Just recently, I was working on a set and met a older man. Well, significantly older man! He is 23 yrs older than me. This has NEVER happened to me before. I was completely drawn to him. I didn't give him my card before I left because I figured it was a passing thing and it would blow over. But now I am regretting it -big time! I haven't stopped thinking about him for the last two weeks. Whaddya think? Am I crazy? Should I do anything about it?
2007-02-10 16:01:14 · 20 answers · asked by NOHODesigner 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Attraction is a funny thing. Follow your heart and see where it leads you. Even if the relationship goes nowhere at least you tried and put your mind to rest.
Not every relationship will end in marriage even if you are dating men your own age. There could be a very important lesson this gentleman can teach the will better you life in ways you can't see today. Trust your instincts and don't look back.
TS.
2007-02-10 16:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As others said, the age difference becomes impractical when the participants are no longer young. A 45/22 combination is ok but 65/42 doesn't work well. Then again, why should you think about marriage anyway?
Older, accomplished men are attractive to younger women as their conversations are broader and mature. This is the clean side. But the dark side is evidenced by many many middle aged men paying for sex with much younger girls in many countries. It means older men like young ones too.
2007-02-11 00:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless what people say, age does matter. Think about this, he is 23 years older than you and single? Any man over the age of 37 and who has never been married has serious issues. If he is divorced, his children may be your age, that is a little freaky don't you think. Any guy who would get involved with a woman his children's age has a problem. Let it be and just fantasize about him.
2007-02-11 00:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go enjoy yourself with him .. date him but never ever let your guard down.. im not judging you i have just been the older guy .. i was madly in love with someone half my age and her me.. she wanted me to marry her and have a child ..I walked away . no age doesnt matter now but when you have kids and then you start thinking ten years down the road what could have been and would have been you will resent him..its ok to be attracted to him and date him but dont let it get any further unless you search your heart and know for a fact and be real about it that you can live with the difference the rest of your life. really its nice and its fun and its exciting but can be very hard to walk away from if it gets too serious.. good luck
2007-02-11 03:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a man 16+ years older than me for 27 years, so take this from personal experience. The age gap will only widen as you both age. Count it as a passing fancy and stick to guys in your own age group.
2007-02-11 00:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ha! I love it when women dig older men. They wan't to be taken care of by a father figure. It takes them back to childhood.
That's why when I travel, I always grey my hair so i look older. Works every time.
I can't wait till I'm a dirty old man.
2007-02-11 01:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! Who cares! I mean it's not like you're talking about marriage or a life long commitment like everyone else is acting like! Just get to know him and see where it goes, if there's an attraction. Then later on you can worry about how old he will be when you're......but right now what difference does it make??
2007-02-11 00:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by pinkladylassman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a very strong emotion, and I'm not saying your relationship would not work, but I do think it would perhaps be in both your best interests if you each were with someone closer to your age. Most women will outlive their male partners anyway, but you don't want to enter retirement without a partner, by the time you're 65 he'll be 88!
2007-02-11 00:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by kefirasmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i know what you mean... it also happened to me, i was attracted to an older man. if i was to date him we would be 20years apart!!! trust me this man is sooo Hot!!! i was so drawn to him.. its crazy b/c i use to work with him and everythime i see him i would go crazy... he knew he i liked him and i think he liked me too but there was too many things in the way... he was married had kids and i was engaged at the time but yap i would think of him alot!!! anyways to answer your question... if his not married and have kids go for it!! but if he is then don't, no matter how attracted to that man. fight the temptation feeling!! good luck
2007-02-11 00:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it, age doesn't matter when you are attracted to someone, if you think you will be happier with him, why not go for it? You said it, you are regretting it, so if you have a chance why not take it, you only get one life... good luck to you!
2007-02-11 00:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋