i am 20 years old and although i dont work i have a nice flat and i live with my partner who is working as hard as he can to make sure we have everything we need for the baby i did have a social worker wen i was 14 but that was just because my dad and i fought and i didnt go to school, i wasnt on drugs or commiting any crimes im very annoyed about this because im trying my best and i have support and its still not good enough i know i sound very neurotic but im upset. i was wondering if anyone knows why they would have me down as that considering that i have a sister who is a brilliant single mum to 2 kids and she isnt a social risk and shes raising her children alone. i would really appreciate any help and if u cant help thanks for listening to my rant anyway.
2007-02-10 14:13:32 · 14 answers · asked by dee 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
People like to give labels that can stick to someone for a very long time. They have no right to label someone without having certain proof that you are a social risk. It could be just putting a label on something to show that they did their work without caring about the individual at all. It happened to me too. My social worker tried to label my depression as a borderline personality which are two different disorders, but the label stuck with me, and I wasn't bad either. I understand what you are going through, hang tough girl.
2007-02-10 14:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Is it perhaps because you've been vulnerable in the past, and whoever has put this in your notes is concerned in case you have difficulties in coping with the change that will occur in your life? People aren't saying you will have problems, but maybe want to make sure that support is quickly available if you do. Do they work to a points system whereby every area of potential vulnerability is considered? For instance do they consider your relationship stable, your partner supportive, what about your work history? Is your age a factor?
Surely people know that you are trying and understand how you feel about your history. Try talking to the person who made this decision. They may set your mind at rest.
2007-02-10 14:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by filmwatcher59 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dee
Being classified as a social risk usually indicates that the person lack some skill in understanding what is required in parenting, or is involved in some anti social behavior or action.
If you are not on drugs have no history of irresponsibility or criminal record then I would suggest you challenge the social work department to produce the material that caused them to arrive at that conclusion. Mistakes have been made before, like wrong notes being written up in a case file. Unfortunately these things quite often are never challenged or corrected..
At 20 I would not consider you too young chronologically, and especially if you have a clean abode and a partner that is also without record of drugs, crime or a history of violence.
Challenge it and ask for clarification it is your basic right
2007-02-10 14:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-04 00:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by cutburth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like you are labled the risk and not your sister because it was you and your father. You didn't mention her.
Still they shouldn't be labling you, all you can do is just show you will be and are a good mom and they will eventually leave you alone.
So many children have social workers, my mom was charged with emotional neglect after I reported her. They came to the house ONCE and never again, said they had more important cases.
I grew up cutting myself and in a deep depression because of her never showing that she actually cared about me and becuase no one ever believed that my uncle sexually abused me.. When I turned 18 and started working I started taking antidepressants (against my mom's wishes) and then fell in love. I went off the meds to see how I would do (and because I had found out I was pregnant) and I am fine now (I turn 22 in Sept). My mom kicked me out because she found out I was taking the meds again (after I stopped taking them). But lucky for me my fiance has been their for me.
We have a beautiful two year old daughter and I am pregnant again with our second child (6 weeks). I couldn't be happier.
2007-02-10 14:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy Mama 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont get stressed out by things like that....You are gonna be a first time mum....get excited, be happy. You dont need to prove yourself to anybody....just be a good mum. And the next time you see your midwife just simply ask why that is on your notes....and she will tell you.!!!!! I was depressed when i found out i was pregnant again with my 4th baby....and over the months of carrying my baby...i started to feel better about things but the midwife would not let up on this "feeling down and depressed" thing...it was on my notes throughout.!! I didnt care about it though...You know yourself. Good luck with everything. And You take care of you.
2007-02-10 16:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by zoe32forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is b/c you don't meet "their" income guidlines. Don't worry about it, there's nothing wrong w/ having less money than what people think you should have, and there isn't anything wrong w/ you. It may also be your age, but that is also stupid b/c you are an adult. Congrats though, I am 6 months too with my second baby and I'm 23 so I'm probably social risk also : )
2007-02-10 15:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thank people like them. they're the reason u will be a better parent because they'll make you more determined to prove them wrong. im 17 had my daughter at 16 she is now 4months. im under social services care but i live on my own and some thought i probably could'nt cope but never once have they told me they might take her off me cause i proved them wrong. u are a strong woman. and dont worry if u have to go on benefits. there is nothing wrong with abit of help as long as we dont take the piss
2007-02-10 14:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should say this to the doctor or whoever has this on their records..and you should challenge it..dont sit back and let this be said about you..you and your partner are trying hard to make a good life for yourself and you baby..good on you ...you shouldnt be labelled for your whole life for something that happened years ago...that awful case of child abuse in the papers in the uk during the wk..wonder were those parents considered a "social risk" when she was pregnant...obviously not...what is wrong with the system when hard working people are put down like this..get it sorted asap...good luck
2007-02-10 22:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because you have been labeled a "social risk" doesn't mean that you are. I once got punched in the face for being gay - and I am straight! Judgements are only that - prove that they are wrong and don't worry about other people think if you know that you are not a "social risk". Reality says that it is more likely that society will be a risk... to you!
2007-02-10 14:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋