Who is SHY???????

Question

Does any one agree with me that there is no such thing as shy! Just people who chose not to bother speaking to you??? and hide behind the fact that they are 'shy'

CRAP!!!!! It is just RUDE!!!!!! There is no such thing as shy - Ignorant and rude!!!

What does it take to say Hi, to a welcoming smily person???

I have said hello to people in the past and they just sit there!!! After feeling quite upset by tghe rudness, a mutual friends would point out they are shy????? WHAT????

RUDE!!! thats what they are!!!!

I'm not slagging 'shy' people off, just don't understand????

Answer 1

some might be rude, but some really do find it difficult to find the courage and self-confidence to talk to new people

Answer 2

Do you really think that? You might want to read about personality types. There is such a thing as shy or introverted. We had to take the test at work and there was a small percentage (about two or three out of a few hundred people) that fit into a certain shy category. I don't think you should take it personally or anything. You said you aren't slagging them, but just before you wrote RUDE!!! Some people also have what is called social anxiety. Ever heard of that? There are a lot of drugs out for it now, so if you think about it it all adds up. What did you hope to accomplish with your post? A new level of understanding? There's also the HUGE possibility that if you act as aggressive as you've just acted, you're incredibly frightening to a shy person. By the way, you need to chill.

Answer 3

I come from a shy family, but most of us have overcome it so we are able to socialize. However my Brother who went to live with his Dad is extremely shy to the point of rudeness. He is very difficult to have a conversation with and we are his family! He does not chose to be this way he has just never been taught any different. I know he would love to have a girlfriend etc (he is 23) but he just doesn't know how to speak to people.

You should not get angry with these people they cannot help it and are probably desperately unhappy and your reaction to it will only enforce their issues. If I was you I would say hello and if they do not respond speak to someone else. Make sure you always acknowledge them and that may build up their confidence to speak to you.

Answer 4

I've battled shyness my entire life. I don't mean my response to be taken in an offensive way, but your comments just show ignorance to those who truly struggle with shyness. To individuals who have never dealt with feeling shy, they will never understand the torment a shy person goes through inside.

I would suggest you research some psychological references to truly understand what goes on through a shy person's mind. I've read quite a few self-help books to not only udnerstand what goes on when I get shy, but to also overcome it.

Most shy people are inhibited by an overwhelming feeling of fear, inferiority and self-consciousness. It's a lot more than simply "just saying hi" -- it's like a wall comes down and even though you WANT to say hi, something overcomes you and you just get tongue-tied, scared and verbally paralyzed. Then you criticize yourself because you couldn't move past the shyness. It's a debilitating struggle - yes a struggle and battle. And most of the time, the shyness wins....unfortunately.

If you're patient with someone who is shy, don't criticize them, and simply talk to them, they will warm up to you in their own time. People who are shy are scared about how others will react to them. Just open your heart to them, and in time, they will open up to you. But it truly takes patience, compassion and understanding. If you take the time, you'll watch a shy person blossom slowly in front of you.

Answer 5

I dont agree in the least i would not have the courage to approach someone. I consider myself to be shy as i have low self esteem but i am also not rude it makes my day when some-one takes the time to say hello and always return with hello and a smile.

Answer 6

Whether you like it or not, there are really people who are "SHY" and for sure they dont like that shy attitude either as much as you do, but still, they dont have the courage and confidence and guts to stand up, speak up and express what they think and feel.
You just have to approach them, if they're your friend, and encourage them to come out of their shell (because too much shyness is also a bad habit to break!).
One day they sure will.

Answer 7

Dont confuse ignorance and shyness as the same thing.
Ignorance isnt shyness, thats a voluntary disregard of whats right, shyness is an insecurity in social situations.
You can pretty much tell the difference in people if one is shy or ignorant.

Answer 8

HI!

I used to be shy until I suffered a stroke 4 years ago. I'm much more outgoing now. Sometimes, once I start talking, I can just carry on regardless of whether I'm conversing with a stranger or friend. Weird huh?

Answer 9

Its a whole confidence thing, shyness does exists and it can be uncontrollable in some people if some one says hello to then they can just go into a shell and seem rude even though they are not

Answer 10

I was "shy" growing up.

Its because my grandmother who raised me was agoraphobic, bipolar, and alcoholic who never left the house and said things like "the aliens are coming" or "don't stand in front of the window or you will get struck by lightning" I never really went anywhere till I was about 6.

I don't like to use the term shy, as I'm not necessarily scared of talking to people like most people seem to think. "socially retarded" is more appropriate, because i lack the skill to think of a way to start up a conversation, and the social standards aren't as ingrained into me as they are in "normal" people.

Maybe you need to be a little more understanding? There are lots of psychological and cultural reasons why some people are more reserved. You shouldn't let it get to you so much. I didn't let it get to me when I was teased for being shy.

Answer 11

I feel like Shyness is people that want others to make the first move. They want to slowly start knowing a person. Maybe the truth the people you conforted don't want to know you. It isn't your fault it maybe just how they feel. Don't worry about why people feel the way they feel. Just keep on being yourself. Hope fully the next person you smile to will smile back.