I have a 3 year old the first time I tried with my ex husband I got preg. I have been trying with my new husband for 9 months the doc says eveything is ok with both of us we both got alot of test done. Everytime my period comes around I just want to cry I feel hopeless. Im doing everything I can having sex when I ovulate laying on my back for 30 in. what do you think...how long did it take you if you have had a kid. should I be worried?????
2007-02-10 14:45:47 · 11 answers · asked by jenny♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
oh the doc says that 1 year is the norm but I just dont get it cause with my son I got preg the first time.
2007-02-10 14:47:15 · update #1
Every month I take the clear blue ovulation test and when it says Im ovulating we try.
2007-02-10 15:57:53 · update #2
About 25% of couples get pg in the first month. 60% get pg within 6 months, 75% get pg within 9 months, and 80% get pg by one year. 90% get pg by 18months. The average each month is you have about a 20% chance in any given cycle to get pg.
2007-02-10 14:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how frustrated you feel, because I did have fertility problems, so I know how excruciating the wait can be. Here's what my fertility doctor told me...
The AVERAGE woman, who ovulates on a normal schedule, takes 5 months of trying until she conceives. Some take more time, some less, but the average is 5 months.
Nine months is getting up there. You've got another 3 months before you will be officially considered medically to have a fertility problem. Keep trying until then, and try to think positive. You DID get pregnant once, so you know you CAN. If there is a medical reason why you're having trouble this time, then in most cases they can find out what's wrong and help you. The tests they do when you're being treated for fertility problems after a year are a lot more intensive than the ones they do early on. Keep your chin up...it will happen for you. (Hopefully before you even REACH the 1 year mark, which is only three months away.) Best wishes to you!
2007-02-10 15:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the same with me happened.. my husband then boyfriend slept together once.. and I was pregnant the next month... after that it took me 8 months to get pregnant, and now with my third pregnancy it took me just a little over a year to get pregnant. So 9 months of trying isn't bad.. like the doc said.. i would wait a year before you worry. Don't have sex everyday of your ovulation... that makes the sperm less effective when you do that. Have you man take warm baths, drink plenty of water and some other stuff online can tell you what to do. I know how you feel about wanting to cry everytime your period came. I lost our first child in labor and when it took me the 8 months to get pregnant.. i was hopeless and felt so horrible each month I got my aunt flo. Just relax and have fun.. both times i gave up trying is when I got pregnant. Your body knows you are trying so it is working in extra gear. You are putting to much stress on this. relax have fun and don't "try" so hard. It will happen and you just have to be patient... Hopefully that day will be soon and I'll keep you in my prayers
2007-02-10 14:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took my husband and I 2.5 years to fall pregnant so I know exactly how you feel.
I had many blood tests, a laporoscopy, hysteroscopy, d&c and die test and they found nothing wrong with me. There was nothing wrong with my husband either.
Anyway, after have several blood tests each month to see if I was ovulating it was determined that for some reason or another I was only ovulating every 2 months or so.
I went to a herbalist who suggested the Low GI Diet as it balances your insulin and other hormones - within 4 months of starting the diet I was pregnant. I now have a beautiful baby boy - the joy of our lives.
Good luck - and try the diet - i really believe it works.
2007-02-10 23:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Linda T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax. Most women get pregnant within a year of trying. Maybe, you are just going to be on the late end of it, or even take longer. I wouldnt worry, your doc says everything is fine. Just because you got prego on your first try with your first child doesnt mean that it will always be extra easy for you to conceive. It means that you got lucky that time. The best thing you can do is relax, and let nature take its course. It will happen when it is meant to. Also, if you were on a hormonal birth control like depo, the pill, the patch, etc., the hormones can stay in your body for a while even after you stop using them. For some women, it makes conception difficult for a while, while others conceive immediately. It just depends on your body. If you havent conceived after a total of 18 months of consistent trying, I would consult your doctor again. Until then, its not time to worry yet. God bless you sweetie, it will happen in its own time.
2007-02-10 14:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that all the plumbing is working and the respective gametes check out, there is an 85% chance of conceiving per woman per year. Or, to look at it from your perspective, a 15% chance that you will not for any given year. So, just keep having lots and lots of sex. Also, some temperature changes may indicate when you are ovulating and schedule your lovemaking appropriately based on your most fertile times. By the way, you are having vaginal sex, aren't you? Because that it also an important factor.
2007-02-10 15:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by aynsof 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once we lost one month we got serious. We used those strips to tell us the day before the egg was to drop. It also takes time for the little swimmers to get where they need to be. So the first morning we got a positive on the strips we waited until that afternoon then had sex, then that night and the next morning.
That did it. So we told two of our friends who were also trying and the results were the same.
Find something that measures hormones to read when its time, its THE best way.
2007-02-10 15:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by cucumber_to_the_rescue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was informed that you should seek professional help after 12 months of trying with no success.
I had very irregular periods and it took me 4 years - 3 of which involved fertility drugs.......i fell pregnant naturally 8.5 months ago and am due on the 27th Feb.
Good luck
2007-02-10 18:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by Boo Boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be patient and don't waste stressful feelings about getting prego, it will come when it comes, if the doctors say you are both fine then all you have to do is just wait and keep on doing what you are doing and enjoy it as much as you can. good luck!
2007-02-10 14:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got pregnant w/my son right away also, but the second time around it took me 10 months...
2007-02-10 15:37:09 · answer #10 · answered by cherokee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋