I've now attended 30 mtgs. in 22 days, and I do see a lot of myself in some of the speakers. I actually like going to the mtgs., getting out of my head, and hearing what other people are going through. But that first concept of having the willingness not to drink? It just hasn't sunk in. I enjoy my vodka at the end of the day, in the privacy of my own home. My life (like many people's) may be a little screwed up at the moment, but it is certainly not unmanagable. I don't see how I can begin working the steps, if I'm just a giant hypocrite. And yet I see people in these mtgs., sporting their 6 month chip, when I saw them drinking the night before! I get the "we are not saints" too, but c'mon...
I value and welcome your input.
2007-02-10 15:59:06 · 4 answers · asked by OneRedCent 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
In AA, the concept of "hitting your bottom" means that you are sick of your suffering (whether financial, emotional, mental, whatever). It's nearly impossible to embrace the 12 steps unless you've "hit bottom". Only then do they seem worthwhile.
It sounds as if you have not. Perhaps you need to try some controlled drinking. It might work for you. As to the hypocrites in AA, blow 'em off. Believe it or not, they are suffering. I've heard enough of them share experiences like this. I hope you find a way through all this...
2007-02-11 12:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hypocrisy is the core of many of our problems. Sure you have heard this a lot. The key is coming to know the real you, not the you everyone expects you to be. Embrace the real you, get to know and love the real you.
Simple as it sounds, it works.
I spent many years drinking my vodka. One day I realized I didn't want it any more. Then one day I realized I wasn't as tough, mean, aggressive, hostile, in you face kind of ***** I had been pretending to be for so long. Just got real tired of that old ***** and embraced the real me.
I'm completely opposite of the old ***** and quite content with my kind, gentle, quite personality. Really loving it!
My life is probably still a mess (lol) but I find peace anyway, sleep much better than I did when drinking vodka.
By the way, never had any involvement with AA. Just got tired of drinking.
Best of luck to you.!
2007-02-10 16:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you do not have a desire to stop drinking, and you enjoy the meetings, continue to attend. The program is a good guideline for living and you might make sober friends who can apply their experience to the questions you have. Lots of folks find a sponsor they can confide in.
Don't worry about what other people do. AA has been called a "selfish program" because you are there for yourself, no one else.
2007-02-10 17:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was ordered to go to AA when I was much younger. I no longer drink, but I have my vices. My conclusion of AA was as follows: The organization is great, a positive thing for many. But, it calls for high demands, and sacrifices. If a person has not lost alot due to there vice, and there life is still manageable they can hardly appreciate the program for what it is and tend to mold it to fit there life. Like, drinking on weekends, or only socially. If you have lost everything BUT your life, you may find it worth to follow to the T. The rules are simple. NO drugs or alchohol. I do not attend anymore because I would ask questions similar to yours, and that was the answer I got everytime. They offered me no help on how to achieve that goal, just said "NO drugs, NO alchohol." I wanted to do it there way but got no assistance on how. I figured it out on my own then, without there steps....
2007-02-10 16:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by fah_ker82 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋