ohkay i hate fighting with my exs but im a little confused about thid one i guess its because ever since we broke up he has been a jurk to me but i still want us to be friends like we were brfore we started to go out of corse then we was crushing on each other and called each other like10 times a day and now i only call to talk to his sis.and i really want to be his friends but his best friend told me that when he brakes up witha girl that he don't want to talk to them but he(my ex) told me that he can't stand his exs mad at him.So I need some help on to be friends with him or not.
2007-02-10 15:28:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sometime it better to just leave it along and move on, it may
be hard for you and him to be friends, so dont make it a problem
leave it in the past.
2007-02-10 15:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh. Let em tell you girl. Save yourself the drama. Unless you have a kid with him there is NO reason to stay friends. He is a man and lacks the capacity to see his relationship with you as "Back to friends". That is the way it is. I KNOW this sucks to hear, but TRUST ME. It will save you so much heartache in the long run........
After 5 years with MY EX, I totally assumed we could still be friends, I mean - HELLO? After 5 YEARS??? Why not? Well, I learned why not and it broke my heart and crushed my soul. Don't do it girl.
Besides, you will prevent yourself from moving on if you hold on to him. Just imagine. Soon - you will meet an even greater guy who will steal your heart. Do you think it would be fair to him to know that you still have ties with your ex? NO MAN wants that in ANY relationship........
Good Luck.
Sorry I didn't have more promising answers.
But, if it is ANY consolation - you would feel a LOT better if you checked out this book by Dr Laura called "Ten Stupid Things Women do to Screw up their Lives"....... I know the title is insulting but please check it out. It is the greatest book I ever read and because I took her advice, I FINALLY met my Prince and we got engaged this last July - and will be married this May............. That sure beats a 1/2 Azz friendship with an EX?
Check it out girl.......
Meg -
2007-02-10 15:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by VocalistGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you can be friends with ur ex. afterall what can be achieved if you two remain not on speaking terms. more can be achieved when you to go back to being friends again. maybe you just have to look for the perfect timing to discuss it with him. let things cool first. u cant rush things. but of course when ur talking again, you can no longer expect to talk to each other 10 times a day. learn to move on. when you are already healed and have moved on, its easier to talk to him, since by then you will have forgiven his shortcomings too. lighten up. give yourself more time now, things will fall to its proper place in due time. good luck. i wish you well.
2007-02-10 15:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by mela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him a lone. If he wants to be your friend he will. Let time heal the pain. Don't dwell on it for now. Move on with yourself. JUST YOURSELF. You don't need to have anyone else to worry about. Get yourself figured out before you take that next step.
2007-02-10 15:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is see..if you call him and he doesnt wanna talk you just have to move on cuz you cant force him to want to talk to you if he doesnt want to. from many years of personal experience, its hard being friends with an ex because theres still feelings there but if you do just make sure he wants to as well
2007-02-10 15:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u think u need him and u don't care whatever relation it is then go for it.B4 break up my boyfriend offer me freindship.But i didn't accept it.For 1yr i was having relation.and now how can i c him as a friend.If i accept then it will b like i m having relation(friendship) on his mercy.
So it will b better if u don't make friendship with him.Goodluck.
2007-02-10 15:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Blue flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's being a jerk then nooo!!! I talk to all my x's, even though it's weird when you start a new relationship. But follow what your mind is telling you. Only you & him can figure it out. Noone else.
2007-02-10 15:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO ex's are ex's for a reason. There will always be the whole "who you f'n now" attitude or questions from him and any new guy you date isn't going to like it either.
2007-02-10 15:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try talking to him...if you can't have a casual convorsation after you brake up it's no good...don't believe what his friends say because they could totally just be liing to you because they might not think you are right..but just talk and say you want to be friends even though it didn't work out!! good luckk
2007-02-10 15:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by kayla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well first of all....u can try to be his friend bt if he doesnt want to be ur friend, then just leave him alone. forget about him. find someone new. thats it. dont wast ur time on a jerk no matter how much u dont want to. i know i hurts believe me. but u will be glad later on.
2007-02-10 15:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by crazylilangel_91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋