If yes, can you provide an age for me?
2007-02-10 15:45:20 · 16 answers · asked by Fox Paws 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If a person becomes comitted in a marriage before discovering who they are and what they truely want for their life can affect the longevity of their marriage. A person can wake up and realize that the person next to them is not the right person and they wanted something else for their life. Experiencing life alittle allows individuals to understand and know what they want for themself and therefore hopefully contribute to a more satisfying marriage.
2007-02-10 15:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by oceanqueen1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, the idea that marriages were more successful in the 1950s is a big, fat myth. Divorce rates were high then, too, and if they were not as high as they are now, it was only because women were controlled by their husbands sometimes and did not have a way out. Meanwhile, the fact is that divorce rates have been pretty steady the past 20 years. Our divorce rate is no more high than most societies' rates, even those in the past. The reasons divorces do happen varies so greatly that it is impossible to try to pin it down or connect it to society as a whole. Everyone is different, and so are their circumstances. Some people get divorced due to infidelity. Some people get married when they are too immature or are not ready. Some people get married for the wrong reasons. Some people are in love, but have conflicting values or monetary habits. Some people just don't take it seriously enough and don't put in enough effort. Some people marry the wrong people. Some people just grow apart. People change. That's a fact, and always has been, and sometimes the changes do not happen in a way that makes two people remain compatible. Want to avoid it? Make sure you marry the right person... a person who is committed, mature, and has similar values and interests as you do. Be realistic about it. Communicate. Keep things fresh. And get help when you need it, either from friends and family, or professional help when necessary. Most importantly... work at it! Successful marriages take work and effort. That said, if the marriage is not right, then it is not right. Going back to the 1950s would be the worst thing we could do. A bad marriage is much worse than a divorce.
2016-05-25 08:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, people getting married with the idea of "if I don't like it I can divorce him" in their minds. 95% of the people I have known that got married young with the attitude of "this is who I am going to spend the rest of my life with" are still married today, and I know A LOT that got married right out of high school. It is a VERY important decision that should not be taken lightly and if you are mature enough to look past the infatuation and know that marriage is going to be hard and take sacrifice and you are willing to do that for this person and think that divorce is NOT an answer, and mean these things, you are ready.
2007-02-10 15:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think age plays alot in it..So many times you hear of young men/women talkin about bf's/gf's then before you know it they are in love and getting married right after high school..Shoot,,after high school is when you spread your wings to fly...I think many are just so afraid of not finding someone they jump into marriage just to belong when if they just slow down,,take their time and enjoy the life they were given then when the right man/woman came along and they courted slowly and took time to really know each other then it would last longer..I do believe that is one reason divorces in the United States are so big due to fast marriages mostly to keep from being lonely..Alot of people are really not settled down in their own life yet,,they still want to live a singles life yet have someone at home waiting for them..Cant have it both ways..So I think age has a main factor in it..Slow down,,enjoy your youth while you can..Marriage is a very serious relationship and one that takes maturity and alot of backbone..God bless
2007-02-10 15:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you marry at a young age you will see your friends still dating and having fun and wonder what you are missing. I can't say at what age you should marry ,because each person has a different level of maturity ,but if you have any doubts at all just wait.Marriage should be a lifetime commitment.
2007-02-10 15:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by zzum 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it might contribute to a higher divorce rate...but things are different now.....even large families of ten or so have contributed to the current divorce rate. who sets the examples for our future but our selves. If mom & dad didnt teach us how to love/honer/&obey then we cant teach our young....really when do you think that lady who lived in a shoe had time to teach all her kids what was up & what was down.......you think single moms have it rough what about the mom who had 13 children on a farm was doing if not pulling her hair out all day long..........what children learn children do......whats worse is when the stop being children & think they no longer have any need to learn......thats when they start quiting the hard job.....lease a new car or dupm the old love..........
2007-02-10 15:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by greckel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, i think it has to do more with not having an open mind and wanting to divorce over little crap.
By open mind i mean, let a dude get out every once in a while. And if some cheap floosie give it up to him no problem. This is no cause for divorce because it was just sex.
Women also use sex is just sex more these days as well.
So whatever, marriage stinks because its too much of a jail.
2007-02-10 15:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think the ideal age is around 25. i married at 19. it has been a long and uneventful 17 years. its been hard. we have had to grow together and fight to stay together but...i think it was all worth it. if you get married young both of you needs to set yourselves up for a long fight to stay together. being young and married will not be fun for the most part. when you see all of your friend having fun hanging out you will want to do the same. but you can't you are married.
2007-02-10 15:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would say anyone in todays society getting married under the age of 25 is highly destined for trouble based on finances, etc.
2007-02-10 15:54:18 · answer #9 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, getting married to stupid is contributing to the high divorce rate.It doesn't matter what age you are if you are not matched compatibily it won't work out.
2007-02-10 16:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋