In time she will realize.
2007-02-10 22:12:18
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answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7
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First of all, ask yourself a few questions like, "Why did she do this?""How am I involved in the situation?" "Did my rules cause her to rebel and go get pregnant?" These questions may prompt you to dig deep into why she chose that path. Then try asking her the questions. After she answers, try to think. Then softly, speak your views about the situation. Don't go bursting on her, because that will make her feel more rebellious. It might even diminish her self-esteem, adding to the burden of the pregnancy and abortion. Call the boy and ask him to come over and have a talk. You should be doing this in a level-headed, open minded manner. Do not ever make the guy nervous as this will make him feel more guilty. The three of you talk and you should point out that they have made a venial sin and because of the abortion, the girl has commited both a mortal and venial sin. But take note that you were part of the abortion process since you gave her that suggestion when you could have told her that "It's okay, you can birth the child, but we're gonna have to find a home for that kid, because I'm not up to raising grandkids." You should not have said the whole abortion or move out of my house thing, because either way, she loses. She feels degraded. Now talk to her, say sorry for what you said, you know that you cannot change what has already happened, and together[you three] go to the nearest parish and talk with a pastor to clear you three of your sins. That is on my view. Ask if it really is love. If it is, then do this: let them live as they would if it didn't happen, except dates should happen in your household. Do not snoop while they date, or if inevitable, go be their waitress or butler for the day. Make it sort of a family thing. But if they are not sure of their feelings, limit their seeings in school only and on times when the guy asks permission from you. All in all, good luck in resolving the situation!
2007-02-11 06:17:45
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answered by Chardi 1
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She is 15 - do you recall being rational or making good decisions at 15?
First I would get her on some birth control so she doesn't end up pregnant again.
Second - no 15 year old boy has a job, other than McDonald's and you cant really support a family on that.
If she thinks she loves this kid there is nothing you can do, she can see him at school easily enough. Even if she does dump him do you think the next boy she finds will be a trump, not likely.
Just try and talk to her about her behaviors and leave the boy out of it, the more she thinks you hate him the more she will profess to loving him.
2007-02-11 08:03:38
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answered by jillmarie2000 5
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You have to remember that this boy is 15 years old. How mature do you expect him to be? I remember at 15 my brother was a 'little bum' to. But you also have to remember how he grew up..is it really his fault he grew up this way? Maybe there is a chance that he can change? You have to remember your daughter and her boyfriend are both still pretty young and immature. I dont even think my bro started working till he was like 17!!! And you have to remember..its not your choice of whether she should have a child or not. She has to live with that consequence of that abortion (not like im against abortions, im not) Im just against the fact of a mom pressuring her daughter to have an abortion! If my daughter at the age of 15 came home and told me she was preg i would also be FURIOUS but i would not give her ultimatums on how to run her life..even tho she is only 15. If you really look at the picture..do you think she is rebelling? Do you think she is doing these things to get back at you for something? I dunno...good luck with everything
2007-02-11 11:21:39
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answered by Kristin S 2
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To a 15 year old she WAS in love. WE are in love at any age. That type of love changed over the years but it is STILL LOVE>
Like someone else said on her what kind of job should a 15 year old boy have.?
I am sorry you told her daughter either to have an abortion or she had to leave. I am very pro choice but I would not feel comfortable saying that to my daughter when she was 15 and pregant.
The reason your daughter dates a guy that you dont like it just that YOU DONT LIKE HIM.. and that to a teenager is the best turn on in a guy ever. !!
Trust me, NOTHING YOU DO WILL CHANGE IT.
Good Luck
2007-02-11 07:40:26
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answered by LadyCatherine 7
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The more you push her to get rid of her boyfriend the more she will want to stay with him. Teenagers will rebel against their parents. You should not make her choice between abortion or moving out..that was kinda wrong. But shes 15...you should not of let them be alone to have the time to have sex and then she would not of got pregnant. Maybe you should talk to her about protecting herself against this happening again. And her bf is 15...what kind of job would he get? I do think the less you say about the bf to your daughter your chances are better of them breaking up...because she may just stay with him because she knows you dont like it.
2007-02-11 06:52:28
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answered by MB 3
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Hmm...I agree with some of the others he is 15.. he can't have that good of a job, they can't even really start working in sc til 16....but as far as her he probably just say the right things to her to make her feel loved, even though the parents can show that the child is loved, being with someone else is in another category... now that you know they are having sex I hope you have her on birth control and is making sure that she is taking it, also she will eventually get tired of him and it will phase out, we all have messed with losers in life, we live and learn.
2007-02-11 08:36:37
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answered by diagurl02 1
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Well, first of all, you can be very happy, because she wanted to get an abortion, usually, they become a teenage mum.
About the guy. Is very very normal, I am not from the states but where I live I see that all the time, all the girls go just with loosers, and there is nothing you can do. That happens all over. I do not believe in god, but the only thing you can do, is pray pray and pray. Girls now are the boss and they will do whatever they want when they want it, and there is absolutely nothing or nobody that can sove that. If you ever find a solution please tell me
2007-02-11 06:01:56
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answered by www.tr-avel.com 3
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Here lies the problem, you don't like the guy for what ever reason.
She being 15 is going to hang on to him just to tick you off.
Try this, say not a negative thing about him, keep your mouth shut about him, this is not going to be easy, you have to make yourself do it.
You will see a difference in her, the thrill of being with him will fade.
Also you need to get her on the pill or shot, so she will not get pregnant again, she will feel the pains of losing that child and get pregnant again.
Hope this helps.
2007-02-11 07:52:20
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answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5
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Well I know it tough but first of all I don't think you should judge him maybe he does love your daughter I am not sure because of course I don't know him. I think you should try to get to know him, yes I know it may be tough but you have to know who your daughter is with and how she will be treated. Also the more you try to get rid of him it won't work because that is the way life is. Life is unfair. Just try to take things easy, I know she is your daughter and you want what is best for her. But you never know that lazy bum may be you daughter's happiness.
2007-02-11 13:04:40
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answered by Yasmin 2
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He's 15. What kind of job do you expect him to have? You're calling this guy a bum but doesn't it take two? I'm sure your daughter played part in getting pregnant and having an abortion.
2007-02-11 05:47:56
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answered by Anonymous
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