The preacher's wife and her sister gossip about everyone. They think it's wrong for women to wear slacks to church. They said this during a bible study class held at the church and they were both wearing slacks. The preacher's daugher is the most hateful person I know. A couple disagreed with what the preacher said one time. When they missed church, the preacher bashed them and called them cry babies. Money was raised to build a parking lot, the money came in and to this day not another word has been mentioned about the parking lot. I don't like that church and I told my wife I will not go there anymore. She's upset and thinks that I am in the wrong. What would you say to your spouse if this happened to you?
2007-02-10 20:51:07 · 11 answers · asked by and_there_you_have_it 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would tell my spouse I'm not going back to that church period and if she has a problem with that then get on the phone and get that preacher and his wife over her now. And tell them to be prepared to show me in the bible where it says people should gossip and the preacher should bash and call other people names, etc.
2007-02-11 01:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have got involved in some whacky church, and they do exist. I feel sorry for you and maybe it would be good if you and your wife could go to another church that would keep both of you happy then. Most churches are the same, just the traditions are a bit different.
2007-02-10 20:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you. If it was me, I would not attend that church either. Maybe you should bring your wife out for a nice dinner date some time and tell her how you feel abt attending church with her though not necessarily this one, and see if she will be open to visiting a few churches. If you explain your views to her and be patient, given time... she will see your integrity in the matter. Good luck.
2007-02-10 21:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset if my spouse didn't support me and understand my discomfort with the situation. Perhaps she needs further explanation?
Your experience is the reason I do not attend church - I tried out all kinds, but they all seem to be the same.
Maybe you'll get lucky and find one that isn't this way. Suggest to your wife that you try a different church from time to time, but that you do not intend to return to this one.
In time, she may start to see the same things...or she may not. It's wrong for her to expect you to continue attending with her, and it would be wrong for you to expect her to stop attending. She needs to reach her own conclusions about the church herself, but she should also respect that your experience is valid.
2007-02-10 21:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has chosen not to hear you, there really isnt much you can say! Refuse to go unless she changes churches. If these are really your only reasons for not going, she should be sticking beside you. Church is Church does it really matter which one you go to as long as its the right faith/religion? She should not have an issue, at least your prepared to go. If I went to church and my partner brought this to my attention I would happily change churches, even if it was to save face. She'll get over it.
2007-02-10 21:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important to attend church, but yes, I would choose one where the preacher and his family live an upright life, don't gossip and use money for its intended purpose, etc.
2007-02-10 20:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that you do not feel comfortable going to that church and that if she wants to attend church there that is fine, but you will not go with her. She is entitiled to be upset, but you are entitled to attend or not attend any church you want.
I was married for 7 years to a man who did not share my religious beliefs, but I went to church every week without him and I never tried to force him to go with me or anything. The invitation was always there, but I never pushed the issue. I am just starting to go back to church again and again I am with a man who doesn't think it is necessary to go to church and he thinks people who attend church services are hipocrites. But, I just go and don't worry about him, so tell your wife that she can be mad at you all she wants, you are not going and that she can go and that is that, eventually she will get over being mad and things will get back to normal.
2007-02-10 21:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by hargonagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you....................... tell your wife you are going to find a real church and if she wants to join you that would be great, if not you hope she see's what is really going on in her church, I am assuming you have told her all the things that you have observed in her church. Good Luck and God is with you.....................
2007-02-10 21:01:41 · answer #8 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray she will see the light (only God can fix this). Let God do the work. Try not to fight with her about it either. Be loving and not judgemental. People gotta get tired of stuff on their own.
2007-02-11 05:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
find a good church..then ask her to go to church with you...that is what my brother did...
2007-02-10 20:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by polarbridge 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋