I recently found out my friend is bi. I mean I don't have anything against bi's, gays, etc but I just can't handle my best friend being bi I still consider her my best friend but i'm so confused, I don't want to lose her as a friend, I don't know what to do she never told me she was bi i just feel confused and betrayed. What's wrong with me???
2007-02-10 14:55:05 · 11 answers · asked by C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
ponitail 55 that's my point SHE DIDN"T TELL ME and she considers me to be her friend?! didn't she trust me enough to tell me???
lies wow what a nice thing to have in a human relation
2007-02-10 15:34:19 · update #1
Now now. Stop and take a deep breath. Your freind is still your freind. the only thing that's changed is just her sexual orientation. other than that, nothing big. You haven't lost her as a freind, and unless *you* do something out of the ordiniary, you won't. she's still the same girl you've had as a freind all these years.
Just think what a burden it's been for her to tell you. she's come to you as the person she could trust with her most important secret. You've got to keep this secret for her now. no telling *anyone* else unless she asks you to.
There's nothing wrong with you. You're just a little confused. it is confusing. Just take a deep breath and realise that she's *still* your freind, still the same person you've known.
You won't lose her. Just accept her for who she is. Give both of you a bit of time and you'll see. Calm down now, You're alright.
Blessings on the both of you.
2007-02-10 15:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I kept being gay from my family until age 16. Then I came out and the best thing about coming out is, you never have to do it again.
I mean to the same person. although now I believe that coming out is a life long process that you do to everyone you meet basically. You may be thinking that she is attracted to you or something. I think she told you because you have progressed to a level of trust and compassion for one another. I say support her at any costs. be her friend. be commited. be nice.
thats all she is looking for in the end is your trust.
sometimes bi sexual people are at a point in their life of whether they are gay or not. but she may just be bisexual. she may come out to you as gay in the future. I know At first i said i was bi because it still leads parents on about having children. Oh yeah I am bi and then I was like I am gay.
2007-02-10 15:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she did not tell you then you really do not know a thing. Never listen to hear-say that will BREAK UP your friendship. If your friend is BI and you can't handle that she willl not want you as a friend because you will judge her. Your friends sexuality is really none of your business and should never be an issue.
2007-02-11 03:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be very tough to come out to people, even best friends. She was probably too worried about losing you as a friend if she came out to you. The next move would be to have a talk with her about her sexuality and work on fixing the relationship.
2007-02-10 15:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you are / aren't interested in sex with another woman. She was open with you, be open with her. She's not going to make you uncomfortable with sexual advances if you are honest with her. Then go to the movies, or shopping, or play cards, or do whatever else you would normally do.
I think "what's wrong with you" is that you are worried about being hit on by her. Get that straight and life goes on.
2007-02-10 15:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is give her support, if you were any kind of friend you would be there for her in her time of need. A lot of people are going to be turning their backs on her, so stick with her.
2007-02-10 15:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by ◘BRITTANY◘ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be. Being bi is not a choice. Be friends with her, and dont be confused, it's not you who is bi. For instance, you'd want her to accept you for who you are if you were in her place and she was in yours.
2007-02-10 15:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by daydream♥believer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your friend is bi. Why does that have to change your friendship? She's still the same person she always has been. Why does her sexual pref. have anything to do with you? As long as she's not hitting on you, just accept her for who she is. Stop being so shallow.
2007-02-10 15:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by just jenn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're just in that freaking out stage. Hopefully it will pass and you can continue your friendship. Don't let listen to the people who say you are shallow or call you names. Nothing is wrong with you. Good luck!
2007-02-10 15:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by Luv My Corgi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you find out if she didn't tell you?
How can you be sure of your sorce if she wasn't the one who told you?
and
If she DID tell you, then you have nothing to complain about, she didn't betray you, she just saved telling you until SHE felt comfortable about letting you know.
If she didn't tell you, then maybe it's because she knew you'd react this way.
I'd check your feelings at the door on this one.
This is HER life, not yours. She's the one who's had to deal with who SHE is. Her sexuality has nothing to do with you.
2007-02-10 15:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋