My son's father abused him physically 2 weeks before xmas, the police ar involved (very messy and upsetting) The issue is that his father's partner works at the secondary school he attends and he is feeling very uncomfortable when he sees her. He hides and often asks not to go to school. He wants to move to a new school and start a fresh.
2007-02-10 15:19:09 · 26 answers · asked by celiachic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-10 15:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to move him and ask you laywer to inform the father so that neither you or your son have to have any contact. I understand that your son would feel uncomfortable despite what not_mickey has put as an answer. Even if you did speak badly of the his partner the abuse from the father is enough to drive any child away and he would not want to feel like he is being spied on in school by the partner. For your childs welfare i would transfer him but so that the father cant complain or take any legal action what so ever due to not being informed, i would ask my laywer to inform him of the change.
2007-02-10 21:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by raccattack21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answer your childs cry for help. You should transfer him. How much do you think he will learn in the environment that he is forced to be in and he can't function. The father abused him so why would you feel that you have to tell him where your son is? I doubt that your baby will want to see him so what is the point of exposing him to the possibility of having to face him at the new school. Don't even put his name on the authorized visitors log. Fight for your sons rights tooth and nail and don't allow him to get hurt again in anyway by that man or anyone else. It's mother bear time and then some!
2007-02-10 15:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If abuse is the case and the child is showing that he doesn't want to attend school because his father's partner then I would not say anything. You have to protect your child, even if it's from the father he abused him. And you don't want him to turn into a abuser. You are doing a good job trying to ask for help and making your son feel that you listen and trust him.
2007-02-10 15:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by mommyoftwo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a situation like this you have every right to do whatever you think is absolutely necessary to protect your child from harm.
If he feels terrorized by the presence of this person then I would describe that situation as harmfull to your son's welfare.
As for his fathers parental rights, I would consult an attorney on that issue. He may be his father but he is also his abuser, he may have lost a right or two in this case, but make sure by getting qualified legal advice.
Hope your son is doing well!
2007-02-10 15:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is in the hands of the police, and as he is a minor I would say that social services are also involved, are they aware that his fathers partner works at the school, if they do not know you should inform them.
I think for your sons own emotional balance you do need to move him, speak to a solicitor, and find out where you stand legally with this.
2007-02-10 15:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by portly_pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a protection order or visitation has ceased then I would say no. I would inform the police, and the DHS worker (I am assuming that since it is a case of abuse DHS is involved in the investigation) handling your case. Explain to them your sons feelings and concerns about remaining in that school. Also have your son see a therapist about these concerns. I am pretty sure they would agree that your son changing schools at this point is the best decision for him.
2007-02-10 15:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Presumably you have informed your son's headmaster of this situation and that your son has an issue with his dad's partner. If the partner has in any way condoned or encouraged the abusive behaviour then perhaps it's she who should be removed from the school rather than your son.
Otherwise, although in theory you should probably tell him, and probably will have to eventually, I would put it off for now, unless your solicitor advises you differently.
2007-02-10 19:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where everyone else is getting their information, but If you do not have a formal Divorce decree, or a Parentage-Custody order. Then Either parent may take the Child and go. At the same Federal Law provides that If there is clear danger to the child that you have the right and responsibility to protect your child. overriding and existing order, I would suggest getting custody Firmly outlined in a court order.
2016-05-25 08:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HATE my children's' father!!!! I sometimes feel like I'm going to go to hell for my thoughts. I can feel for you. However, in the mean time, I would do only what you can legally get away with. If he has abused your child then he will legally, (and emotionally - from your child), get what he deserves. Don't give him even the smallest of opportunities to turn this on you. Grit your teeth and be a law abiding parent until he gets what's coming to him. Hope all works out for you.
2007-02-10 15:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by justjenn25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be better to tell him than for him to
find out some other way.
You may wish to have the custody agreement changed
as the parent is being abusive. You could see about
having his visitation rights nulled and issue an restraining
order to keep him away from the child.
2007-02-10 15:23:43 · answer #11 · answered by sagegranny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋