in your opinion is 20/21 too young to get married?

Answer 1

it depends on your relationship really.... the true reason why people say that age is too young is because honestly most couples who get married that age werent really in love and they were just fooling themselves they were and they end up being divorced or extremely unhappy.... think before you marry,... is it really such a love that you have that you cant wait?

Answer 2

This depends on A LOT of things. How mature are you at 20/21. I was not ready at 20/21. My sister on the other hand is 18/19 and is married already a year and has one child.

It also has a lot to do with the relationship that you have with the other party. Do you have stable jobs? Hate to say it, but money can become an issue if you are not finacially ready. How long have you been together? Do you communicate well?

Personally, I would wait until college is over and/or you both have steady jobs. And you have surpassed the legal drinking limit in your state by at least 1/2 years. Of course this is all just my opinion. You and your partner have to decide what is best. Weigh the pros and cons and you decide. Good luck.

Answer 3

Yeah, I think so. I got married at 20 and divorced quickly. I am 30 now, and looking back I see how different of a person I was then. People grow and change A LOT in those 10 years, and I wasway to immature to jump into that. I didnt even really know myself yet, or what I wanted to be. I think people should take the time to know and love themselves totally before commiting to aomeone else. A relationship is much stronger when both people are happy and complete on thier own first, and can bring 100% toa marriage. We can only expect people to treat us as well as we treat ourselves. Too many people think someone can "complete" them, and that is an unhealthy assumption. I also believe there are far less issues later on in life, such as people who get a little older and start to regret things they missed out on when they were younger, and now want to have those experiences. When you are 21, you should be out having fun and learning who you are and what you love. ONE MORE NOTE....I DO have some dear friends that I have known since Jr. High, who actually started dating in the 9th grade, got married a week after graduation, and are still together and blissfully happy. They have a great relationship, a wonderful family, and an all around great life....so everyone is different. I know I was way too stupid to deal with a relationship at that age, and if I had to do it over, I wouldnt even consider marriage until after 30.

Answer 4

No, I don't think it is too young. I was 21 and my wife was 19 when we got married 18 years ago this week. We are still very much in love and have raised two great kids. That being said, be prepared. If you are both that young then you are both still growing up, no matter how mature you feel you are. That means a few bumps in the road as you both adjust to each other. At this point in your life you are both discovering what kind of an adult you are going to be and it is a difficult journey. You both have to be patient with each other and understand that you are trying to make a life together while going through this growing process. My last bit of advice is this; Marriage is a commitment, a lifelong one, or at least it should be. You do not want to enter it lightly. Marriage is loving someone in spite of who they are not because of who they are. Good luck with whatever decision you make.

Answer 5

In old China, girls were married when they turned 13 and bore children soon after. So the technical answer is Yes as far as physiology is concerned.

Societies have changed, of course. At 21, you are legally an adult. But most people of this age group in America grow up in sheltered environments and are just big kids. They are not quite ready to accept responsibility and think beyond passion. They could also become a burden to each other in the pursuit of education and career that affect their livelihood.

Answer 6

In my opinion - yes, it is too young.

I firmly believe humans don't fully mature until they are between the ages of 28-32 and still have a lot of emotional growing to do through their 20s. It is an exciting time and the urge to pair off is strong, but recognize that your freedom (the real adventure) has only just begun.

There is no harm in waiting. Date, live together - if you are meant to be and will grow together then you will do just that married or not. If you grow apart, you will have enjoyed an important part of the journey together and will ultimately move on to a more fulfilling relationship down the line - one more in line with who you will truly be for the bulk of your life.

Besides, you don't need legal interference to be committed to one another.

Peace!

Answer 7

I got married about 11 days after my 19th birthday and I don't regret my decision one bit! I love my husband and even though it is tough with money issues, school, work and etc, I think it is so much easier going through life with someone by your side. If you are truly in love and can spend the rest of your life with the person and you feel like marriage is the right thing to do, go ahead and do it. Don't let others tell you you are to young, because it doesn't matter what they think. I will warn you though that it will probably be tough but if your love is strong and you are determined, you will have a very happy and successful marriage. Go for it!!!!

Answer 8

Absolutely. By the time I was 21 I had had two long-term boyfriends. Both of whom I was so in love with at the time (or I thought I was). Within 3 years the second one was over and I hated his guts (if I married him it would have been an ugly divorce). It takes a longer time to learn by living it what is truly right in life. There are so many things to do and so many men to learn about before settling for only one of them. Why rush it? Why not date for a long while and see what happens?

Answer 9

I think it's fine if you know that you're ready to get married. But most people don't even know what they want when they are 21.

Right now, you're still very young, you can still enjoy your freedom. You can discover your identity at this time.

You have plenty of time to grow as a person and you can always get married later.

Answer 10

Yes. It is not often people this age are mature enough to work through issues that arise in a marriage. Then again, there are times young people are very mature. It depends on you and your special guy. Talk to your parents ... My guess is most mature people will be honest with you. I say, wait, enjoy life before taking this important step. Good luck