So my best friend EVER died recently. Suicide. I don't know why, she always seemed so happy. She was like my sister, and it was so sudden. I've known her since I was 3 and she was 4 (now I'm 14) and I just hurt so much...she didn't get to see her 15th birthday. I guess all I'm saying is, how do I cope? She is my only real friend and I'm driving myself insane. I've been crying nonstop since when I heard (about three days ago) and...yeah...
2007-02-10 15:03:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you have a good relationship with your parents, talk with them. Tell them how you are feeling. Your sorrow is normal and there is nothing wrong with feeling so sad - a terrible thing has happened and you miss your friend. But, talking with people helps. If your parents are not able to counsel you then a grandparent, school teacher or counselor might help? Did the school get a grief counselor for the students to help them cope with this tragedy? If not, and if no other trusted adult is able to help then seek some assistance from a local mental health agency, your church if you have one, or check the local papers for a grief support group. There are lots of people there who can help and you've made a good start by reaching out. Now just reach a little closer to home so that people can help support you during this time. It's a tough thing to go thru alone - especially at 14.
Something helpful for me when someone dear dies is that I make an altar with their picture and some memory things of theirs - or gifts that they gave me. I write in a journal memories so that I never forget that person. Light a candle and send them your love. If you pray then you can pray for her too - that she's found some peace and tell her you miss her. She's lucky she had a good friend like you who cares so much.
Take care of yourself . . .
2007-02-10 15:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Santal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry about your loss. Unfortunately there are no magic words to make you stop hurting. I wish there were. The only thing I can tell you is that you should remember your friend always and keep her/him alive in your heart. Think of the good times and fond memories. I have dealt with death many times. My mom, dad, friends, other relatives. It is really hard. Try to stay near other people who you love to keep you company and get support from them. Maybe you could speak with a grief counselor if you dont feel better soon.
Again, I am really sorry.
2007-02-10 23:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. In time it will hurt less, but you will never forget your friend or how much it hurt to lose her. A friend of my daughter's recently committed suicide and it is so sad and tragic when a young person in their teens takes their own life. Its almost like you don't even realize how much you have to live for at such an early age. Just hang in there and it will get easier.
2007-02-10 23:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-10 23:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this. Just let yourself cry. Let yourself remember the good times. It takes time. It isn't going to get better in 6 weeks or even a year. It is a very slow recovery process. Stay close to you family and friends.
2007-02-10 23:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how difficult it is to lose someone close to you. You have to take it one day at a time. Let out your emotions when and how you need to. Use this experience to help others like her. If you would like to talk some more feel free to e-mail me. I check my e-mail once a day.
2007-02-10 23:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anna S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time Heals All Wounds
2007-02-10 23:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Kev 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww,please go see a psychiatrist,I recently just went throguh thesame situation abotu a year ago adn i qewnt to see one becasue I was ogin to hurt myselfg,I hope u willstart feeling better
2007-02-10 23:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing will stop the pain but time...in the meantime, help her family and talk to friends about what you are feling...you'll be fine, it will just take time to make the pain go away.
2007-02-10 23:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though she is not in the world where you could see her ,
she is in your heart where she could rest and where you can feel her close to you..
let her rest in you...
2007-02-10 23:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by Rizal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋