Even if he hasn't given you any reason for suspicion, how do you know he has been honest with you the whole time? Will some one please help me out!
2007-02-10 14:53:50 · 17 answers · asked by daddys girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Believe in yourself. Trust yourself. This is all you can do. Take time to know the other person. I dont want to say too much about myself and my wife, but I want to relate this to you so you will understand trust in relationships. We went to a small mass in the Philippines last December. Father did the mass in English, not tagalog that day, and I was so happy he did. He said love your wife, love your husband. The relationship is all, and if your children see that your relationship is good, based in love of a higher power, they will follow. So I don't ever want to impose my faith on you, but I will give you a hint. Trust in yourself, trust in some power greater than yourself, and trust in your significant other. He or she will see this love, and if he is THE one, he will connect with you and a higher power. Western values seem to be so foreign to good relationships, don't they? Suspicion and all that seem to be the norm. Move away from this and understand that to be secure in yourself and in your partner, there seems to be an important part of that which comes from knowing that there is something greater than the two of you who will always be there to bind you together in love, with trust...think about it.
2007-02-10 15:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont. We take risks every day of our life. How do we know when we cross the road a big truck isnt going to come around the corner and knock us down? We dont. How do we know when we gain employment whether the job is going to last for the next 20 years? We dont. Unless you are inside another persons head, all you can do is trust your instincts and believe what your heart is telling you. You run the risk of being lied to, being cheated on, but you also run the risk of being excrutiatingly happy for the rest of your life. If you dont take the risk, you will never know. You can live your life with the negative "what ifs", or you can think of the positive "what ifs", because both are viable...both could happen. You run the risk of being hurt, like we all do, or you could end up the happiest person on this earth. Disappointments and hurt are all part of life....we learn to deal with them...we grow stronger because of them, but if we never take a risk we will never grow strong...we would never ever know what trully makes us happy. If you are going to disbelieve every realtionship, you may as well become a nun and lock yourself away for the rest of your life and never experience anything, just in case you get hurt. If you are too afraid of being hurt, then lock yourself away, dont take any risks, but also know that you also run the risk of dying a very lonely and unhappy woman.
2007-02-10 23:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying I heard recently that went something like this:
The truth is, EVERYONE'S going to hurt you. YOU just have to decide who's worth the pain.
It didn't make that much sense to me at first but the more I thought about it, the more I realize that it's pretty right-on. You are YOU, no one else is YOU, so no one is going to do things exactly like you'd do them, INCLUDING telling the truth. Like the saying says, YOU just have to decide who's worth the pain.
Best of luck to you... I'm 32 and the feeling never goes away. If you've been hurt before, you're ALWAYS going to have suspicions but you just have to realize that no one is perfect. The most important thing you can have in a relationship is communication. Start there and build it STRONG and everything else will fall into place.
2007-02-10 23:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Cherstin and Adam F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just a matter of trust. You have to completely let go and hope for the best. It's scary. I've been married a year and a half and I know that my husband has never and would never cheat. You have to be completely honest with each other, and you can just feel when it's right.
2007-02-10 23:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy can ask the same question about you.
That's why people shouldn't find mates from bars and places that don't allow time for people to know each sanely. One needs time and platform (say, work place or college) to build the foundation to develop friendship and to observe their behaviors.
And you get the order of priority all wrong. You trust a guy enough to go out or date him. You need much more than that to marry him.
2007-02-10 23:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, don't give up your "lady parts" to any dude that bumps into you. If you come off as "easy" he will not respect you and dump you as soon as you give him the goods.
So, if it is trust that you wan't, make the dude prove that he deserves your special thang in between your legs instead of giving it away freely.
2007-02-10 23:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no Man or Woman is 100% honest all the time
So you can't trust anyone that is unless you actually want more to life than loneliness.
look for excellence not perfection
2007-02-10 23:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by hogie0101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. We just have to take a chance and trust or we will never have a chance at love.
2007-02-10 23:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never really know if someone has been completely honest with u. if he makes you happy and gives you the highest respect then its worth it.
2007-02-10 23:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes u have 2 just take a chance.
2007-02-10 23:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by mosrider2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋