2007-02-10 16:28:23 · 32 answers · asked by mizzjaxn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all .. talk to them honestly .. and then suggest things that make you feel good and talk to them and then if they still refuse maybe you should start talking about a separation and then divorce. This is a hard battle to fight .i know i have been there sometimes it takes and act of congress and its just not worth it also it can cause you to cheat when there is no need for that ,before you cheat sit down and have an honest chat and tell them how to please you and talk to them and work with them and then if all fails just separate and divorce instead of cheating .. because life is too short to live like this and its not worth the hurt to each other to cheat..
2007-02-10 19:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to introduce new things like " oh hey look, I found this book of kama sutra just laying around, lets try it".
If subtly doesnt work, sometimes you just have to be blunt about it. Which is ok as long as you have ideas and possitive comments to help the ego you are about to shatter.
Worst comes to worst.......let him catch you pleasing yourself.....if he wants to join in at anypoint tell he only can if he does it like this.....
Take the dominant position if you can..if you still cant get him to be willing to improve...my god i hope the emotional connection is worth the sexual frustration.
Perfect example why premarital sex should be a must
2007-02-10 16:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by natalieanne82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to please yourself first and then if that doesn't get things on the right track you should move on and try a new spouse...however you should consider that no one gets a manual on how to have sex with this person or that one so take some time to learn what he likes and what you like and then teach each other how to do it right for both of you!
2007-02-10 16:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try you being on top. When a women is the majority of the pleasing you can please him and yourself at the same point. Because you know were your special points are, you can get them. You know Cosmopolitan is a great source, it really is. Has all kinds of good ideas. Maybe you guys just need to mix it up abit. Try a 2 hr tease fit, with desserts, ice-cubes/licking, etc. Then slowly get into it, oral, tease, and then finish him off. I bet both of your guys's minds will blow.
2007-02-10 16:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by aim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, are you communicating your needs to him? When you are having sex maybe you could gently verbally guide him...some men can't do it intuitively.
You should also consider buying a couple of sex books and tell him you want to look at them together. Then when looking at the books you can comment on things you think you might like etc...you are gonna have to take the initiative in this case.
2007-02-10 16:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try communication, if that doesn't work then seek the advice of a professional. If they refuse then communicate again. If that still doesn't work, you can either live with sexual frustration for the rest of your relationship, end the relationship, or cheat on them.
2007-02-10 16:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A doctor's answer would be to see a "sex therapist".
Also, your hormones are probably out of wack. You may want to have them checked. Doctors will commonly prescribe testosterone to women with sexual problems. Testosterone is a sexual stimulant when given to women. There is a patch that can help.
http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=testosterone+women+libido&fr=yfp-t-501&toggle=1&cop=mss&ei=UTF-8
2007-02-10 16:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by a bush family member 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like any other sexually liberated woman, you should go on the hunt for new and exciting c0ck. Don't worry, nobody will look down on you for it. In fact the women here will encourage you to do it.
2007-02-10 16:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you wanna stay with this person first question second question have you considered adult toys ? is it you arent being pleased because of boredom and a routine type relationship or because of other things like impotence or a handicap? these all need to be answered to answer your question good luck
2007-02-10 16:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mark R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, try to talk it out with him. Tell him that you'd like to try some new things and have these new ideas ready when you have your talk. If you don't really love him anymore than nothing much is going to help. sorry that you're in that situation.
2007-02-10 16:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Big Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋