i was raped my my cousin and he went 2 jail shood i abort i dont want 2 kill someone but i think im too young but murdering somone is wrong but having th baby will b hard im in year 7
i dont no wat 2 do plz help
2007-02-10 17:25:14 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No I Dont Meen 7th Month
I Am In Year 7 Grade 7
2007-02-10 17:30:36 · update #1
you no that wood b like having a duble abortion
th rape is a reason yes
2007-02-10 17:34:22 · update #2
This is a terrible time for you but do you really want to go to school pregnant i no you're worried that it is like murder but the baby technically isn't living on its own yet and it will be a reminder to you what happened plus when you're child asks why don't i have a daddy it would be terribly hard to tell it that it wasn't wanted and that its you're father/2ND cousin that raped me and then you were the result kiddo
2007-02-11 00:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh hunny im so sorry this happened to you. I really think you should talk to a counsellor or psychiatrist about this. I really think that it is YOUR choice on what you do hun. I honestly think you have a very logical reason why you dont want to keep this baby. It would not only be traumatizing but you are only 12 years old. You are still a baby yourself. If all else fails hun, put the baby up for adoption. I really think that you are too young to raise a baby. If you had plenty of family support and you wanna do it it would be great. But if not, then I suggest that you consider abortion or adoption. I wish you luck with everything and I know you will be able to pull through this.
2007-02-11 03:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
By asking this on here, you are going to spark lots of "YOU ARE KILLING A BABY" debate. Ignore that because that is not the issue you should be looking at.
Pros to having an abortion"
-child won't be confused over their family tree
-there won't be a constant reminder of your rape (often children are abused or neglected subconsciously because of this)
-you won't have to go to school pregnant
-you eliminate the risk that the child will be unhealthy due to inbreeding
Cons
-you will be loosing a fetus
-abortion can lead to psychological trauma which may require psychiatric help
FInish off the list. See what you think is more important in your mind. There is NO RIGHT ANSWER that anyone can give you but yourself.
I am really sorry about your situation and hope things go better for you in the future : )
2007-02-10 22:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am guessing you are in the 7th grade. You have hard choices to make now and I hope you have family or a network of people helping you through this crisis.
Talk to a counselor at Planned Parenthood. They have resources to many options. I know they may be considered the abortion clinic but that is only 1 service of many. They can be very helpful in helping you make decisions and finding solutions other then abortion.
2007-02-10 17:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would abort the baby. No way should you keep this child. What happen to you was bad enough. You don't need a child to remind you every day of what happen to you. Its not fair to you or the child. Have an abortion and get help with the emotional stress of the rape and abortion. I wish you well.
2007-02-12 07:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by pws8us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in the 1940s and 1950s were having babies at the age of 13, 14 years old for years. If they can do it so can you. Just because you were raped doesn't mean you should get an abortion. It's not the baby's fault. And it's not your fault you were raped either. Just take care of the baby.
2007-02-11 05:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe in abortion. I do believe that some things good can come out of bad things like this. There are people out there that would love to love this baby. If you can be strong enough to carry it and give it up. You can choose adoptive parents for this baby and know that you have blessed someones life through the awful thing that happened to you. I had an abortion when I was 18 years old and the hardest thing for me was to forgive myself for what I did. And mostly for not having the strength and confidence to carry the baby and give it up for adoption. I do not think that at your age you should be looking at being a parent, you are still a child. I hope everything works out for you. GOD BLESS YOU.
2007-02-10 18:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by t2ensie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would get an abortion. Not because I want to kill the baby, but it would be impossible from me to go to high school, play fastpitch, and keep my grades up, and have my job at Panera to support it. You are very young and your body might not be able to have a baby, that means that there could be some health problems for you and the baby. Or you could put it up for adoption. But you would still have to have it and you could cause damage to your body. Plus you might not even get to finish the 7th grade, and then you would have to get a GED. Good luck. Do what you feel is best.
2007-02-11 04:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is an awful situation to be in.
I'm sure your parents know and they should be advising you.
Your right abortion is murder, If your not going to abort, there are other options for schooling, because you were raped the school system should provide you with a tutor and while you wait to give birth, you could look for a family to adopt you child.
Good Luck.
2007-02-11 00:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OMG...u r so youthful :( heavily u can no longer strengthen this baby, u prefer 2 do what the different lady reported and have the toddler placed it up for adoption...that way it may b raised via a loving kin and not aborted bcus ur great warm 17yr didnt placed a condom on! ther r women persons out ther who carnt have young infants...if u have began your sessions (wich u of course have if ur pregnant) n ur stupid enuf 2 have unprected intercourse then u prefer 2 get on the pill asap 2 stiop this occurring agen! tell ur mom and dad...the concept mite b frightening yet ther ADULTS and that they are going to help n handbook u via this! p,s wat r u doin partyin at 12, u shud nevertheless b playin out with acquaintances, savour ur adolescents whilst u can cus uv have been given something of ur existence 2 play grown ups! stable success!
2016-09-28 22:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋