It's just i'm feeling so empty right now and part of me tells me to forget about him but the other part says to keep him close what can i do:(
2007-02-10 22:29:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just after my divorce, I spent Valentine's Day alone. I hate this holiday because I feel it sets people up to fail and causes depression for those who had a long relationship end. I got some chinese take out and watched a movie by myself and went to bed early ... just to be woken up by my neighbors upstairs have sex! I remember saying outloud, "Are you kidding me?"
I started really missing my ex and even went and got in the car to drive over to see her and see if we could patch things up ... but I remember what my friend told me - we divorced for a reason and she might take you back, but after awhile you will remember why you split and you will want out of the relationship.
Unfortunately, you need to go through some darkness before you can be in the light again. Learn more about yourself so you don't repeat the same mistakes with your next relationship.
Good luck.
2007-02-10 23:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in such situations is to surround yourself with friends and people who care about you. Get yourself involved in all sort of activities to get your mind of your ex. Try going out more with your friends, go to some sports classes like dancing, karate (not only you get to meet new people, but you'll also get in shape and sports release endorphins that make you happy). You can also try to rediscover your old hobbies and occupations before you got together with him. Read more, go out with your friends, engage in sports and other activities... Best way to get over and move on is to keep your mind off your ex and think of yourself more. As for valentine's day, just get your friends together (the single ones) and go out or have a small party. Is it a rule to have someone by in this pink period? No way! Go out, you can feel good without your ex!
2007-02-10 22:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Dana R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have anyone either, so I know you feel. All the commercials on television, everyone at work talking about what they are going to do on Valentines Day, it makes us single people feel left out. What you need to focus on is not what you don't have right now, but what you do have. You have the opportunity to meet someone who treats you right, has the same feelings for you as you do for him. Now you can be selective. I'm hanging out with one of my friends on Valentine's Day, don't be home alone, go hang out with the girls or a guy friend. I have to believe there is someone out there for you, just don't give up.
2007-02-10 22:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...go get a massage and a facial. You don't need a man to make you happy or to validate who you are. You may miss him but there is a reason he is your ex. You need to read the books he's just not that into you and it is called a breakup because it is broken. Don't let your life revolve around a man. Many of us have done that one too many times. Go out there and live your life!
2007-02-10 22:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by eyesbluehappy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear lady sorry to hear all this but you are a woman and so all the more stronger.
I think the best thing is to for once and for all analyse what went wrong and what can be learnt from it for future and then snap your fingers,cross your legs in mini skirts and show your cleavage and sleep with the next guy you think has the sufficent inches on his member.
2007-02-10 22:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he can't respect you? Then he ain't for you. If he can't treat you, like the Princess, that you are? He ain't worth remembering. If he is anything but the best thing in your Life? He's history. Show us all how Besutiful you really are. Give us a smile. Remember to pay it forward! It'll make Valentines Day,so much more fun! Happy Valentines, to you!
2007-02-10 22:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be good to yourself. On V-dy, treat yourself to something and have a day spending time doing what you like to do! Don't worry about having a boyfriend - I'm sure you are wonderful solo aswell!
2007-02-10 22:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh, i undertand your feelings totally, i am undergoing the same situation almost, but i think you need keep yourself as busy as you can, specially at ocasions as valentines......go out and keep shoping, go to your friends there, try new things at home, new dicoration for your room, a new recepi, and every other stuff that can keep your head busy......try meeting new people; however dont loose hope either, if he really feels the same for you, he will get back to you himself, and if he did not get back to you then might your relation never meant to him anything, niether you or your feelings....just give it up and bring a new start into your life....
2007-02-10 22:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. i am also so depressed that i cant cry. my lover dumped me and i am so lonrly. so i have come up with a plan. i will celebrate v day with my kids and my mom. it sounds pathetic but atleast someone will love me back . my kids and my mom love me unconditionally. so until my love has come back to me. i will give my love to the people who desere the most.you can do the same.
2007-02-10 22:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get up, go out and find somebody. You must make the choice to be happy, then act on it.
2007-02-10 23:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋