Aren't guys supposed to be all about sex?
How do I go about boosting his sex drive?
2007-02-10 16:41:49 · 14 answers · asked by linatik 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes stress at work, or health problems can cause this. Have you tried to talk to him about how things are at work etc? Is he getting 7-8hours sleep? I bet if you went on a vacation to a sunny location for a week or so (if this is possible) with no stress, it will come back big time!
2007-02-10 16:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by seven-11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The individual libido (or desire for sexual activity) is very unique to each person. Your belief that men should be or ARE all about sex shows that you know rather little about men AND women. If you believe that men are all aobut sex, then you probably believe that women are NOT, and that CAN be just as incorrect. Each individual is different, and what I am surprised about is the fact that you are only coming up with this information NOW as opposed to before you got married.
With that said, there are some questions to answer:
1) Has the difference in your sex drives always been present or is it a new thing? If it is new, then there is VERY likely a medical-physiological reason for it and he should visit his physician and be VERY honest about the problem. He may have another medical problem that is lowering his libido as a side effect.
2) The other possibility is that YOUR drive has risen while his has remained stable. This may also be a side-effect of new medical issues, OR it may simply be a healthy increase in sexual appetite.
3) is the difference in your sex drives becomming a problem between you? If so, TALK TALK TALK to him about it. Explore ways of getting the sexual satisfaction you need without making it a hurdle between you. Masturbation is a very good way, and you should not be embarrassed about the need to masturbate if his drive is not high enough to provide you with adequate sexual satisfation.
YOU SHOULD NOT ASSUME that this problem JUSTIFIES you seeking extra sexual satisfaction outside of your marriage, as many people will probably suggest. That is the WORST possibl ething you can do. PLEASE do not use this problem as a means of excusing infidelity. I am not accusing you of that - jus tputting a warning out.
This "issue" (I don't yet call it a problem) definitely has an answer. If you want to find it you two will have ot find it together. TOGETHER. that is what marriage is about anyway.
J
2007-02-10 16:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by poolshark21209 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a number of different reasons why. It could just be that you love sex. Maybe he's just not into it as much as he use to be. Your ages can play a part in it also. Try this. Talk to him about placing 2 dolls on a shelf somewhere. 1 for him...1 for her.. make sure they have bendable arms. When you or him are in the mood. Just take your dolls arm and raise it in the air. So when he or you see the dolls arm up. You'll know without a doubt he is ready..or that you are in the mood. This is also good if you have kids in the house and/or company over. Cause this is a very discreet way of letting your significant other of knowing what you want without saying it out loud, or feeling like a fool for trying and being rejected.
2007-02-10 16:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May have to do w/ age; you didn't mention how old you or your husband are. If he has a low sex drive he could have a hormonal problem or just not be interested in sex w/ you (sorry, not trying to be mean). You can try masturbation, and also lots of foreplay or something fun like stripping for him or giving him a lap dance.
2007-02-10 17:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women\ssexdriveis always higher than a mans. The man's libido tends t wane at age 40, while women stay strong until well into their 50s and 60s.
2007-02-10 16:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by demilspencer@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think women tend to have their sexual peak much later than men...whereas men peak at a much earlier age like teens and twenties...or it just may b that ur sex drive is naturally high...try doing things with him that give him more pleasure...make things more about pleasing him from time to time, while still getting what u need...i can imagine this is kinda frustrating for u...but i wish u much luck!
2007-02-10 16:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Retarded Genius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on his and your age. Try talking to him about it and see what you can do or you can do as a couple to spice things up. I used to think guys were all about having sex, but even though they think about it alot, they don't seem to have to have it all the time. I think that's a big difference, but who knows...lol.
2007-02-10 16:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by tweenklegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Early in the morning. He may be tired at night. and when a guy is beat he may want to pass on sex.
2007-02-10 16:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by shoe_khan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a thing of human nature. Men want it a whole lot in the younger years, while women dont as much. Then in later years it switches. I guess its natures natural way of regulating the population...
2007-02-10 16:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by azº 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm the opposite. give him pumpkin seeds. no kidding. they are supposed to increase his libido. it also depends on age.
2007-02-10 16:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋