What do you do when you get so lonely it hurts?

Question

That empty feeling, like nothing can make you feel better at the moment except for something you cant yet have?? I have been through crap in the past years and right now I dont even really see my friends.

The tough part is I've had an anxiety disorder which kept me from going out, which develeoped when I was on this prescription medication for migraines for years that slowly made me like a zombie and really screwed with me and made me so unmotivated. Ugh its a long story but as a result my life is a mess right now.

Well I do have some friends, some of which i talk to on the phone, but not enough I guess and i dont feel a part of anything since I dont really see them in person. I'm just in my own world for years now and I need to start over but i just have almost nothin now, no career, thats its so hard sometimes.

Answer 1

Best thing to do is volunteer somewhere like a children hospital, or Salvation Army or pet shelter. Please, please give it a shot.

Answer 2

Not a lot of women now days feel like you. Many never feel lonely and don't need anyone. Your human, and it's natural that you feel lonely and need someone. Even if you have friends, you may be the kind of person who need a little more than just friends and much more than a quick sexual experience, or a empty unfullfilling relationship. You may be the kind of person who feels best when you have a real lover. If you are, please don't let society beat you down to the point that you don't care about that anymore. Don't let this world make you loose apart of yourself. Find what your looking for and be as complete in this life as you can.

Good luck.

Answer 3

That emptiness can make a person feel like the least important person on the face of the Earth. I know it all tooooo well. I've learned to try to not fight it; sit with the feeling (process it I think they say) and understand it is only temporary. Fighting it by shoving it aside will only make it more intense. It's hard to sit with it at first, but once you remember it really will go away, it'll get easier as time goes by.

Answer 4

try pen pals or looking online, go into chat rooms and even if you get nervous make your self get to know people, remind your self these could become a life long friend someone who will ease that pain.

Go to places you like around your area and just get to know people, it's pretty scary at first but you may find someone you really like, say they're reading a book you've read and ask them what they think of it.
People love to talk about them selves so get them talking and get to know them as well as letting them get to know you.

There are heaps of forums around also, you can find people who have been having a rough time and they can give you tips and you give them tips on how to get through things share experiences and get to know one another.

If you see someone interesting just try talking to them, you never know what will happen they could say no or they could become a life long friend, and if finding things hard maybe just say something like "I was about to get a drink want to join me?" or such, I tried it the other day and worked perfectly.

Hope you get rid of that horrible feeling of loneliness, try forums chat rooms and people in real life maybe even just meet up with one of those old friends of yours you haven't been keeping in touch with too much lately, there was a reason why you became friends with in the beginning.

Answer 5

I really feel for you. I experience some minor depression occasionally and have finally figured out the end result: "Loss".
You lose friends, you lose your family, it affects your job until you have to move on.

My best way to survive to is find one friend. A friend who understands, that will stick with you, you can talk to, who can gve advice, and doesn't take it personal when she's hurt.

Sometimes I only have Pam. Period. She is a god-send of patience and humor, doesn't take things too personally, and has a short memory (of bad things). .

Other times we can reach out to others and socialize, we get some projects done, and things are normal for a while.

This works for me. I hope you find a good way to get through yours.

Answer 6

i think the best thing to do is just pamper yourself. buy something nice for yourself. eat a gallon of haagen daasz, take a walk to a beautiful park, discover something new. having no friends doesnt mean u r alone in this world. just know that there is always someone who cares about u. e.g ur family or ur secret admirer. who knows? take this advise. never frown even when u r sad because u never know who might fall in love with ur smile. :) be strong. may god bless you.

Answer 7

-Think of people who you are close to you
-Think of the good times and things that "bring you life"
-Think of things that would make you happy in future and slowly start to find ways to work towards them
-Create something eg: a website, a painting or anything else; take your time, no rush... as long as you start you will finish eventually
-Keep asking yourself questions, that is the only way you'll get answers

Answer 8

call your friend and tell them to bring a move that way the only thing you have to do is call them!!

Answer 9

aww that sucks i just play basketball cuz its my favorite sport, maybe u should find a guy to play with

Answer 10

Call your mother...she's lonely, too. Probably hurting from her kids never calling.

Answer 11

I hear ya. I've been on YA too much because of it.