We was together for 7 years..Since I was 17 and been living together going on 4 years..This wasn't a planned pregnancy but he was REALLY excited and I was the one depressed for awhile. He is from up north and I am from the south. We was supposed to move to Wyoming because his dad could get him a job making 4 more grand a month, we was struggling with bills. His dad called about a month ago and said the job would not be there for long, so he moved up there. I was going see him for 2 weeks so we could pick out a house..He calls me almost 2 weeks ago and breaks up with me..I don't know what is going on with him. He calls me everyday and I only answer every now and then. Last week he was like WE ARE OVER,move on. So, now I am acting like I am moving on and he calls and wants to talk forever, he askes about me all the time. I don't know if he is scared because of the baby..Do you think he will come back? Sorry so long.
2007-02-10 18:34:13 · 13 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
His dad also walked out on his mom when she was pregnant for him and my dad did the same thing with me..So I feel like its a pattern that I can't break and he said he wouldn't do that to OUR kid..
2007-02-10 19:03:50 · update #1
Don't act like you are moving on, MOVE ON. He sucks. My kids Dad did that to me and it was the hardest time of my life. Does he not care about your emotional state at all. His Dad sucks too, for getting him to move so far away from you knowing you are pregnant. If he does come back, MAKE him prove himself to you BEFORE you take him back. And even if you do take him back, still get child support and make him pay it through your state. And tell him that it is because you never know if he is gonna cut out on you and go live with his damn Daddy again. Don't just let him walk right on back into your life because then he is gonna think he can do whatever he wants to you whenever he wants and you are just gonna take it. Definitely don't put yourself out there like that. But in all honesty, I'm sure he will probably come back, with his tail tucked between his legs. If for no other reason just because he wants to see what his baby looks like. So, also, don't send his butt any pictures. And when he does show up, throw him dog food. Treat him like the dog he acted like when he was telling you it's over, move on. If you take him right back, take it from me you will resent him. he cut out on you when you needed him the most. Make sure that he earns your forgiveness and you forgive him before you take him back. My kids Dad played those games with me and yeah he came back and I took him right back and he walked all over me til I finally divorced him. Your story brings back memories and he pisses me off. But on the bright side, he and I get along now and he pays his child support and every day he regrets how he treated me. Ha.
2007-02-10 18:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by t2ensie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this sweetie. All I can say is that your fiance is just really scared or there is another woman in the picture. I know you don't want to hear that but 99% of all situations like this that is the case. I'm sure he loves you, but he's probably scared and confused and not ready for the responsibility. And now that you are strong and pushing him away, he seems scared to completely lose you. So he definitley still cares. You always want what you don't have! My advice would be to forget about him!!!! The most important thing right now is your baby and should focus all your energy on that. Keep yourself busy buying clothes and setting up the nursury. In the meantime, if it is meant to be it will. He obviously needs time to sort out his life and a baby will definitely not help the situation. Give him this time, concentrate on YOU, and hopefully he will realize what a mistake he made and he will come back. If not he doesn't deserve you and you will find someone better. I promise. Good luck:-)
2016-05-25 09:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kind of crazy.........I live in Wyoming. You don't need a guy like that, he's a loser and won't be there for you. You do need to move on, but it will take time and is easier said than done. You need to file for child support after the baby is born so you can have some financial help. Please don't take him back if he tries, you will only end up hurt again, and so will your child. Be strong, you can do this on your own. Millions of women are single mothers. And you will meet someone much better one day that will accept you and love you for who you are and raise your child as his own-they are out there! Oh, and if I ever see your ex, I'll kick his sorry *** for you!!!
2007-02-10 19:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need the extra stress of a man who can't make a commitment. It is not fair to you or your unborn child. Get your life together and stop answering the phone. He is a coward and and whether he is confused or not he should not have left and brole up with you on the phone. If he left to better himself for you and the baby that is one thing but it sounds like he just wanted to run away. Move on girl and find someone he is a real man. who can be a real father to your baby.
2007-02-10 18:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by davis9592 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yah i have a feeling he will. perhaps hes scared about having the baby.. its all so natural.. a baby is a big responsibility.. he might have a feeling that he will not b able to support u n the baby with the money he makes... thats y he moved. tell him that its okk to be scared n nervour right now.. but that doesnt mean that u break away... tell him u love him n the baby loves him too.. tell him to come back to u n the baby... its unethical n unacceptable to leave a women he has been with since so long in the position that heleft u in... tell him u need him the most right now n u'll b very happy to have him back in ur life..
n dont worry hun im sure he'll come back... boys will always be boys.. hes just getting cold feet..
2007-02-10 18:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know screw him. he has a choose to make in life. and so do you and it may seem hard to think that you cant get through this wit out him because you can. if he cares he will do the right thing he's running a little scared right now and I know your scared too but that isn't how us guys think. tell him he has a choice to make and sound strong and be strong. tell him his opportunity is there and he need to do what is right. don't make him think that you are too dependent on him. give him the attitude that you can rule the world and you are giving him the chance to join you and "your child". stay strong and don't be afraid to ask for help. God Bless
2007-02-10 18:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by timber creek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, and I sure hope he'll come back. It sounds like he's confused....could be scared, especially cuz this is so out of hte blue since he was really excited before about the baby. My guess it that he's scared, and still cares about you....but of course I can't be sure. He's obviously not ready to move on, since he keeps on calling you.......
Best of luck in your life and with the new baby.
2007-02-10 18:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by christina rose 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to know it girl. I know you wish he comes back, but frankly, if he is ready to leave you when you are pregnant with his kid at this stage, think twice do you want him back? How would you rely on him and be sure that he wouldnt do this in future when you need him?
2007-02-10 18:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by bindu_b11 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. He is a weak spined poor excuse for a man. Be sure and put his name on the birth certificate and have a lawyer get your child support.
2007-02-10 18:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
from what you ve said yes, if you take him back, dont make it easy or this will be a recurrent event, Do you want him if hes so unreliable? If he is scared, he should be talking to you about it not hiding away.
2007-02-10 18:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋