There's a doubt about a girlfriend i've been with for several years, in a long distance relationship. Recently I went to visit her, and we made love, and it was a godo experience. I assumed she was virgin because she said so, and because it was hard to get in the first time, and she bled after we did. There was a problem because she had another friend stay with her abotu a year or so before i came to visit her, and everyone beleives she's slept with him. She even had condoms that he had, but she swears to me that she never used it with him, and that I was her first. It's a problem with me not so much that she might not have been a virgin but the fact that she coudl be decieving me and cheated since we've been in a relation for several years. Is there any way possible to know if a woman is virgin or not?
2007-02-10 22:37:43 · 9 answers · asked by Dan M 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Actually YES I was a virgin, that's why it's important to me.. She was my first, and i woudl hope the only one, since i do love her so much, but it's very hard situation to be in, and trust.
2007-02-10 22:47:56 · update #1
Hmm. Okay, it's not my intention to dash your hopes, so please don't think I'm dropping a bomb on your view of this situation.
In my personal case, the first time I had sex, I didn't bleed at all. Not a drop. I'm assuming it was because my partner was gentle, and since I wasn't all that nervous, I was properly stimulated (and lubricated) beforehand, thus reducing any unnecessary friction.
The second time I had sex, however, was rough and kind of done when he was feeling frisky, but I wasn't. I bled like hell. And it hurt a lot.
So I am a living testament to the fact that a woman may not bleed the first time around.
Now that I've put that out there, I'd say that you should probably talk your issues and insecurities over with your girlfriend. Don't flat-out accuse her of lying and cheating, but explain to her that this particular issue is important to you. But really, I'm not quite sure why you're having these doubts to begin with. It sounds like you're really paranoid over it.
And as for your question, to tell you the truth, there is no surefire way to know if a woman's a virgin or not. Sure, 9 times out of 10, it'll be obvious. You'll know a seasoned veteran from an amateur due to demeanor, behavior, skill, confidence, etc. while she's having sex with you. But sometimes, it's difficult. All I can say is that most of the time, it's the actions, not the physical aftermath that will tell you the most.
But really, I think you should just believe what your girlfriend has told you about being a virgin. Look at it this way. If she *did* have sex with that other guy but didn't want you to know or think about it, why would she even tell you about the condoms he had in the first place? If she wanted to hide something, she would've concealed the fact that any of that had happened altogether.
Have a little trust in your girlfriend, pal. If you've been dating for years, then you should know her well enough by now to know how she operates and if she's trustworthy or not. But like I said, communication is the key, so talk to her about your concerns if this is really eating away at you inside.
2007-02-10 23:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Beverly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certain it i plausible no longer to bleed or experience soreness. at the same time as a lady is born the vaginal commencing is roofed through a layer of tissue suggested as the hymen. This starts to break down gradually at the same time as a lady grows up. If it did not initiate to break down gradually a lady does no longer have a hollow to in which menstrual fluid ought to bypass. maximum women folk's hymens are damaged in the previous they have sex exceptionally in the adventure that they do lots of workout exceptionally motorcycle driving or horseriding. (it is how the beginning of the myth that you'll lose your virginity driving a bike) from time to time it has no longer damaged - exceptionally no matter if it is amazingly thick and if this occurs throughout the time of sex this may reason bleeding. Now in words of soreness - the first time that women folk have sex may reason no soreness, gentle soreness or soreness. It relies upon on: how comfortable the female is, how lubricated she is, how a lot foreplay she has had How tremendous the penis is, how comfortable the guy is. what position is used. So in short the quantity of soreness and blood can not be used as a hallmark of virginity.
2016-12-04 01:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by kobielnik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first time it will bleed. You have the pop the "cherry." She will bleed. But then also even the second time the vagina is not streched enough and there can be a little bleeding. Just know hat if you love her that even though you don't know if you were her first or not. That the people that she was with before you is none of you business. I mean that you need to realize that you have to make sure you don't get worried about her. She is with you now!
2007-02-10 23:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was definately a virgin when u had sex with her you busted her cherrie so she blead dont humilate this girl by takeing her virginity away and makeing her feel like crap she had to have very strong feelings for u for giveing her body to u .you will never have a good relationship with a girl as long as u keep listing to other people that like to run their mouths and start trouble the comdoms belong to the guy he thought he would get your virgin first ..but it never happened if u never have SEX with this girl again i think u still owe her an apoligy after all u got what u wanted didn/t u always respect one another and tell people to stay out of your lives good luck
2007-02-10 22:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A solid relationship is built on trust, even more important in long distance relationship. From what you described, it sounded like she is. However, her past does not represent her present, nor her future. So as everyone else. If you still cannot trust her for what she is telling you, the chances for this relationship to last is very slim. If she found out that you discuss your "sex life" here, wouldn't she feels mad? is this fair for her?
2007-02-10 23:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by Hui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust her when she tells you that she hasn't cheated on you. If all you have stated above happened during the love making process, then I would think she was telling the truth.
2007-02-10 22:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the signs and indications are there that she was a virgin for you,...
it is rare if not impossible to bleed a virgins blood the second time.
2007-02-10 22:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by iroc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She said she was a virgin, and you were her first. Believe her and get over yourself. Were YOU a virgin? My guess is no, so shut up.
2007-02-10 22:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely she was a virgin before you made it out with her so don't be so doubtful
2007-02-10 22:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋