My friend Chris is 15 but a freshman. Im 15 and a sophmore. He wont leave me alone. We were at a friends house and he wouldnt stop bugging me! He kept sitting next to me on the couch, resting his head on me, saying I love you, and generally making me uncomfortable with comments like " your awesome and I dont like you just for your body". I told him to stop and he doesnt listen. I tried moving away. I know he had a crush on me when I was in eight grade. He has told me. I really want him to stop it makes me uncomfortable. How do I stop it?
2007-02-10 16:23:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I dont have any intrest in him other then being friends and have told him this.
2007-02-10 16:23:59 · update #1
Okay so buy my talking to my other friends ignoring him is teasing him? That makes so much sense. I've told him no and told him how he makes me uncomfortable. My other friends have too. I'm not trying to lead him on nor do I. I dont dress provacitivly or give him special attention
2007-02-10 16:34:41 · update #2
When he touched me I'd tell him to move and make him move his hands and head away.
2007-02-10 16:35:47 · update #3
Jackie,
Stand up every time and walk away. Standing up-is an indicator of unfavorable contact.
NOT infront of any one else- we don't want to shame him, just get his attention. Take him outside or somewhere safe.
Don't start with "we have to talk" at that point they don't hear a word you say! Just lets go outside or follow me.
Be direct in his face- make eye contact-BOY STOP! You are harrassing me and pissing me off. If you want to keep me as a friend that is fine.
Yet back off. I am not interested in being your girlfriend and don't want you touching me at all for any reason.
DO you understand? If you do it again- I will call your mother and tell about it. I am not joking. Keep at least two full arm lengths away from me. NO you can not have a hug.
BE very stern in your voice and understand. He is s "horndog" right now and will jump the leg of any pretty girl and lucky you.
That will get his goat.
2007-02-10 16:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Denise W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of the problem is he is immature and thinks this is fun- to bug you. Kinda of the way little boys and girls hit each other to show they like them.
Tell him, alone if possible, that you like him as a friend and think he is a ________ person (insert your choice of nice, smart, fun , etc.) but he is really irritating you and if he does not stop then you will have to stop being his friend.
Also, if you could get him to watch the romantic-comedy movie "Kate and Leopold", there is a guy on there who advises another guy to stop trying to act foolish in front of women to get their attention. The women will only think him a fool and not cute or funny and NOT worth their attention.
Good luck!
2007-02-11 00:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by peaceandharmonyandmercy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Chris sounds as if he is used to getting his way.
Talk with him ( in a neutral setting), and tell him how you feel. It sounds as if you're afraid to "offend" him, and that you might hurt his feelings. Well, he needs to know how you feel. Do not continue to send him mixed messages by letting him put his head on your shoulders at parties. Tell him you definitely do not want him to do these kinds of actions anymore, and stay away from him at all costs if he continues. Sooner or later ( hopefully, sooner), he'll get the message.
2007-02-11 00:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by Gal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can't believe you would let it go this far. i would have thought you might haul off and (defend yourself). this is a kind of assault. i do not agree wiyth those two up there saying you're leading him on, however your actions are not putting him off. this is the kind of friends you want? you need to be willing to give up the "friendship". it is not one. he only wants one thing from you and since you have not made it clear (to him) that you reject him, he'll just keep pressing the issue.
2007-02-11 00:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
find another boy and walk pass your friend that like u and make him angry and then after that tell him in a nice way that i don't like u but we can still be friends
2007-02-11 09:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by L M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sure. You are doing something that is giving him the wrong sign. Perhaps you need to asses your inventory of behavior first to see if perhaps you aren't the cause. And if you truly don't want this stuff then put a stop to it and don't say you don't know how.
2007-02-11 00:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
you may tell him that
he is acting very child an You don't like people that behave in such a way. so, if he do not behave YOU WILL NEVER LISTEN (or talk)TO HIM.
make him behave for ever.
2007-02-11 00:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i can think of would be to distance yourself from him for awhile. maybe he'll really get the clue then
2007-02-11 00:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by mulattoprincess91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to sit him down at a table and talk it out with him, if he persists then threaten to end the realtionship as frendz!!!!
2007-02-11 00:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by mimi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get one of your friends to tell him how much its bothering you
2007-02-11 00:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by worldsbesthighfiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋