Is it possible to love someone, through the image of someone else?

Question

I like this celebrity, because I feel that I have so much in common with him, personality wise. Everytime I hear his music, or see him on the television, I instantly feel at ease. But I feel as though I'm losing my mind, because he'll never know that I exist. I talked to a friend about it, and she believes that there is someone in my personal life right now, that is very similar to my favorite celebrity, and that I really like the guy in my life, and not the celebrity. I can understand why she would suggest that, because those two men have some similarities as well. But I don't quite feel that that's all of it. There's something else about this celebrity that makes my mind wonder, and my heart flutter. I hope that its just a useless crush, that i'll eventually get over, cause this is really confusing the heck out of me. Can anyone elaborate my situation for me; maybe by prior experience, or a few words of wisdom. Thanks. (Serious answers please!)

Answer 1

It's a fun fantasy. You don't need to get over it, but you shouldn't sit at home waiting for your celeb to call, either.

The phenomenon that you're thinking of is called transference. That's certainly possible, but this doesn't sound like it. In fact, this sounds like the opposite of that effect.

Check out this other guy, just to see if there's anything there, but don't project your celeb feelings onto him or assume that they will transfer someday. He is who he is, and that's definitely someone else.

Answer 2

It sounds like you are living in a fantasy. that is not fair to the person you are with. I mean think about it, what are the odds that you and this celebrity would ever get together? You need to live in the real world.!