I am feeling SOOOOOOOOOOOOO low right now, i don't want to face my friends just yet, as it turns out they were right about him all along..........please cheer me up, give me getting over an ex advice anything! PLEASE!
2007-02-10 20:33:03 · 34 answers · asked by CHARISMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-11 06:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Gar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I feel so sorry for you as i know from experience the emotions you are going through right now. Any of your friends who say "I told you so" are not worth having, the decision to marry him was up to you and you went with your heart. You will go through various emotions, feeling low, feeling angry, and yes at times feeling happy, just take it day by day dont try and run before you can walk. I know that these feelings you are having now will pass, slowly you will come to terms with what has happened and i assure you, you will get over it. I had been married for 25 years when my husband left me for a much younger woman. I love my life now and i am happier. You sound like a young woman so you will most probably find love again but this time you will go into it with both eyes open. Dont forget take things slowly and GOOD LUCK to you Live your life to the full, and be HAPPY xxx
2007-02-10 21:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for you. I have been divorced twice so i know how you feel right now. Your friends will give you the comfort you need, and you WILL get over this eventually. Hard i know, but try and look at it as a blessing in disguise. Have you read Who Moved My Cheese? Its only a little book and well worth reading to help you move on..... well loads of good self help books out there. Once you start telling people, it all becomes more real - then you can start the healing process. Good luck.
2007-02-10 20:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really really loved your ex then it is difficult to forget him. In my experience you need to meet another man ( in my case a woman) who will love and cherish you. Don't feel low as the future may hold a lot of happiness, yours isn't the first marriage to break up and there has been quite a few second marriages that's been a lot happier than the first. As soon as you are over the worse get yourself ready and get out there, there are a lot of people in the same boat looking for a partner.
Hope this is of some help and the best of luck with your future
Face your friends they can help and support you a lot.
2007-02-10 21:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by cassidy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my angel, I feel so sorry for you. The devastation and the betrayal are more than one can bear. I can imagine what you feel inside. Turn to GOd. He is the greatest healer you can find. He loves you no matter what - literally, warts and all. He accepts you and appreciates you. He made you for his purpose and plans and wants to care for you, if you will let him. Change nothing he will in time change what needs changing. Pour out your heart to him. Keep a journal of all your prayers and ask him to reply and listen for his voice. You will hear it in time.
Seek counselling from a church and allow Gods Grace and Mercy to wash over you. Reach deep into the heavenly realms for faith and trust God with your life. Become accountable to self and find your purpose and run with it.
It does get better.
DOnt bad mouth the man, simply walk in integrity and dignity and let him go. He hasnt done you any good. Read the book LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr Emerson Eggerichs to prepare you for a future partner and learn from the mistakes you made in your marriage. Dont make silent oaths, just let it all go. It is a painful choice but in some cases it is necessary!
GOd is a healer and he will heal you and restore you. God bless you.
2007-02-10 20:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well think ,now you got a new start in life ,you can do those things that was not possible to do in marriage ,
you got a chance to make the right decision with your new men friend be fore marriage,,live a little for your self ,, and think that you are out of a marriage that would have caused you a lot of heart ache ,,good luck
2007-02-10 20:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, I am a 60 years old guy and I got married in 1972. I was never happy in my marriage but could not leave her due to culture, traditions of our country and also family compulsions. Then I got kids, 3 in all. They were products not of love but of animal instinct. I could ultimately get separation after 32 years of marriage when my all kids got settled on their own. You can imagine at my age now, how will I get a partner in life?
You appear to be much younger and you have a full life ahead of you. So cheer up and dont get disheartened. Have trust and faith in yourself and in god.
2007-02-10 20:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriages can happen many times. True love happens only once.It is a mistake when you are with a wrong person. This could be the beginning of your new life.Look forward. Think of a person standing in front of you saying " I always wanted to tell you that I love you. But you never looked at me". Remember that love is more enjoyed when given. You will feel more happier with a person who loves you than with a person whom you love. Be positive. the day is not far when you will meet the right person.And from then on, you will laugh thinking about your questions in yahoo.....
2007-02-10 20:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by creative 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry sweetie, it's tough... I've been there. Hopefully there are no kids between you...that will make for an easier break. I have found being happy is the best revenge! My ex is now in a loveless marriage he's miserable, he told me so himself...he has also admitted that he wishes he had done things differently in our marriage. I am happily remarried to a great guy just the opposite of the first. Commit yourself to doing what's best for you.
2007-02-10 20:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by mormonot 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just think, you can now go and do the things YOU want to do. Dont dwell on the past, start thinking about all the things you can do as a single person. Think positively and start planning for your new future. You will be ok, and I wish you all the best.
2007-02-10 22:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, like all the women here said. You are now a liberated woman so go ahead and make sure you get plenty of different c0ck for the rest of your life.
And I hope you learned your lesson about marriage. Never repeat that mistake again.
2007-02-10 22:27:35 · answer #11 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋