I need help to stop cutting?

Question

I have told someone that I am cutting. My girlfriend she is the only one I trust and I don't want to go to counseling that's why I am asking here I didn't know that it would be so hard to quit. My friend she used to cut her self and that's why I never told her.(was afraid she would do it again) But I did one day and she said she had cut her self again(not because if me though) not more than once and only that day but I didn't want her to do that again so she said she wouldn't do it again, if I really tried to quiet so that's why I want to quit.

Girly Girl

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Answer 1

hearing this makes me sad..people dont understand why others do this..and when people say negative things about people who cut it just makes it worse for the people who do..cutting is a way to realise stress and tention..it makes you feel good when nothing else does..my sister use to cut all the time..the inside of her legs her arms from her wrist to the elbow..it can be really hard to quit....one thing that you have to understand is that when you start off doing you think its fine nothing will happen to you..your just letting some steam off..but one day you will cut your self a little deeper and two weeks later you will cut your self even deeper just to see more blood..one of these days your going to be so stressed out or hurt by something and not realizing it your going to cut your self too deep..this isnt something you want to get into..my sister "missed" one day and cut her self pretty bad,she slit the inside of her arm next to the crease in of her elbow..there was blood everywere i had to take her to the hospitle she had 6 stitches..she told the doctor that she was trying to open something with a kitchen knife and it slid....i knew that wasnt what happend.

talking is the first step...now getting help is the next..talk to your parents ask for help..if you cant do that..i suggest trying to get help without your parents knowing,,i really dont sugest it..but hey..another thing is keep a journal write in it everyday..if someone makes you mad write in it.. if you have a really good day write in it..they help out alot..
also try joing a kick boxing class..or a high energy exercise class..they can be fun,good for you and also reduces the amount of stress you will feel..
if you are having one of those days that just buggs you out and you cant stand your self or anyone else..go to a park swing on a swing or go for a walk on a natur trail..i always found it calming to sit on a tree root and watch the water of the creek rush by all around it..if you are in your room and you feel like cutting your self leave your room..go to the mall or ask one of your friends over..just anything to keep your mind off it soon after doing this it will go away.. you still might want to do it.. thats normal..but as long as you can controll it..whenever the urge does come..i hope this helps..and if you need anyone to talk to..email me or if im on yahoo messanger..just get ahold of me. i want you too..


i just want to add that getting help from a professional is best..and i dont recomind keeping it from your parents..they will be more understanding then what you think.. everything i suggested is just things to help you out if you cant get help or if your parents are not around to listen..

Answer 2

I used to know a ton of people who cut, and I tried it out when I was depressed one day and got myself hooked for a bit. Cutting is almost the equivilent of getting a high off of heroin because of the chemicals which are released within the body.

Here are some methods to help you quit:
-keep an elastic band around your wrist, when you feel like cutting, snap it several times
-go to the store and buy a cheap, thin tipped, red, washable marker. When you are upset draw the lines or words rather than cut them. Sometimes visually seeing it helps a lot.
-Cutting is a sign of a deeper issue. My friend cut because her dad beat her. My other friend cut because her moms bf raped her. I did because I was a suicidal depression. Ask your parents if you can see a psychiatrist. This will really help you to deal with your issues.
-when you get the urge to cut, grab a notebook and write down everything that bothers you
-throw out everything you use. My friend used tacks and once she had no access anymore, she wouldn't cut. I used broken pen casing for awhile, but once I switched to round pens, that stopped. If you don't have access you can't do it. Everytime you have an urge to buy the item again, walk away. Go home, wait 48 hours, and then if you have to, go, see it, and walk away again.

Good luck with stopping! I haven't cut in almost 2.5 years. Once you stop you just can't start again.... it really hurts! :P

Answer 3

I used to. My parents refused to pay for counseling or anything even though they could see this wasn't rational and couldn't be reasoned away. I stopped when I moved out. I never realized they were the cause of all this because I couldn't see past the pain. Counseling would have definitely sped up the healing process and they can decide if you need some medication. I am fortunate to not be on any. I just found something else to live for.

Answer 4

You need to replace cutting with something positive. I've been cutting for a year now and I really can't stop. I would say that you probably shouldn't tell your friend, who also self harms, what's going on incase she starts again. Find someone you trust, like a teacher to confide in. They do help! Good luck x

Answer 5

Yeah, u need to stop, when you are grown u aren't gonna want all those scars. You need to get into a youth group or a church or somewhere that you can see the good things about life. There is more to life than what you are experiencing now. You need to get yourself out there and find some things to enjoy, not like sex, or drugs or any of that crap. That will just make you feel worse about yourself. The only reason to live that will never go away is Jesus. God will always be there. When everything else fails you, God will always be there. If you believe in God, get to church and make some friends and let God do a work in you.

Answer 6

i know you don't want counseling, but the truth is if you have tried to stop and can't, you and your friend both need it. most schools have therapists you can talk to or if you feel like you can tell one of your parents that you need a counselor (you don't have to tell your parents about the cutting, just that you need someone to talk to) they can help you find one. if your school doesn't have a therapist, you need to find a responsible adult, such as a teacher or coach or religious leader that you really trust. cutting means that you are very distressed and no matter how hard it is to talk, that is all you can do to get better. good luck!

Answer 7

You say that you dont want to go to counseling, but it may be the only choice you have. You need to tell a trusted adult, and they'll help you out. It's going to be a tough ride, I know alot of people who have cut themselves and have had to go to counseling. It doesnt always work, but that's a chance your going to have to take.


Good Luck

Answer 8

hey girly girl, just wanted to say that i used to have this problem too. but it wasn't until my b/f/f told the school councelor, that i stopped. i tried stopping on my own but the truth is u need someone to be watching u and keep u from doing it to actually make u stop. so i think you're gonna have to tell someone much older like a parent or teacher. im soooo glad i stopped because i figured out it was a dumb habit to have. there are much better ways to help take out ur anger, sadness, etc. i wish u luck!!!!

Answer 9

I know its hard but u can stop, after u stop u will B so much happier u wont have to worry about someone finding out,if u keep cutting its going to hurt u, and all the people that care about u,ur the only one that can make you stop,but I know u can.

Answer 10

I used to do that myself in my dark cold days.Not to long ago.Well here's what I did and it worked.Wear hair-bows or rubberbands around you wrist and when you fell the urge pop them as hard as you please.Also find other releases and ways to express yourself.I took up poetry and music and dancing.And you have to really want to stop cutting you have yo tell yourself it's wrong and that you don't deserve it.Tell yourself that you're better than that and believe it because you are.Sometimes pinching instead of cutting works well too.Just don't pinch yourself until you bleed. Good luck and much luv,
♥ ~ Shawte~ ♥