It has recently occurred to me that I have a serious problem with lying. I lie about everything to everyone. I have been doing some research online and I am pretty sure I am a compulsive liar. I know that it comes from some serious self esteem issues, and that to change, I need to admit to the people in my life that I am a liar but I can't bring myself to do it. I wouldn't even know where to begin. Lying has become an automatic reaction to every day situations for me. Most of the time, the things that I lie about are unimportant but I lie anyway. I have lost people that I really care about over this and I have to find some way to try to put my life back together. Any advise would be appreciated. Thanks.
2007-02-10 17:00:46 · 14 answers · asked by heliza 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Is this Bill Clinton?
2007-02-10 17:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by KevinStud99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I probably would not want to openly admit to friends and family that I am a lair either. However, I think it also depends on what types of lies you tell as to how difficult it will be for you to change your behavior. So if it is self esteem that makes you tell stories, maybe you should try to do some things to improve yourself. Re-invent yourself honestly and not through lies. You could also try stopping before you speak thinking about what you are about to say and determine whether it right or wrong. You will need a strong will to change and a counselor could also help. Lies can be hard to keep up with. The truth is much easier to remember for most.
Good luck!
2007-02-10 17:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying like most character defects is a defensive action. You either fear losing something or getting something you don't want. I at one time had this problem. What I did is I started with my closest friends, I informed them of my problem and told them when I was lying, I would just stop the moment I realized what I was doing, inform them I was lying, and then tell them the truth. After a period of time I got better at being honest not only with the people closest to me, but also with myself, because I wasn't just lying to them I had been also lying to myself. It's hard, its humbling, but it can get better...If your serious.
2007-02-10 18:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by lstntfnd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't have to say as much to people as you have been.
You don't have to have an answer for every thing.
I would think that is a part of your problem.
You seem to not want to be open with people so you tell lies.
Perhaps you just need to try harder to tell the truth or if you choose not to then don't say any thing.
2007-02-10 17:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by Floyd B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be strait with people and tell them right from the get go that your a lier and that they should take everything you say with caution.
Example: someone asks you a question and you reply: Dont expect a truthful answer to that. Then it is no longer your problem if they believe you.
2007-02-10 17:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by dont want stalkers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you'll change is by telling ppl about your lies. Untill then ppl will catch you in lies and become upset. If i was your friend and i kept catching you in lies i wouldnt know who you are. i would be sharing myself with you and getting lies in return. But if you were straight up with me, i would try to help you stop your fibbing. The best way to stop is by other ppl saying.."come on you were never in that situation". After a while you'll stop.
2007-02-10 17:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying is the lowest form of creating, meaning that to create an effect on someone you have come down to lying. To counter this, decide what effect you would like to create on someone & go from there.
Peace.
2007-02-10 17:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by MJR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to a mental hospital. Sometime people get sent there because like you said its just an automatic reaction and they can help you there.
2007-02-10 17:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by Dr.LLP BunBun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This site helped me with other issues come to think of it i didn't lie much but i had other issues..
coping.org Really great text site that has lots of thought ful questions!
2007-02-10 17:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should consult and set up an appointment with a therapist/psychologist. you need help if you've lost people you love and care about because of your lying. i wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-10 17:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling your story is being truthful.
hmmm...try beginning telling truth slowly...
everything has a time to change...
you wouldn't be expected to change instantly...
plan a day when you'll start to change
then when that day comes,
keep on your mind to tell the truth...since you're just starting to change don't expect that you'll do it really good..
as you change, you'll start to realize that it feel good telling the truth..^_^
2007-02-10 17:12:33 · answer #11 · answered by ruby f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋