we just got married. he calls her every day and some days more then once and says he's calling about their kids but i know better am i being played as a fool. he cheated on her but he's told me he still loves her should i get a divorce since we just got married a few months ago? he's not talking to his kids his oldest son can't stand him and his youngest son is using him to get whatever he wants. for christmas i got two slaps in the face and he says it's my fault just because i found out that he told his ex that he stills loves her. what should i do?
2007-02-10 22:38:20 · 18 answers · asked by texasunshine56 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See an attorney tomorrow and get the divorce process started immediately. This jerk is just using you for sex and company. Time to move on and find a real man instead of this loser.
2007-02-10 22:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get to feel how you feel. However, that was about the stupidest question I've ever heard a woman ask her husband during a conversation about ex lovers. Especially since you've decided to be deeply offended by his answer! Look... some women are sex machines, some women believe that putting themselves in the role of sex kitten/temptress/slave whatever is their highest achievement. He had a brief fling with one of those sorts of women. Moved on either the second he met you or moments before and has never looked back. Because you are the Bees Knees for him. You are it. So.. well.. you asked, he answered.... and it changes nothing. Nothing! Except your ego. Which is fine, you'll recuperate when you regain your senses and, if you are smart, life will go on happier than ever. Work on that.
2016-03-29 01:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it make you feel good when he's on the phone talking to his x? No of course not. The fact that he is calling her 2 times a day should tell you the way he really feels. Or maybe he has no feelings, I think that he has it real good there with you and that he just wants something he cant have...and the fact that he slapped you in the face is a big hint that the man doesn't care for you he has alot of emotional problems and you should feel lucky that you have found this out early in your marriage instead of having babies with him...just think how lucky you are not to be the x...I mean she is the x and hasn't learned her lesson yet? I wouldnt even listen to his crap.....so dont be her divorce this piece of **** and go find your prince charming and don't ever look back....good luck...Angel
2007-02-10 23:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he reckons shes the best thing thats ever happened to him Id say she can have him. Walk away from this situtation, you can do a lot better than him thats for sure. He will end up with neither of you anyway which is what he deserves. He can go and find some other sucker. Get out of this marriage now, how can it work - you are being treated like dirt.
2007-02-10 22:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce ASAP! There is no excuse for him slapping you. That is not a real man! If he still loves his ex, then send him back to his ex. You need someone that deserves you, not a jerk that slaps you and is still thinking about his ex! He doesn't deserve you. Go out there and find someone who does!
2007-02-10 22:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by Dana R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. Start the divorce going. This guy is a jerk. Then get yourself some help since you were fooled by this guy. Good luck.
2007-02-10 23:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The slaps in the face were your ticket to RUN and don't stop running until you never see this jerk again. Once they hit you and you don't do anything about it.....well, that is an invitation to hit you again.
Please, get gone from there.
2007-02-10 23:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by missellie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually I don't agree with everybody else and come up with some "man-friendly" answer but this time, you need to get the f*** out of this thing you call a marriage.
2007-02-10 23:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by jax0817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boo, LEAVE!!!!!!!!!! He doesn't love you. It sounds like he was looking for someone to keep the bed warm and that's it. But aside from that he committed the ultimate wrong! He hit you.
There is no room in a relationship for one spouse to hit the other; no matter what the reason.
2007-02-10 22:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by codereaper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After you have changed the locks on your house doors,... while you are on your way to a divorce lawyers office, drop all his crap off at her doorstep.
Then get a restraining order out against him and take him for every cent you can squueze out of him.
If you don't you are a fool.
2007-02-10 22:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by Dawn Davenport 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋