2007-02-10 14:29:00 · 31 answers · asked by shek y 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is definitely your choice..I know some people do not like that, but it is just my opinion. Research all of your options though so that you are making the best choice for you. Consider adoption open and closed, abortion, and even raising your child. Also, whatever choice you do end up making, be sure you will also be able to live with that choice. Best of luck to you!!!!
2007-02-10 15:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of factor's to consider. While some say that an 18 yo college student is ruining her life by getting an abortion, others say that not getting an abortion ruins one's life.
Look into all of the options, including abortion. Consider the possibilities for the future. How do you feel about abortion, does it scare you? Are you vehemently opposed to it? Does your brain say that it is the only option? This is a very tough time and a very difficult place to be emotionally. Find someone that you can talk to. University/College's have folks at the health clinic that can help you by giving all the options out there and the people to talk to.
These days, there are open adoptions, where mom is involved with the baby's life, but there are other main guardian's for the baby.
Each person has a different view. Choose the one that you can live with, as you are the one that will have to live with it for the rest of your life.
2007-02-10 15:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Amber Eyes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a girl 18 years old and going to college is smart enough to weigh all options.
abortion is one option, but although it may seem like a "quick fix" the decision can have very long term effects. abortion is not for everyone. if there is any doubt in your mind about abortion, then i would say that it is not for you. i would strongly urge against having an abortion.
adoption is another option. open adoptions are more prevalent today and can provide a loving but sterile couple with the miracle of a child and provide you with the knowledge that you helped create a family. nine months of pregnancy is not really as long as it seems.
do your parents know that you are pregnant? not telling them can be a big mistake. although you are probably afraid to sit down with them, being open and honest is always best... even if it creates turmoil in the family for a short period of time. any loving parent would not want their daughter to have to face this type of thing alone.
planned parenthood is a good place to start asking questions. do not wait. this is extremely important. what ever choice is made, the time to act on it is now.
i am praying you choose to give this baby a chance at life. talk to your parents so you can make an informed decision.
God Bless.
2007-02-10 14:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by hol_girl 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
first You need to talk to a minister or relative about all your options.
Before I go further I am not preaching just talking honestly.
I am in favor of legal abortion and a mother of 2 girls.
I believe in abortion for the right reasons.
You did not say weather the pregnancy is the result of, I am sorry rape or a relationship.?
I completly understand your sudden shock and fears.
How far along are you?
You need to seriously ask yourself if you can handle a baby emotionally as well as financially?
could you actually bring yourself to give one up for adoption and walk away?
Could you deal with the results of abortion?
Possibly scarring you emotionally and or physically ?
THe comments and condimnations of friends and relatives ?
You have to live with whatever decision you make no one else.
No one else can make that decision for you.
But I will say adoption and abortion are irriversable.
Be 110% sure.
I would not trade 1 day with my girls and we have had a lot of hardships, but we have over come them all, and will continue to do so. I would love to tell you a million reasons to have a baby and raise it ,but you need to decide that.
where is the father? Does he know?
would he stick around?
If you are considering abortion to have the full college experience, remember college only lasts a few years. a child and the relationship with 1 lasts a life time.
Plenty of girls have raised children going to school. some single dads do too and there are plenty of single parent support groups.
There are open and closed adoptions.
some colleges even have day care centers for students children.
let me know what you decide. I really do care.
hardingbigspring@yahoo.com
2007-02-10 14:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by andreamarie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she doesn't want the child then she needs to decide whether abortion sounds like the right choice or adoption. This will usually be decided on what she personally defines the fetus as being. I personally think adoption is a good choice, but it's what she decides.
Also, if she does want the baby but thinks it will be a burden there are some services that help out single mothers in terms of providing care and help. Also, she should consider looking to family for help too. Counseling services can also help her make the decision that is best for her.
2007-02-10 14:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by Bluefast 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Assuming you mean a pregnant one, then yes, abortion would be a normal thing to consider. Whether she should decide on abortion in the end will depend on her circumstances, financially, familially, emotionally and relationship wise.
The important thing to keep in mind when people shout "adoption not abortion" is that adoption is an alternative to raising a child, not to going through pregnancy and birthing a child. There are circumstances where the latter is the issue, and adoption will not help then. If I had gotten pregnant in college, my emotional and physical health, not to mention my familial situation, would not have been able to support the pregnancy, and adoption would have been an empty solution.
2007-02-11 03:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kahuna Burger 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its all about PRO CHOICE. Not what other people WANT her to do. I'm in college now and I see all these girls drinking, doing drugs, and smoking. What if a girl gets pregnant and does all that? FYI Not all 18 year olds are as mature as most so they do dumb things. SO knowing that she is pregnant, doing drugs, smoking, drinking, and her baby will be effected by it and if the best choice is to abort, then so be it. It is better than having a disabled baby getting put into foster care. Have you seen some of these foster cares??? It's horrible. Some kids would rather be dead then to go through that. Now if your asking, would I personally abort my child if I get pregnant (considering I'm 19 and in college) then NO I would never do that! I live with my fiance and I know how to handle my time and money wisely, and if I am responsible to be having sex then I am responsible to care for a baby. But PEOPLE REMEMBER NOT EVERYONE THINKS THAT WAY! So why are all of you judging??? Everyone has their own beliefs so let it go and stop judging people!
2007-02-10 14:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
She should decide if this decision is right FOR HER and not for all those non-understanding pro-choice people whojudge everyone! It ultimately lies with her...is she okay? can she live with her decision? On the other hand life is a beautiful thing and babies are a blessing, a lot of work, but a blessing. She needs to ask herself is she mature? Will she provide the right kind of life for this baby? Unfortunately this decision is permenant and must be made soon...She should examine all her options and look at her own spiritual beliefs and morals, and if she feels it is okay thenit is her CHOICE and it is her body, no one should say otherwise. If she does go through with is might i recomend birth control it is a difficult decision and no woman can say it is an easy one and there will be emotional distress.
2007-02-10 15:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sacajaweava 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No matter what a woman's age or circumstances, her unborn child is innocent and does not deserve to die. If you or someone you know is considering abortion, please take a look at this information:
Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org
2007-02-10 21:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
don't consider abortion just because your going to school. if you have the support to help you watch the child when your at school, that can help the decision alot. also try thinking bigger if you can afford to take care of the child good enough to make it though college then try. but if you feel as if your not ready to take on the challenge then don't do it. there is help from the state for money, food, and child care expenses. your life will become hard and you need to think about it. no more parties for the most part. no more just jumping in the car and going. it really changes your life. i had a child at the age of 18 and my life changed alot. but i did have help and i still got to go out and do stuff when i needed my time because a stressed mommy isn't a very good mommy. so take your time and think about it because you always have the chance to have another one in the future when you are fully ready. i knew some one who had two kids by the time she graduated high school and she did it with two jobs and still came out as valedictorian. it all about who you are. good luck!
2007-02-10 14:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by need a answer 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋