I have a question about what you would do If you were me. My brother is 22 and has not always made the best choices in his life. He had a drug problem was in the hospital for it and about died but thank God he made it through it. Well my grandparents have always favored my brother. They buy him whatever he wants and do what he wants. He just recently got engaged...and my granparents bought the ring and he moved out of the state to live the girl and my grandparents are paying for everything and my bro does not work never has. If I ever ask for anything they never have the money for me...which I know they do. They criticize me all the time for things..such as going out with friends...they don't think I should. Well what would you do if this was your grandparents? I just want advice and no stupid answers. I have thought about talking to them about it but I know they won't listen to me about how i feel...So my question is what would you do?
2007-02-10 20:30:03 · 4 answers · asked by MB 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I live with my mom but i have a good relationship w/ both my parents. I just do love my grandparents and its not the money that bothers me..its just they always find something wrong w/ my decisions. I have never made the choices my brother has. I am going to college trying to make something of myself unike my brother..but still there is so much favortism shown..
2007-02-10 20:40:21 · update #1
Okay, Where are your parents?
Secondly, I think your grandparents have "killing with kindness" disease. Some people think that when someone is "a no hoper" they are actually just "down on their luck". Be proud that you can get on without their help. My father in law is the same. He helps my dead beat brother in law but if we asked for help he would laugh at us. Some people think that if you are making it on your own then you don't ever need help. Let your grandparents know how you feel when this situation arises and make sure you realise that this may never change and that they more than likely won't see what you are talking about. Good Luck
2007-02-10 20:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by dreamgypsy1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. The perdicament that you are in is favortism. They usually favor the older child no matter what they have done. This is because you have to realize that you brother made them grandparents and they were so happy went he was born and they will be happy that he is here for the rest of there lives or his. Just know that don't try to rely on your grandparent to give you money earn it yourself. It make you feel better. One thing they do that because they will always pick bad things to make you see this that they think will help you get you life successful. Not that they don't like the decision they just don't realize that you are not you brother and you don't let your friend over power your decisions. Good luck!
2007-02-11 06:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all be proud of what you are accomplishing.there is usually a 'favorite' but most are not as blatent about showing it as your grandparents.do what you have to but do not ask for help from them any more as you know the answer and if this issue comes up with you and them again tell them how they have showed fovortism and how they have made you feel then thank them for showing you how not to treat your children and walk away.just general idea but you get the drift.let this make you a stronger person and not bring you down.hope all works out for you
2007-02-11 07:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you want them to give you money the same as they do to your brother...well, i love my grandparents, and i think you should to.
2007-02-11 04:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋