Does it ever get better??

Question

After you have been divorced, do you think you truly ever let go on the man you were married to? Do you ever feel like your "old self" again ie (the person you were before the marriage) Do you ever really feel "normal" again?

Answer 1

yes i have been divorced before and actually the experience of marriage and divorce makes you stronger and better than you were before .just be careful and dont get into the same mess you were before with someone else ,.before making that commitment try thinking about the past and seeing if the samething could happen again.. if so stay single.

Answer 2

Depends on you. Mostly on your looks and financial situation. If you are well off and good looking, you will find another man, and will be ok. Not so soon, of course, you may need a couple of years to heal.
If you are ordinary looking, with an ordinary income, then, probably, not. Because he will go out and have flings with younger women, and marry again (never mind that he might be ugly and poor, I saw a lot of situations when ugly poor men were fought over by pretty well-to-do younger women, that is a double standard for you), then you will feel even worse. Especially if you stay living in the same area.
Things tend to go from better to worse, and never otherwise.
Sorry to hear about your situation and hope that you will see some changes soon.

Answer 3

well firstly normal seem to cover so much these days so i wouldn't even worry about that. secondly life is for nothing without change so you wouldn't be your "old self" even if this didn't happen. Lastly all you'll need now are some friends and some time, now i'm not a big believer in the saying "time heals all wounds" but it does help in putting some distance between you and how you're feeling right now

Answer 4

Of course it will get better.. if you look at it the right way.. dont look at divorce as a failure... look at it as a new start another chance a beggining... think of way back then when it was illegal to divorce women had to endure cheating beatings humiliation and could not leave because if they did.. their husband would track them down and kill them.. Oh yeah there were those times.. I bet those women would of give anything for a divorce back then... but back to your question is up to you.. in your mind you can make anything positive if you want. and divorce to me would be a great new clean way to start over my life.. good luck.

Answer 5

It is within your power to overcome your previous attachments to this man and get a grip of your "normal" life again. It takes strong will and confidence but eventually you will feel your old self again. Good luck.

Answer 6

I think the best way to feel "normal" again is to forgive the person. Forgive them to heal yourself, if that makes any sense? The rid of regrets, to bring closure and to look towards the future. There's no sense in dwelling in the past. It'll only make you sad.

Answer 7

No. It changes you. Sometimes for the better. Often not. You must go forward, what else is there?
It gets easier over time, to reflect with less emotion. Find your self-ness again. It will help.

Answer 8

No. but what is your normal? I was a different person after knowing my ex. I hated all women until i met someone i knew wasnt gonna try and run me down lol....it does get better, now you dont have to answer to a spouse who is controlling and bitchy..

Answer 9

You will feel normal again and also wiser. It takes some of us longer>me. Live your life and enjoy it and look for real love.

Answer 10

i would probably have to say no, i always think about my ex sure i wouldnt get back with her, no i don't feel the way i did before, i learned a lot from it, just have to find somebody else and bury thouse feelings, thats what i did..