Mom is having an affair?

Question

I have never been this depressed untill now..when i find out my mom is having an affair.

My mom & dad doesnt get along but they arent divorced yet, they live together they talk sometimes but mostly they ignore eachother completely so they dont start an arguement, i thought they were the best untill i was in 8th grade, found out they were having problems with their relationship long time ago just didnt show, now my mom is having an affair with some other man and i HATE it, i love my parents but then this thing is just killing me i dont know what to do, i even confronted her about this she says yes she is having an affair and then says i just said that cuz u were askin me this stupid question..omg i have NO idea what i shud do, i am so depressed i dont feel like doin anythin, my bestfriend is not here with me and i havent told this prob to her yet i am ASHAMED about wot my mom is doin, i dunno what to do really, now all i can think of is MOVE OUT from this family to a different country, do u think its a good idea? I just HATE living with them now cuz i just cant take it! :(

My dad doesnt know yet/

Answer 1

Maybe its your mother who is depressed...maybe she is unhappy in the marriage. Maybe your mother is having the affair because she doesnt want to split from your father because of the sake of you children. A lot of parents will stay together because of the children, some will have affairs, some will just tough it out and be miserable until the kids are grown and they make a break. Talk to your mother.....remember, she is not just your mother, but a real live human being too. She has needs that maybe you dont understand. Dont judge your mother....dont feel depressed....just because she is having an affair doesnt mean she doesnt love you. The love she has for you will never change, and that is something you need to understand. I know its hard, but you have to try to understand this thing from your mother's point of view. You dont know what the true situation is between your mother and your father. If you start to take sides because of what you have found out, then all you are going to do is alleniate your mother and make her feel bad. Talk to her, try to be adult about this, and get her side of the story. Dont ever judge anyone without getting their side. She may be your mother, but like I said, she is a human being too.

Answer 2

How do know this, did she tell you she was having a affair or did you just hear this from another party. Don't be depressed if she is , find out why and then make her own up to it. There maybe a reason that you aren't aware of and she may be justified. What is dear old Dad doing, are you sure he is sitting at home not knowing about this if there is one, affair. Ask her why and then see if you need to be depressed.

Answer 3

Hey... you are taking an AWFUL lot on your plate that maybe doesn't belong there! I understand how you must feel, dissapointed, angry, scared! But listen, the thing is... your folks haven't been happy for a long time...NOT your fault or your issue! It's ok for you to feel all the things your are feeling, but you say you don't know what to do...but when it comes right down to it what CAN you do? This is not in your control...and it SHOULDN'T be! People make mistakes, even Parents. You surround yourself with people you can lean on, friends, Aunts, Grandparents. All you can really do is take care of YOU right now, your folks are adults and they will handle this the best they know how.You may not like how they handle it, but again it's out of your control. Find a safe, warm place right now and just take care of YOU!! Best of luck, you really WILL be ok.

Answer 4

my mom is married to my dad too, and she was having an affair too, so i confronted her about it, and she said that it was okay and everything was find and that my dad didn't mind that she was having an affair, my parents are kind of the same way you said your parents are. i told her if shes told my dad about it and of course she said no, i then told her to tell my dad, or else i would, but it would be better if he heard it from her. so now he knows she's having an affair and is doing something that was a long time coming, they're divorcing and i think it's better for both of them now. just tell your mom to tell your father, if not, then you will, because what she's doing isn't right. good luck

Answer 5

You need to talk to her. It may seem hard, or even impossible to do. But she is your Mum. She loves you more than anyone else in the world. She would be very sad to know how you are feeling, and you should give her a chance to fix it. Don't judge her - you don't know or understand where she is coming from. There is alot of stuff you won't understand as a child, that you will when you're an adult. Talk to her. I'm a Mum - I would want that.

Answer 6

its not right to run away because of that you should talk to your mom and ask her to sort things out with your dad, tell them that it affects you so much and that youve been hurt because of that. Something might trigger the affair maybe your mom is not happy with her relationship to your dad and she found that happiness to somebody else. Some couples do stick with their marriage solely because of the kids, probably thats the reason why youre parents are still together eventhough they are not happy with each other anymore.

Answer 7

Damn! If I ever found out my Mom was having an affair I would be crushed. My advice to you is, if your other is still married, then I suggest you DON'T break it out to your Dad. It will reck your Mither and Father's marrige. You need to talk to your MOM about it. And if she so what or something like that, threaten her saying: "I'll tell Dad!". That is your only excuse to fessing up to your Dad. I hope this helps!

Answer 8

Whether your parents end up divorcing is beyond your control.

There is one thing that you can tell your mom that truly affects you. She is setting a bad example for you (which is your message here) and you feel hurt or disappointed by that. Any parent would stop and think about that.

Answer 9

I think this is a time for you and God to get closer. Pray about the situation until he fixes it. I don't think you should take matters into your own hands because things can go very wrong. PRAY UNTIL GOD FIXES IT. There is not right or wrong way to pray just talk to him. If you have a room go there and just talk to him or talk to him from within. He can work all things out in a peaceful manner. Don't make it messy.

Answer 10

ARE YOU SURE YOUR MOM IS HAVING AN AFFAIR?? DOES SHE KNOW THAT YOU KNOW? NOT SURE HOW OLD YOU ARE BUT YOU SHOULD STAY OUT OF GROWN FOLKS BUSINESS. BUT IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER TALK TO YOUR MOM ABOUT IT AND LET HER KNOW HOW YOU ARE FEELING