Am i a sociopath?If so how do i cure it?

Question

My Girl friend was recently looking up disorders and found a site on sociopaths and a lot of the criteria for a sociopath fit my characteristics.the page said that sociopaths say that they have no problams.Now im also a recovering alcoholic.ive been sober for 9 months and im trying to change ,but,I deep down feel like im not a pathological liar,in touch with some of my emotions but have trouble expressing them.i know when something is bad or wrong and try to allways do good.but i do have a deep rage and a desire to be in controll it is hard for me to love,could that be because im defencive?i did have early child hood delinquencies.i says a lack of a realistic life plan. . .what is this and how do i get one.if i knew another was weak i think deep down i would,nt take advantage. . .but since i like to be in controll is it because i need the sence of security of my own world. . .there may bee too much in here to ask and maybe i need to see a psychiatrists. lol. please help with some info

Answer 1

Sociopaths are Masters of the blame game. It means they do not have to take responsibility for their actions. You seem to be making some steps forward to mend your mistakes. That is not sociopath or psychotic behaviour at all.

You are not playing that game.

You admit you have rage. Rage is a very powerful energy. If you can find the source of your rage, or a place to aim that energy, you can do something good. If you acknowledge you have rage, you are well on the way to recognizing and working on fixing it.

You do need help. Don't let your doc just put you on meds and brush you off. That is the trend these days. Chances are you will be pointed to a good counsellor. These people are not as clinical as shrinks and often more effective.

Good luck ... you have already come far.

Answer 2

sociopathic behavior states that you do not care for others at all and will lie, etc to get your way at the expense of others. Sometimes, for men, especially if the girlfriend is seeing the behavior, this just indicates a lack of desire to commit or you just don't want to be tied down. Do you truely not care for others? Do you feel sympathy towards others, and at a deeper level, can you feel empathy, or step into other's shoes and try to see how they are feeling? Also, how old are you? Because if you are younger, it may just be a maturity problem, rather than a socialpathical problem. It sounds like you are having trouble opening up and sharing, and this, my dear is not a sociopathic problem, but a man problem in general (sorry men, but it is generally true). Try sharing with your girlfriend something that you wouldn't tell anyone else once a day, and soon you will be on your way to opening up to her, and by the way, who really has a realistic life plan anymore these days? Do you believe in a higher power? Because you say you know good from bad. If you aren't in touch with God then maybe that is where your steering is out of whack. No strong belief can = a rudderless life. You are special and important and have a purpose. You will find that purpose if you trust and believe! It will help the rage and desire to control your situation too, because God is really the one in control. Sometimes He has to break us to remake us.

Answer 3

I think the first step to anything is becoming educated with feelings and emotions that you may feel are abnormal. I spent some time observing my own life to realize that a lot of my emotions were not normal, and the internet, which is an amazing research tool was able to guide me to some possible solutions. So far you have taken a great step in looking in to your emotions and now that you have a possible diagnosis, it is time to seek help. even if you are unsure about actually being a sociopath, There's no harm whatsoever to ask a professional. You will have peace of mind, and receive any help you may need from a pyschologist. It also doesn't hurt to continue to do research on the internet, again a great source. good luck and good health!

Answer 4

If you were a true sociopath you wouldn't even be concerned about it. A True sociopath has no real emotions, just plans and schemes to serve themselves. From reading what you have written what I see are the characteristics of an alcoholic, wanting to run the whole show, but when it doesn't come off the way you want, you probably tend to want to take the ball and go home, because you feel unappreciated.

Answer 5

It is my understanding that sociopaths are empty of empathy and feel no guilt, and are interested in only attaining there goals even if at another's expense. Sounds like you're no where near that description. You sound like you have had pain in your life that was hard to bear, and that maybe the alcohol "helped" you through it. Actually, from what I read, you are getting sober and realizing things about yourself. This I do know-you are on the right path by being sober and that maybe you should seek a licensed professional, who you could air your above concerns and then you will know some truths. I feel that it my ease your concerns. Bless you in your effort to stay sober. I know good, good people who have been sober for many years. And one of them I know had some similar feeling like yours. Believe me, he is not a sociopath.

Answer 6

From my experiences, if one labels oneself or lets others label them, then they tend to become more like that label. You are not a sociopath even if you lean that way sometimes. You don't have to let someone put you into that box and you don't have to put yourself there. You can be who you want to be. If you can apply what you've got to work with towards constructive goals you may find that You are many things that don't fit into any box. Practice loveing others and takin one for the team sometimes. Do something that you don't want to do just because someone else does. Do it to make them happy. If you do things to help those you care about even if they don't know it and as long as noone gets hurt, you may find that 'life plan' will find you.

Answer 7

Hey Smoochy!!!! I'm finally back in my house and I got my new Pearl drumkit! I never really listened to anything from The Cure, and the song you posted isn't really my cup of tea. At least not right now, since I usually go back to bands I thought were okay before and give them another listen.

Answer 8

A true sociopath wouldn't even bother to ask the question. Sociopaths just don't care about right or wrong. You're not one.
See a shrink anyway. You're really confused and boarding on illiterate. There is a spell checker on this site. Learn how to use it.

Answer 9

You said you know what is right and wrong. trust me i know sociopaths. They can't even fathom being wrong about life. If your questioning this your probably not a sociopath, but if you know what your falts are and you work on ridding yourself of them then you will be fine. note: if you think you need psyciatric help do seek it. otherwise just try to have empathy. hope that helps

Answer 10

I would see a psychiatrist if i was you... I'm sure you don't want to, but it will not hurt you.
check out this site, see what disorders you may or may not have...

don't worry about answer #3, he has to put others down to feel good about himself. he'll get his some day!