Going on our 2nd anniversary (yay!) and just wondering how other couples keep the romance and spark alive in their marriage. We have one child and hope to have another in the near future--and that definitely complicates things. Any suggestions?
And please, don't be crude.
2007-02-10 15:06:00 · 15 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I appreciate everyone's respectful attitude. I had a friend who posted a question similar to this on another site and got some pretty risque answers telling her to "lube it up and do it in the bumhole." (that's a direct quote).
That's what I meant by crude. Your responses were definitely fine by me!!!
I also might need to mention that we're in the military, and he's not allowed to come home (although I go on post during the day and see him for a few hours). There's no way to be "intimate" together, and we can get in trouble for PDAs. :S
Not that this is complicated or anything...
2007-02-10 15:26:14 · update #1
Think about the first time you two made love, and talk about it. Then go to the place where you first made love if you can. You know what happens after that. Always keep the memory alive-that first time. It will always fuel the fire. Then talk about what has happened since-and your love for each other. Talking is a tremendous way to know what's gone right and wrong since that first time. Make every year like the first, and keep the flame alive.
2007-02-10 15:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations on your anniversary and on your child.
The way to do "flame" in your marriage will change with kids.
Communication is really a great answer and
SO IS PLANNING.
You will never be able to do things spontaneous. You will have to get sitters, etc.
Communicate Communicate
Plan Plan Plan
You'll still have sparks!
2007-02-10 15:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by autimom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little romantic getaways. Get a hotel room, even if its in your own town. Hire a babysitter or send the kids to grandmas house. We usually go to a bigger city in our state and get a hotel room with a hot tub. Not only is it relaxing but with a few candles, some wine, and a romantic cd it could become very senual. Spice things up from time to time..it doesn't have to be kinky. Maybe he has had a fantacy of having sex with a rodeo gal. Get some cowboy boots, a cowboy hat, and maybe a lasso. Lasso your man into bed and ride him till the cows come home. Spicing things up blows guys' minds and well....that includes the little head too!
2007-02-10 15:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey- we have a lot in common. We will have our 2nd anniversary in August, have a 12 month old daughter, and I'm pregnant with our next (last?) baby. We really find that we need to go on regular "dates" to keep our romance going. We leave our daughter with friends or family to go out to dinner, watch a movie, go on a drive, we went roller skating once, anything- especially things that are trickier to do with our daughter with us. They are usually not dates set aside for sex (sorry if that's what you meant by crude) but dates to remind us that we actually LIKE each other and don't HAVE to live together just to raise a child, which is what happens to us if we don't keep going out. We go out about twice a month, but it would be great if we could go once a week. I know some couples who trade off dropping off all kids at one house each Friday night, then it's all kids at the other house the next week. Just having this time to talk about stuff other than kids really helps me really remember what I love about my husband, and I know I'm a different woman to be around when I'm not in Mommy mode, and that my husband needs and appreciates that once in a while. Hope this helps. :)
2007-02-10 15:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not married, but i know a bit about this. first thing you want to do is make sure you set apart a date night at lest once a month for you and your lover to get out of the house and have a good time. not to get vulgar,but number two, durring intercourse, keeping kissing the whole time, it makes it more intimate, and may stimulate each other a little better. just make it seem like when you first started dating. it should stay healthy a long time.
2007-02-10 15:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by builtff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was going to say wait to have babies but you already have one. I've been married for 3 years and both husband and I don't want to have babies yet simply because we want to enjoy each other company as long as possible.
Ok, my suggestion for your answer is to have 2nd, 3rd, 4th honeymoon. Do it every year. We do this and it's great!!! You don't have to go to exotic places for the honeymoon. Just some place where you can be alone with your husband. Leave the baby with the babysitter.
2007-02-10 15:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by limited_edition78 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have no real idea on to get the flame alive. but whatever you do you better keep it burning!!! once its out it hard as hell to relight it. dont get too involve in whos gonna do what with the kids and the bills. trust me i know.
2007-02-10 15:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking about things that is interesting to the both of you. Do things to make each other happy. Make each other feel like you did when you dated. TRY and woo each other. impress your spouse. Surprise them. Be happy for them when you can. Be best friends. Back each other up, and most of all, complement each other and do each other favors!!!
2007-02-10 15:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by HappyGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi remmber when you first met the first love and feelings you shered togher well its them sweet needs that you shere togher that keeps your love so wonderfull and fun. be open,shere feelings, plan things to do togher, just like working trough life togher it takes effort because this is your love, theres allways dinners,dancing travel and time togher away its them sweet things that help your love to stay strong, so shere them togher allways.
2007-02-10 15:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it fuel. Seriously. Good enough, yes?
2007-02-10 15:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by FILO 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋