why do gay people refere their homosexuality as...?

Question

something they were born with? i mean yah maybe their attracted to the same sex but they still have the choice to have sex with the opposite gender . i mean im str8 not b/c i was born attrated to women nor b/c of the fact that im still attracted to women but b/c i choose to have sex with women instead of men if i choose the opposite id be gay then. and if i had sex with both then id be bi
so i think people may have different urges but the same choices
and its your choice to be gay bi or str8 according to what suits u

Answer 1

i agree with you a 100% gays choose to be gay but they didnt choose to betray god they wer born unloyal

Answer 2

Think about this for a moment or better yet, awhile...

For many heterosexual men, the idea of having sex with another man is a major turn off and something that they would likely feel sick just thinking about. A gay man would likely feel the same about having sex with a woman. You make it sound like anyone can easily decide what they want to do. People's hearts and beliefs stops them from doing certain actions. Would you shoot a child that has broken no laws just for the fun of it? Wouldn't your heart and beliefs stop you from doing it? Sure it would be a choice, but it would likely be almost impossible to carry it out.

My point is, people likely won't choose something that their heart is against. There would be a very strong urge holding them back. If picking and choosing who you love was so easy, how come everyone isn't bisexual? I think the major point you're missing is why someone would choose to be part of a minority that has to do deal with a ton of hate, lack of rights (as far as marriage goes), and many more.

Answer 3

Most people define sexuality as a matter of attraction, not action. I am, and always have been, attracted to men. I have absolutely no sexual attraction to women. Therefore I am homosexual. Because you are attracted to women and (I assume) only women you are heterosexual. This attraction is not something you nor I can change.

I have no idea if anyone is actually born with a clear predisposition of their sexuality (although many say they know or have suspicion at a young age) but many who have researched this have concluded that sexuality may be determined by both biological and environmental factors. Nevertheless, ones sexuality is not a conscious decision.

Answer 4

sexuality is not a choice
sex is a choice

people are born straight or gay or bi. they like a certain gender or both genders and nothing can change that.
a straight man could never fully enjoy sex with another male. he also couldn't enjoy the romance involved in that relationship.
gays who try to be straight have a higher rate of suicide.

now its true that people choose to have sex.
both gay & straight people have become celebate for a number of reasons- this doesn't change their sexuality, just the fact that they don't have physical intamacy with anyone.

but sex is healthy. people, both gay and straight, can benefit from regular sexual contact.

Answer 5

I believe that the majority of people who are gay were indeed born that way... as part of their DNA and their genes. There has been much research into this and scientists have found this to be plausible.

I also believe, however, that there are some people who are gay, mostly lesbians, who are gay due to circumstances they've endured and have unconscientiously "chosen" to be with people of the same gender.

You didn't choose to be straight... that's the default position for some. For others, it's homosexuality. That's just the way it is. And as such, all of us deserve to be legally joined with the person we love, regardless of gender labels.

Answer 6

Uh... you are straight because you are sexually attracted to women, and not sexually attracted to men (MAYBE). And gay people are sexually attracted to people of the same sex. In other words... if you were to put a naked girl in from of a gay guy he would not sexually respond to it. His penis would most likely stay limp and he would not get eroused. But if you were to put a naked guy in front of him... then his body WOULD sexually respond to it. That's just the way his body/mind works. He doesn't have that choice. That's just who he is. And yes a gay guy COULD technically CHOOSE to sleep with a woman, BUT guess what!!? He would still be GAY!!!

Answer 7

So you're admitting that you are bisexual? A straight guy will look at a female, get turned on by her and want to have sex with her (that’s what makes him straight). A straight man can’t force himself to find men attractive, can’t force himself to get sexually turned on by men, can’t force himself to fall in love with a man (that’s why he’s straight and not gay). Not only can’t he force himself, but the thought of sex with another man disgusts him. So that’s not a choice available to straight men, unless he’s bisexual and can then choose to have sex with both males and females. You say you could easily have chosen to be gay, so in that case you are bisexual. I’m gay and having sex with women isn’t a choice available to me, I find that kind of sex disgusting.

If you don’t believe what I’ve said, then just ask some of your straight friends. Ask them if they could easily change and get turned on by men and they’d kill themselves laughing at you. Got it now mate, just had a look at every one of your questions and answers. They’re all on the gay section here, so yes that choice is available to you because you are bisexual. If you could get into the head of a straight man or a gay man like myself, you’d know we don’t have the same choices that are available to you. Sexuality isn’t “having sex”. There are many gay men who join the priesthood and don’t have sex with anyone, but that just makes them non-practicing homosexuals.

Answer 8

Sexual orientation refers to who you're attracted to, whether you're having sex with someone of that gender or not. Straight teenage virgins are still straight, because when they're fantasizing about sexual stuff they're fantasizing about the opposite gender.

Straight teens know their orientation long before having intercourse for the first time, and they're identified by that orientation long before having sex for the first time. They go on first dates with the opposite sex. They dream about and worry about their first kiss with the opposite sex, they talk about crushes on the opposite sex, and the list goes on and on.

You could sleep with every gay man in a club, but if in your head you are not attracted to men, if you're still attracted solely to women, if you had to fantasize about women in order to get through the sex with men, and you're still looking forward to having a relationship with a woman and not a man, you're still straight. If a person is truly straight the idea of "choosing" to be gay would sicken them because there wouldn't be any attraction involved.

Now if a person was born bi well then yes they could choose to ignore a part of themselves, so they would appear to be straight or appear to be gay. But if inside they are still attracted to both men and women then they're still bi, even if they have sex with the opposite sex and only the opposite sex for their entire life.

Of course, if you don't believe me you could always go test out my theory. Go ahead and have sex with a gay man. Choose to have sex with a gay man. Take note of how you feel physically and emotionally while having sex. Take note of how you feel physically and emotionally after having sex. Now if the idea of all this has you freaked out you just proved my point. You're straight and there's nothing wrong with that. But just like I can't take you out on the town and make you gay, you can't make me straight.

Now if you liked the idea of it but you also still like the idea of being with a woman then you're bi, even if you only have sex with women and never so much as touch another man's penis for your entire life.

It is your urges that make you gay straight or bi, not your actions.

Answer 9

to give an honest answer i think some are born gay. "some". an i think its a small some. the others i think are passive submissive an somehow that turns into relating to females an they turn start having attractions to men an it may feel like from the get go. i would say this probably happend most the time. men born confident, aggressive an stable and are gay also are just born gay an wired that way . and how that happends is just like everything else nothings an exact science

Answer 10

Actually bud, you were born straight, just like me, and gays were born gay. Get your facts straight (no pun intended) -- sexuality isn't a choice, and that statement isn't hard to justify.

Wow, your logic (and typing) is appalling. Was there even a real question hidden in this or was it just an excuse for you to drone on to us with ignorance?

Answer 11

You choose who you have sex with. You don't choose who you're sexually attracted to. I'm a straight married woman. If I see a very hot and attractive guy I choose not to have sex with him because I'm faithful to my husband. However, I cannot "choose" to not be attracted to him. You have control over your actions but not your thoughts and feelings.