my two oldest girls are 4 and 3. my husband has been in thier life for the last three years and is not thier father. my husband and i do have a son together. will i ever feel that he truly oves him for his own when he says he does or will i always feel like maybe he is favoring our son more than the girls.
2007-02-10 19:04:00 · 8 answers · asked by amanda c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to cut him some slack immediately. It is normal for him to feel a biological closeness to your son, but if he has, and continues to, treat the girls well, you need to talk yourself out of making an issue of it. Finding a man who loves and accepted all of you speaks volumes.
And there are two or three other factors at work, which are almost impossible to quantify: boys and girls often get treated differently and the youngest gets treated differently. And "knowing" his son from day one is an extra bond that just is...
2007-02-10 19:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he is not their father and will never feel what he feels for his son. Second, some men tend to favor boys a little more than the girls anyway. This is the road that you took when you married him, so just thank god that he married you with 2 children already from another man. You should kiss the ground he walks on and hope to god that this marriage lasts. By the way, where did you find time to date (3 yrs ago) with a newborn and 1 yr old?
2007-02-11 02:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a psychological wellbeing expert with 20+ years adventure, now retired, and a Roman Catholic for just about 60 years now, and an grownup guy, father of two (a while 24 and 25), I would desire to ask you: If Brittney's a "slut", and "some trailer park bothered little female" and a "sinful little whore", what does that make your son? except he's returned and returned raping her, then he's having intercourse along with her as voluntarily as she's having intercourse with him, so, how is he any diverse than her, regardless of his "at cutting-edge A's" and "objectives and objectives" and being "between the main suitable runners on his music group in college"? And if he's returned and returned raping her, then what does that say approximately him? and because abortion is homicide, then that places the ideas in a plenty narrower framework. and that i contemplate whether you do divorce your husband and circulate out or kick him out, is that fairly going to quit your son and his daughter from getting at the same time? I doubt it. feels like your problems circulate plenty deeper than the "rapid-fixes" you're searching for on your question. you are going to choose plenty greater help than that, and actually some counselors right this moment are purely puppets and robots with those exact same "rapid-fixes" up their sleeves, with pathetic consequences. You profess which you're Christian. ok, permit's see what you do now. God Bless you.
2016-11-03 03:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been in the picture for three years. Maybe is a man thing to be close with their sons. If you feel this way you should do family activities together like playing a game.
2007-02-10 19:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by LIZA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he doesnt mean to make you feel this way, and loves all your children equally. If he tells you this believe him, unless he shows you otherwise, by favoring one over the other than you may want to question him, but if its just something thats been playing on your mind, it will go away and is probably nothing to worry about, dont be concerned unless your children or your husband bring up this issue. Im sure he loves them all, just like he loves you.
2007-02-10 19:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make your husband feel what he doesnt--however of you talk to him and discuss how he feels towards them it may help--communication is the best remedy for all problems...just get it out...
i have a son and a step son from a previous marriage---open communication has been the key in my 15 year marriage
2007-02-10 19:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Aero-Smith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY DO YOU FEEL THAT WAY? CHILDREN ARE THE BEST AT KNOWING WHETHER A PERSON IS GOOD OR NOT AND IF THEY LIKED HIM FROM THE BEGINNING THEN YOU ALREADY HAVE YOUR ANSWER. YOU SHOULDN'T QUESTION YOUR HUSBAND....AFTER ALL HE'S BEEN THERE FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN FOR THEE YEARS.
2007-02-10 19:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why don't you wake up.if he told you leave it be. get the rest of that crap out of your head.
2007-02-10 19:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋