Is it difficult to be a virgin in today's decandent society where young people have lost their moral values?

Question

In today's world of reality, why are there so many young people suffered with extremely low self esteem and such low confident level of themselves?? TO BE POPULAR, TO BE SEEN IN ALL THE COOL PLACES, TO BE IN THE COMPANY OF POPULAR FRIENDS, TO BE NOTICED SO BADLY BY OTHERS AND TO FOLLOW THEIR RULES --are all these the RESULT OF NON- ACCEPTANCE AND NON- RECOGNTION so rampantly in schools,colleges,even in universities and in work places!! TO FOLLOW A CROWD OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE NO MORAL VALUES, DESTROYED DIGNITY AND INTEGRITY OF OTHERS, MANIPULATIVE AND DEVILISH GOALS TOWARDS SELF-DESTRUCTION OF OTHERS-- ARE THE VERY PEOPLE WE SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM !! IT IS BETTER TO SEEK FOR ACCEPTANCE FROM PEOPLE WHO TRULY VALUED YOU THAN SEEKING FOR ACCEPTANCE FROM SELF-CENTERED PEOPLE WHO REALLY PUSHES YOU TO YOUR LIMITS AND EVENTUALLY DESTROY YOU !!Even to the point of losing the most precious possession GOD has given to you!! STAND UP AND BE NOT AFRAID!!

Answer 1

Forget all about what others say, think and want. If you, or anyone else,. wants to remain a virgin then just do so. You 'own' your body. If anyone chastises you for your wishes then they are not worth dealing with anyway. Be yourself and believe in what you want for yourself.

Answer 2

Sorry, just checking; is there a suggestion at the end of your question that virginity is the most precious possession god has given you? Would he really make his most precious gift so easy to lose, or take away, and impossible to win back? What happens when you lose it (or are you planning on keeping it forever? fine if you are, but I think you're missing out on a lot of fun.) I'd have thought things like integrity, free will, empathy etc. are slightly more valuable. And I know plenty of, err... promiscuous young ladies (and gents) with all these attributes.
Basically, WHAT'S SO SPECIAL ABOUT NEVER HAVING HAD SEX? It sure don't make you a good person. Or a 'pure' one. There's nothing inherently special about the first time, or the first person. I'm not saying that because I don't think it's special at all. But for a lot of people it isn't that special until they find the right person to do it with, and sometimes the only way to find out who's right is to try it and see. Sex can be a beautiful, meaningful part of a deep loving relationship. The rest of the time, it's just fun (if you do it right.)
That said, of course you shouldn't have sex unless and until you want to. And I'm sure I'd have much nastier things to say to anyone that made you feel bad for not wanting to. I wouldn't want to shag many teenage boys if I was a girl either. But I bet you want to really...
Hang on; how old are you? Am I gonna get arrested for this?

Answer 3

Yes,When you' re young you're already being corrupted with immoral values before even you can make a stand for yourself.Unless everyone changes and add some value-added principles in life at least such as not to corrupt the Young's then you can see changes.
Please keep the following secret to yourself.......Actually men have decided long ago that its better to fail earlier then later which may not be true itself. And also gather companions to be in the group so as there's no virgins around to boast around.

Lets all think for better believes at least.

Answer 4

I don't think that it is difficult to be a virgin in today's decadent society, and young people have not lost their moral values. This is a generalization, although it would seem that today's youth is more promiscuous and publicly so. It seems that we have created a society where there is a lot of talk about liberties and rights but there is seldom mention of responsibility. We have a responsibility onto ourselves as well as others. When it comes to sex many people have subscribed to the notion that we are all free to do as we like, which is true to an extent, but your rights end where some ones begin. Now there are several problems, the first problem arises when religious fanaticism drives communities to bring up their children in very sheltered environments. If we want our youth to make wise decisions they need to be informed. I grew up in a house where no subject was taboo, my parents spoke to me about sex freely without imposing rules or expectations. I am saving myself for the one I marry, I made this decision on my own. I grew up amongst others who did not think as I did, and yet I had no trouble being firm in my beliefs. I agree with you when you say that low self esteem is partly responsible for some of today's problems, there is a lot of pressure on today's teens, there is even pressure on adults. Hopefully we will make improvements, beginning with how we educate our children and what kind of people we admire. I'm saying no to the anorexic 'super model'.

Answer 5

I don't think young people today know what morals are about and this starts at home. I think to be popular and have a boyfriend is the most urgent of matters to them. Have you noticed the work ethic in places where young people are employed? They are living in a haze and they are the future.

Answer 6

Moral verses Amoral= Some know it's wrong and are pressured by peers who are experimenting with natural desires that every person has. Sexual drive in young people, as well as mature adults can vary, and is stronger in some. Learning to control yourself is a part of life. I agree, with you on the low self esteem part of your concern. I enjoy respect in my life, and it helped me to dump some of the otherwise "cool" people, along the way. Oh, I use to be naive for those with a "flair" for life. But, my husband went through numerous women who were loose. He saved me for last, so to speak. I asked him why? His answer was because he knew I was the type of girl he would marry. It was out of respect, and of coarse love.
There are still some beautiful people out there. I worked at Campus events, parties, etc. Seek them out, and I think you will be a happier person.
Bravo for your good sense!

Answer 7

I don't feel that pressure luckily because I attend a school with a very low population, but don't you think that your above paragraph/rant would be insulting to those "imoral" people who are probably reading your question. The majority of people are gonna want you to shut your trap because they temselves have gotten verry used to fighting against a system that is designed for them to develop a poor self image in order for an eliet to thrive, like the natural order of things. People will fight you to protect that natural order of amorality, which is why I believe in socialist socialism, where everybody is equal, more or less.

Answer 8

I think it is difficult for many youth today. But not impossible, and the strong and valiant ones of many different faiths who have been taught values in their youth will be even stronger for resisting all the junk that is out there for them to view and participate in.

Imagine 19 year old boys, who completely swear off of girls, dating, college, and the comforts of home to go and preach and teach and do service for 2 years. It can be done. There is still much goodness out there, I've seen it.

The cleanest, soberest campus in the country for years running is BYU. Why? Because those kids believe in God, believe in consequences for their actions, believe in waiting, and believe in marriages that last for eternity. It's a good thing.

Answer 9

it`s not a matter of difficulty... it`s a matter of being you!
if you don`t feel complete by being still a virgin, u should try to have some sex
if u really believe that this is good for you, stand up and don`t let anyone to offend u
But still, you are not free to judge someone else
Even the Bible says that the judgment is God`s!

Answer 10

No its not hard...im 16 and virgin and dont even think about this issue that often...maybe cuz im not ready yet cuz i know that its not the most neccesary thing at the moment...there are always more important things than having sex at a younge age