love him to death. no desire. avoid the situation by going to bed late, no dressing sexy. heart and mind want- not the body though.
2007-02-10 19:09:56 · 22 answers · asked by KATHEYCARCRASHER 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
same here- if you find an answer is ure would like to know---
i think my husband is the hottest but i am in the same boat as you---i wonder how many other woman are out here that feel like we do???
i think a lot of it is hormones i an 41 and may be pre menoposal (sp) what do you think
2007-02-10 19:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by Aero-Smith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the sex good when it does happen? Are you confident enough to dress sexy in front of him? I know how it feels to want to do all these things but having the confidence to do them can sometimes be an issue. I know what its like to be with someone who is great in everyway, except for the bedroom, feeling like they are the only ones being satisfied can really turn you off the whole idea, leaving you with no desire to go there. Its not that you dont want it, its that you want to feel desired and satisfied from it all instead of feeling you have to avoid it. If the foreplay and sex is enjoyable you will suddenly feel the desire again and will look forward to the next time. Its sometimes not good enough to have a great husband and great life to have a fullfilling sex life, sometimes you need something or someone you connect physically and emotionally with to bring it all togeather. Are you searching for something more? For me, I need to be aroused for any interest to form. Try thinking of some nice and naughty things you really want to do with your partner, sometimes these thoughts can help you body to want it to.
2007-02-10 19:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about you but many women I know have had low sex drive since they had children. Many of them are using natural remedies and getting very good results. The 2 that worked the best for me are:
Boiron homeopathic pearls Sepia 200C. Perfect for any woman who feels that her every waking moment is spent taking care of others. Several women I know recently have taken between 4 and 6 pearls - and don't expect to take any more for a year - and have seen great results pretty quickly. Here's a link: http://www.vitaminshoppe.com/store/en/browse/sku_detail.jsp;jsessionid=K3TXJYZTAZNZSCQUC4YFAFYKCQL00UNE?id=BI-7014
Wild Yam cream helps boost our progesterone which is crucial to normal hormone function, and depleted with each pregnancy that we have. This topical cream can make a huge difference in so many areas of your life: http://www.mynsp.com/carole/products/guide.aspx?stockNum=4936
If you have not had kids, I will tell you that I went through a cycle with men that once it was serious I was kind of off sex for a period of time. Not on purpose, mind you, but it seemed as if it was an important right of passage for a serious relationship. I had the same thing happen with my husband and we abstained for quite some time - but after the Sepia and paying attention to the yam my sex drive returned quite nicely. Good luck hon!
Peace!
2007-02-10 19:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Is it a problem for you? For him? For both of you? It could be just that you have a low or nonexistent sex drive. It could have something to do with your hormones. You could have a low-level depression. If you don't enjoy sex or had a bad experience that may affect your sex drive. Or maybe it is just not a priority for you. Have you always felt like this or is it new? You can see a doctor if it is a problem. He can prescribe hormones or antidepressants. There are herbal remedies that can be used if you are into hollistic healing. Regardless, it is only a problem if it is a problem for you. If not, enjoy your life if you are happy and content and don't worry about it.
2007-02-10 19:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the exact same way....
I feel so bad for my husband, because I never want to have sex. I am on Zoloft for anxiety and have been most of my life. No sexual desire is a side effect of the medication.... Maybe you are on a similiar medication or one that has the same side effect? Otherwise, maybe stress, lack of self confidence, depression, etc....
I havent found a cure for it yet, it's really a bad thing to go through, but I wish you luck!
2007-02-10 19:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by oxosasoxo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, there could be a number of issues depending on what stage of life you are in. Have you started any new medication prior to your desire disappearing? Did you have a child recently? Are you in continuous pain? Are you overwhelmed with work/home/family obligations? You could see a counselor, talking to someone might help you get to the bottom of it. Good luck to you, hon.
2007-02-10 19:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, without knowing you personally, and delving into your previous sex life, it is difficult to pin down exactly.
It is either mental or physical. Very often, it is a hormone imbalance. Medications can have a similar effect.
If it is not physical, you will have to figure out what is yourself or with the help of a trained counselor. No way to figure it out here.
2007-02-10 19:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by tootall1121 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him honestly and straight forward like you are too us.. and then if that doesnt work do it again stress the importance and then if you still arent happy get a divorce its never going to change..some people are like that but if a spouse takes the interest instead of cheating first then the person will change somewhat but if not just divorce .life is too short to spend waiting for someone that doesnt feel the way you do but in all honesty do the best you can before you call it quits to change things
2007-02-10 19:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already gotten many good answers. Have you discussed this frankly with him? If he knows that you see it as a problem, it may help him. Non physical intimacy and non sexual touching, hugs and snuggles can be very sastisfying too. And sometimes, because you love him to death, you ought to just say yes :-) Best wishes.
2007-02-10 19:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a chemical imbalance. Its not normal to have zero desire for sex. Are you attracted physically to men other than your husband?
See a specialist (endocrinologist/psychologist or both)
2007-02-10 19:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋