this is not the only time she has said this.The school has called acs on us twice now. the only reason why they haven't arrested us is because there are no marks, bruses on them.she has gone to see a counsler before. when we asked her why is she saying this she told us that she doesn't know. And that she wants us to move back home because she doesn't like it here. this is the same school that our children have gotten hurt since the begining of the school year('06)we have 7-10 letters from the school where kids have hit and kicked our children in the back. we have called the school district and the board of ed. they tell us we can't take our kids out since there is an open case aganist us.
2007-02-10 17:47:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
i do bake,and do crafts with them. this school has been nothing but trouble since we requested that they give our two girls speech classes. Ever since then we have had nothing but problems with the school.they call our house within the last 5 months saying that our girls have gotten hurt at school. 1 boy kicked our 5 year old in the back. yet they haven't done anything. they told the acs worker that im hard to talk to because I have an attitude with them.and another boy has slammed our oldest daughters fingers in the door at school, yet again they still haven't done anything to these kids.we have obtained a lawyer to fight these charges againest us.Still our oldest daughter thinks that there is nothing wrong and thinks that this is funny. we have a lady that will be coming to our house every week to watch us with our kids. i had to quit my job yesterday so that I can be home when they get out of school and make sure that they have what they need.
2007-02-10 18:35:49 · update #1
Keep your child in counseling.
The school is lying. You CAN remove your child from the school whether there is an open case against you or not. The case is not between you and the school, it is between you and ACS.
I agree with the advice about a lawyer. You need one. The school is not protecting your child. Have the children who hurt your daughter received a consequence?
The school is in a difficult position because they MUST report suspected abuse. However, the abuse has not been substantiated.
We had a problem like yours. We placed our son in a boys shelter for a short time and the director suggested a "Cluster meeting." If you do not want to place your daughter in a shelter (you did not say her age, so she may not be old enough) you can still have a cluster meeting.
The cluster meeting brings together professionals (including ACS) who will hear your story and then create a plan to help. YOU are in charge, so they cannot do something that you do not want.
It is important for your child to understand that right now you are the one in charge and you can make choices for her. If she continues to make false reports and cause chaos then it is possible that you will lose control and then she may have to live with strangers... when you guys did not even do anything wrong.
Your daughter needs to talk to someone. I suggest regular counseling. Attention may be part of it, but she could also have a chemical imbalance.
See if you can think of some things (with the help of her counselor) that can give her attention in a postive way. Come up with some way for her to let you know that she needs more attention without bringing in the police and doing negative things. Let her know that you like to spend time with her and set aside extra time to bake a cake or do a craft.
My thoughts will be with you and your family.
2007-02-10 18:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set up a meeting with your school principal and see if your daughter can receive counseling sessions with the school psychologist. If the school can't provide counseling, seek help on your own. Something is obviously bothering her. You need to explain to her the repercussions of her actions....that the lies she is telling are very serious. Depending on her age, she is probably not foreseeing the consequences of her lies. I once had a child tell me that she was going to call the police and tell them that her father hit her. I asked her if it was true and she said, "no, but he makes me mad." I asked her if she knew what would happen if she did that. She thought about it and then said that he would go to jail. I said, "yes, that is probably what would happen." She concluded herself that it would not be a very good idea to lie. Children often do things without thinking about the consequences of their actions.
If you can, get involved with your children's education by volunteering in the classrooms. Even an hour a week can make a big difference. I realize that most parents can't volunteer because of work, but if you have a day off and can spare some time, you won't regret it.
Good luck to you and your precious children.
2007-02-10 18:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by kalliope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no professional, but it seems that your daughter is crying for attention. Call a Laywer about that school problem. If the teachers and such can't control the children and they get hurt by others make sure the school knows your serious. Stay supportive of your children, they are very alone and scared. This hopefully works, but I am no expert. Hope I had a little information for you.
2007-02-10 17:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend did the same thing to her mother and step-father. Her parents would never touch her, even to spank her when she was little. Finally, it became such a problem with her lying about abuse that they told her the next time a cop came to thier house because of her lies, she had better call an ambulance, too! They never hit het, but she never lied like that again.
2007-02-10 17:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try pointing out to your daughter that the only thing she may accomplish is to be removed from your household and placed in a "government approved" setting. You also might get an attorney to get things moving smoother. Good luck to you.
2007-02-10 17:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! I have no advice for you but I really hope things get better. Just support your children as much as possible and try to talk to and understand your daughter. Good luck to you and your family!
2007-02-10 17:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pray for you and your family, but remember that God is always there for you so pray, and it will be answered, this is all a test, God is testing you to see if you will remember Him in this situation, for example look at the story of Job.
2007-02-10 17:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by WHAT??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
toughie
2007-02-10 17:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋