Cofnsused Emotinal wreck help!?

Question

I know I've done bad, please not criticism just honest advice. Left my Husband and am having an affair w/ boss.He has attempted to tell his wife that it was over and she's fighting it. We are in love & we both know it; he does not want to have sex with me anymore, but he keeps me emotionally attached,by calling & being my friend. Why is he so confused? What am I doing?

Answer 1

For the sake of your emotional health and your soul, quit that job and move. Maybe your husband can forgive you and take you back if thats what you want to try. This man is obviously still in love with his wife or he wouldnt want to stop seeing you and just be friends with you.

Answer 2

You women that have affairs with married men crack me up. You never think about the wife or what you are doing to her and her children when you are f--cking around with him, but as soon as something goes wrong for you its a different story. You then have questions about why is this happening what am I doing. Why is he doing this. Well its simple. He is and was married and this is what happens. They very seldom leave their wife and they will always give you one hundred reasons why. Some of them have even told the other woman that the wife found out and really didn't. Its just a way to end the Piece of a-- that they were knocking off on the side. Then you actually want advise and sympathy from people and most are not going to feel a bit sorry for you. You know what you are doing and you left a husband and got dumped by the cheating man. i don't feel sorry for you and I think you deserve what is happening and maybe this has taught you a lesson. Have you stopped to think how she feels? Or what she is going through? Or how confused she is? Well I bet its allot worse than how you feel.

Answer 3

You're making a fool of yourself like so many women who are dissatisfied with their lives and so they complicate it by adding more trash to the pile. This man will not leave his wife for you and never intended to. He got what he wanted and regrets it but wants to try and work out his marriage and is keeping you on standby just in case his wife gives him the boot. If he's no longer having relations with you it's because he's trying to show his wife that he's sorry and can be faithful. Don't be just another dumped mistress. You need to change your number and look for a new job and start over. You're beating a dead horse and YOU are the one asking for advice and is suffering. He's got his wife and his position. You got your husband? Leave him alone. You've been played and had.

Answer 4

Run, run, run! As far as you can. This guy isn't confused, he wants his cake and to eat it too. If he wanted to be with you he would have already left his wife, after all you have had time to leave your husband. So what is holding him back? He is! Get away from this guy. Look into getting a new job and quiting in that order. Then break off contact and work on your own life for a while. If he is serious about you, this will shake him up enough to make a decision.

Answer 5

Sorry to hear you are having such a difficult time. in my experience being so close to someone that have been in a similar situation let me tell you this, he will never leave his wife, but he doesn't wanna let you either 'cause you are always gonna be his consolation prize as long as you let him be in your life. I know this is hurting you a lot and I can imagine the kind of pain you go through every time he has to go home and you think he is around her wife and her family and you are by yourself wondering if they are back together like nothing happened.

You have to move on with your life, if he didn't decide to make you part of his life as somebody more important rather than just "friend" , "lover" or whatever by now he will never do it.

I know it will hurt but no more than what is hurting you now.

I wish you the best, I know this is very very difficult.

Answer 6

My friend you have lost control of your life and gave your boss control over your emotions. You obviously know what you both have done was wrong and it needs to be made right. You are confused because he his baiting you and dangling you by a string. You need too be a strong woman and say no to him! he is not respecting his wife, you or himself. This is emotional abuse and you do have the power to get out of it right now. All you have to do is to make a honorable decision. Do you respect yourself enough to do that....????????

Answer 7

im sorry that some of these people have felt the need to rip you to shreads.they are damn mean. i have every reason to dislike women like you, but i dont. my ex husband was seduced away from his marriage by a woman who worked under him at his job.i got through it, mostly by deciding not to be hateful and abusive about it. what i want to say to you is this- it may be that , now that he has told his wife, she has scared the ---out of him .she probably has threatened to ruin him financially if he doesnt stop having sex with you.you know-take everything except the shirt on his back. if so, then he values his material posessions more than you. im sorry you are in such a bad situation. best wishes

Answer 8

if he is no longer intimate it means he has gone back with the wife, but wants to keep u attached just in case his marriage doesn't work out. sounds as if u left your marriage and counted on him leaving his and he is now backing out of it. the wife must be keeping close tabs on him, and honestly if it were your husband wouldn't u try to save your marriage too? can u still go back to your marriage? if u can think u should, as the boss is never going to leave her, maybe financial reasons, maybe when he learned she was going to take him to the cleaners he decided he wasn't going to do it. just end it now with him, get a new job, ask your husband to forgive u and end it with this man.

Answer 9

He is not confused he is laughing at you. Don't want criticism? You go screw around with another woman's man and don't want criticism? How funny.
I think you want sympathy. To find it, don't look here. Look in the dictionary it is somewhere between $hit and syphilis.

Answer 10

Please consider this: The one who cheated -with- you may in turn cheat -on- you. If he is unfaithful to his wife, whom he at one point in his life married because he loved her, then divorces and marries you...the cycle could repeat itself. Are you willing to take that chance for temporary bliss? Even if things worked out, this scenario would be in the back of your mind. Plus he goes to work, as do other women. Anyone of them could be his next gal pal, even if all he did was 'just' flirt. Trust must be earned. Has he shown this to his wife, to you? Just something to think about.