Ok I have had it I am tired of killing my husbands ex with kindness.We have 2 Month old twins she recently requested a raise in her support which the judge denied based on the new evidence my husbands attorney used proving that my husband did not father this child and now out of her being vindictive my husbands attorney has asked that the burden to support a child who he did not father be removed so now we have to go back to court in two Months we love this little boy and we thought about custody but we are at our wits end how can we make this woman go away she is just like C ock Roaches she won't leave now my husband has no problem supporting the child because my husband has said he is his father because hes been there from day one.Now shes upset because she may lose her child support which is a substantial amount and shes calling my home being down right mean and I am still civil please help I had to record her last two calls and play them back to her and threaten to press charges.
2007-02-10 17:15:28 · 3 answers · asked by CaliMa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, even if your husband has been there from the beginning for this child, if there is proof he is not the father- continuing to pay support would not prevent the ex from denying you visitation based on this evidence of paternity. It is best to go through with the court hearing to cease payments. As vindictive as she sounds, she would have used this information to hurt him/you in the future. she probably knew it was not his child from the beginning. Keep being calm, nice, and cooperative- keep taping and documenting her abusiveness. Perhaps since your husband has always been the child's father, even without paternity- if she is unfit, you could adopt if the mother is proven to be unfit. In regards to her needing the $$, she will have to go to court now to get $$ from the real paternal father. If she receives any kind of state assistance- they will intervene and try to find out who that may be and pursue this matter on her behalf. It sounds like the child is likely better off with you. I am sorry this child is having to go through this confusion and loss and that you are caught up in the middle. If there are going to be any progress made in court though, you have to keep taking the high road and remain the mature, level-headed one. Good luck and congrats on the twins.
2007-02-10 21:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep taking the high road and put the children first. It sounds like you and your husband are trying to do the right things. I would encourage you to consider getting custody of his child, esp. since she sounds unstable and since this would ease her financial burden. If she is too nasty when she calls tell her you will talk to her when she is less upset and hang up. Try real hard not to talk bad about her in front of the kids. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-10 22:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing right. Stay out of it as much as you can and support your husband.
2007-02-10 19:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋