How young is too young?

Question

okay i have this friend, she is 14, and she's going to have a baby. she doesn't really know what to do. I want to beable to help her at least a little. what should she do?

For all of you who are saying "She can't have a baby." does that mean abortion? and I have been tought that it is physically safe for a girl to have a baby by the age of fourteen, so is that what you mean?

For all of you who are saying "She can't have a baby." does that mean abortion? and I have been tought that it is physically safe for a girl to have a baby by the age of fourteen, so is that what you mean?

Is abortion even safe? and do most of you consider it a good option?

Answer 1

she should get a beating for being pregnant at that age.. apparently she didnt get enough of it from her parentz

Answer 2

14 is way too young to be pregnant or have a baby.

For that matter, 14 is too young to be having sex, but it's a little late to be telling her that....so don't.

My advice? Take her to Planned Parenthood. They will give her factual advice about all her options. Whatever she chooses (abortion, to have the baby and give it up for adoption, or to have the baby and keep it), Planned Parenthood can offer her low-cost medical care.

Remember, in some states, if she wants an abortion, the law requires that her parents consent. I hope that your friend feels able to talk to her parents about this.

I would strongly advise her NOT to keep the baby and raise it herself. At 14, she's still a kid herself. She's not mature enough to be a good mother.

If you're still pretty young (say under 16), do you know of any adults who live near by that YOU can confide in? Or if not, do you know any older teens (with a driver's license) who could drive your friend to Planned Parenthood?

Oh, and however the pregnancy ends...whether she chooses an abortion or ends up having the baby.....do everything you can to convince her to use BIRTH CONTROL in the future, until she is 100% sure she is ready to be a mother.

Answer 3

well its a very sad situation. This girl is way too young to have a baby. She herself is a baby. I suggest getting an abortion. I had one and it doesnt really hurt. If she waits long and shes more than like 3 months then yeah it will hurt. Then again everyones body is different. Before she decides what she is going to do she needs to really sit down and think things through. If she decides to have this child it will change her life forever. Having a child is not the easiest. I have a child who is almost four. And believe me when I say its not easy. In the beginnin she will have a lot of sleepless nights. Which is not good because how would she go to school tired, that is if she is planning on staying in school. I think the best thing to do is get an abortion. Being young is great and it should be something to remember. And having this child will take that away. I know You are her friend and no one should tell her what to do because she has to decide this on her own but i really think you should convince her into getting an abortion. Its for the best. I know mentally it is difficult to deal with but eventually as time passes you move on and remind yourself that it was for the best. Please wish your friend good luck. You are welcomed to Email me if you or your friend has any questions.

Answer 4

physically, she should be able to deliver the baby fine. it's proven thata younger teens body has less risk when delivering a baby than an average age woman.

Mentally, however, it may be hard...but abortion is harder on a girl than anything. many women who have had them feel horrible for years after their aboration.

If there is no possible way to take care of the baby, adoption is a great option. there are over 2 million couples in america alone who are waiting lists to adopt new borns. Most of these couples cannot concieve a baby on their own. Many of these couples end up having to go to countries like Russia. Colombia, Argentina, etc. to adopt because there are no new borns available in America. Why? ...because we're killing them all through abortion.

I think it'd be best for her to consider either raising the baby herself or putting it up for adoption. If she chooses adoption...she can even choose the family that the baby will go to...it's a great option. good luck. = ]

Answer 5

I'm a little disappointed in most of the answers I've seen up to this point. The girl needs support not criticism. We don't know many factors, like how far along she is. If she is too far along, abortion is no longer an option. We also don't know what kind of support her parents might offer. It might be possible for the parents to raise the baby like it was her younger brother or sister.

Answer 6

Well she can physically have the baby but she needs to ask herself.

1. Do I really want this baby?

2. What am I going to do to support this baby?

3. How am I going to finish school with this baby?

4. Is the father still around to help raise the baby?

Answer 7

I knew a girl who had a baby at 12, worst mistake, her son is now 10 and she is 22, she tells everyone he's her little brother. It must be a total embarassment, physical and undeniable proff of her... well..anyway, if I were her and still wanted a chance at a real life and the chance to give the baby a real future I'd give it up for adoption. Abortions are just plain cruel.

Answer 8

She shouldnt have sex. Sex has consequences like having babies. Her body is too young to healthy carry a baby. Abortion is wrong in my opinion. Your friend if she keeps this baby will miss out so much on life. She needs to decide what she wants to do. Abortion is mentally scarring and you will regret it, wondering what your baby would be like. She should try adoption. So many loving people are willing to be able to physically, mentally, emotionally ready to adopt. They can pay for it and give it the kind of life it deserves. She could get an open adoption to be able to see her baby. Your friend needs to stop having sex or get on birth control pills and use condoms too after this baby.

Answer 9

Oh boy,
Well I live in sweden and her it is even iligel for her to have sex let alone get pregnant, but i am sure it happens her to.
Ok to help your frend.. make sure you are ther for here.. suport her ingetinh her to somone profesinal,A helth station, a nurs at school, talk to an adult you feel confterbel with. She has options and she has alot of help legely to.
She has options as to have the baby, to get an abbortion(depending on how far along she is) or maby give the baby up for adotion.
This is a tricky and hard situvation but not the end of the world. Do things right.
1 get profesinal help form a helt statio, doc or nurs, Consler are a good start to.
2 think over all the options presented to you.
3 lurn to live with your choses in life, cher it with others so it is not to hevey to carry on your ohn.
OH and DONT live the DADY out of this.. he has to take resposebilety for his actions to.
Good luck

Answer 10

She should have the baby, then put it up for adoption.
An abortion is just the easy way out to getting rid of your mistake. She has to deal with the fact that she has a human being inside of her, and by ruining its life, well, that's just wrong. Putting it up for adoption would give it a chance to live a free, happy, safe life.

Answer 11

yes, she can't have a baby means emotionally. Technically, a body is physically able to handle having a baby when it starts menstruating. She should consider an abortion. It is far more traumatic to a person to carry a baby to term and give it up for adoption than to have an abortion. A 14 y.o should not have a baby. No no no. Bad bad bad. Direct her to planned parenthood. They can be confidential. If she has that baby, can you imagine the teasing and reputation that goes with it? A 14 y.o with a baby will automatically be labeled as a slut, and probably won't be able to finish school. Please please don't endorse 14 year olds having babies.