times harder on yourself and everyone involved.
BUT, in the end, you gotta make that decision.
2007-02-11 08:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sparky_3150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have no control over who we are attracted to. We only control our actions. If you are unhappy enough in your current relationship to consider a divorce, focus on that and take no action until this critical life situation has been resolved. Good Luck.
2007-02-11 07:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by jax0817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age really doesn't matter in my eyes. All that matters is if you both love each other. Yes you will have those that don't agree with the path you have chosen, but who cares. As long as you're happy with your choice, nothing else matters.
2007-02-11 07:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry just sit back and chill love the person whom u like but be sure its love and not infatuation and abt age forget its the barrier our society had made .and if u thnk u ll be all rite in this relationship thn go ahead and show this society their faults.best of luck and have faith on us.
2007-02-11 07:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by sohini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At those ages? Good for you! Just hope you can make it long term. I wish you Love & Peace! Happy Valentines, Day!
2007-02-11 07:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a little messy to get into. Love is in the eye of the beholder.
2007-02-11 07:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as it's adults age does not matter. It only matters if one is a minor.
2007-02-11 16:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋