I mean, I don't know whether I should be weirded out or what. I don't have anything against gay people, but I never really been around them. When she told me, I think I reacted all wrong. We were talking on the phone and she just said it. It just was silent for about five minutes and then I hung up the phone. I don't know why I did, but I just did. Then she called back like an hour later and I said the phone got disconnected, and I asked her if I could call her back. What should I do or say next time I see her? I don't want things to be wierd, but it kind of will be now. I'll still be her friend or whatever, but I don't know what to do. I mean will she ever be like straight again? This was like the biggest shock of my life because we would always talk about guys. I haven't even had my first boyfriend yet and she's had like five. And now my other friend is saying she is gay too. and like my best friend also has a girlfriend now. It seems like all my friends are tuning gay.
2007-02-10 14:35:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You could explain to her that you freaked out a little bit but you are over it now. Continue to treat her like normal because she is still normal.
2007-02-10 14:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her being gay hasn't changed the person that you call a friend. She's still the same individual as she was before the words came out of her mouth. She trusted your friendship and told you and look what you do. If you are her friend it shouldn't matter what her sexual preference is and no one "turns" gay they already are and have been hiding it because of how they think you and others will react and you've shown them to be correct.
As long as your friend doesn't cross that line and try to hit on you you should still be her friend if you were in the first place. If her being gay makes you uncomfortable then you need to tell her so and not play games or try to run away from it.
2007-02-10 14:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she is your friend and the fact that she is gay should not change that. She is the same person that she always was, she has just come to terms with her sexuality. No, she will never be straight again. Your friend didn't "turn" gay, she has been gay her whole life and there is a possibility that she has known it for a while, and just now decided to tell you. The point is, this news should not affect your friendship in anyway. Please don't let your friend feel that you have abandoned her.
2007-02-10 14:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by Hmmm... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You claim not to have anything against people, but your reaction says you do. If you truly have nothing against gay people, you likely wouldn't have reacted like that. Maybe it took you by surprise, but the fact that it's still on your mind and even asking about it here must mean something more is going on.
As for being heterosexual again, well, I doubt she was ever heterosexual to begin with. If you get your hopes up for that, then you'll likely be hurt. As for guys, if y'all talked about guys before, it's not like y'all still can't do that. Your friends likely didn't turned gay, they were likely always that way and for some reason decided to come out almost around the same time.
2007-02-10 14:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Treat her the same. She's the same person and she came out to you because she trusts you, not because she likes you in that way. Tell her that the information was just a shock to you but you still see her as the same person.. Your future conversations will be normal like always, not revolving around the fact that she's gay. just because it's a big deal to you at this moment doesn't mean it will be from now on. Don't worry everything will be fine
2007-02-10 17:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole world is turning gay. Get used to it, it's the way of the future.
Next time you see her, give her a big friendly hug, and talk through your problems with her, she will appreciate your honesty and emotional availability.
She just wants your acceptance.
2007-02-10 14:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank her for her honesty, and tell her you're still friends, but let her know you're having a bit of difficulty coming to terms about it.
"Gay" and "straight" are just labels. Not everyone is 100% one or the other just because they use one of those words. She's finding her way right now. If you're her friend, support her quest to find who she is.
2007-02-10 14:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a rainbow flag and some pink triangles honey cause we're coming out full force onto the straight world.
2007-02-10 15:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one turns gay. And she's still your friend. Just say hey, and tell her the truth. That you are a bit uncomfortable but you;re trying. She should give you the space you need to deal. And be there for you when you need her as you should still be there when she needs it
2007-02-10 14:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The situation doesn't have to be weird if no one acts weirded out by their sexuality. Nothings really changed, except that they're more honest with you. Just go about like normal.
2007-02-10 14:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋