I' finally got up the nerve to ask my crush to 'hang out". i text messaged him asking him that we should hang out soon and he text messaged me back ten minutes later...that he would, although it have to be the next time he gets paid because he's broke as a joke" quote on quote.. andas we conversated furthur he went on furthur to say that he's a shy guy when it comes to women because he's afraid or rejection.. I asked him does he fell confident enough to get with an attractive woman..and he said yes but usually and he's not in pursuit .. well, he said it depends what mood he's in...How would you feel about this guy after this converation..would you feel he's intrested..gay..a psycho..
2007-02-10 15:38:53 · 15 answers · asked by Lola M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know in the past he has invited me to his church group..and he invited me to workout with him..and he has told me that if I ever wanted to go to a movie or hang out too call him..and so I finally did
2007-02-10 16:59:55 · update #1
I think he is just an insecure guy who has money problems.
2007-02-10 15:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by zzum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that he has already answered your question. He is shy around women and has a fear of rejection. You need to build his confidence in you. Instead of just asking him to hang out you should tell him hey, you know what I really like you and I would love to take YOU on a date. There is nothing wrong with a girl taking a guy on a date. It is a new generation, just don't get in the habit and don't let him get in the habit of you paying all the time. For the first couple of years my BF and I did this thing where I picked where went one time and he paid. He picked the next time and I paid. Just be fait to each other. We don't do that anymore but only because we live together so it doesn't really matter who pays it comes out of the same wallet. We do still take turns choosing date spots.
2007-02-10 23:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have found a real gem with this guy, at least he's honest and not afriaid to talk openly about how he really feels. No i don't think he's gay or psycho etc, somedays you have more confidence than other days and he;s right it does depend on how you feel so be grateful to have him in your life even if it doesn't get serious at least you can have an open and honest conversation with him and get a handle on how guys really feel. Good luck my friend and live and love without fear.
2007-02-10 23:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by heaven_on_earth2012 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he's playing it safe. You're really not being straight forward so that might make him feel trapped. For all he knows you might be trying to hook him up with someone else. You should be upfront. Ask him if he's willing to get with YOU. Since he said he's a shy type of guy don't play guessing games. Just tell him the deal. He's probably wondering how to interpret you.
2007-02-10 23:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is interested he is just shy like he told you. He would rather be the one being pursued so if you are interested then you do the chasing lol. Once he gets to know you better then he will become more open and not so shy lol. Watch out when he does you will have created a monster lol. My husband was quiet and shy when i met him but now with me he is not this way anymore lol.
2007-02-10 23:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...probably not gay or psycho. Some of the most worth while catches are the toughest nuts to crack. Keep on pursuing him and be understanding and patient. However, if he continues to make no effort in your direction after a reasonable amount of time, you may have to call it a loss and move on.
2007-02-10 23:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by coderednation2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants to just take it slow for a while...Sounds like he is just being cautious about hooking up with you...OR you could be in the friend zone and he needs time to adjust to the idea that you like him. Either way if he is good enough to you to wait for then maybe try a little well tempered patience before you just jump ship so to speak. Relax! Is he worth it or not?
2007-02-10 23:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this man is a little immature and although he portrays that he is confident enough to date attractive women, he seems indifferent to dating. It makes you wonder what is keeping him from being interested, is it video games, a great career what? He probally is socially immature and is not highly motivated so therefore doesnt care either way if he is dating.
2007-02-10 23:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by oceanqueen1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants someone with a better command of the English language, and is too polite to say so.
2007-02-10 23:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he sounds like an average guy to me. a little shy, a little ackward.and a little aloof. he probably will be turned off if you come on strong though.take it easy. best wishes
2007-02-10 23:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋