My BF of 4 months doesn't compromise.We spend most of our time together within his dorm room.Our only dates have been ones I personally initiated. Ive talked 2 him many times about how our relationship shouldnt be spent in his room,&how we should include our friends when we spend time 2gether,rather than only hang out alone,& he's agreed but hasn't acted on it. I've invited him 2 go out w/ my friends & I, but he has social anxiety so he doesnt usually come.
So I've realized that we operate in different social mannerisms.I now go out with my friends more &see him @ a more personal level.
Here's the real bummer-He does not want to celebrate VALENTINEs Day with me!
His theory is that V-Day is a superficial creation of society, and he hates it.I explained to him why I enjoy it.He told me that he is uncomfortable with my expectations from him as a male in this relationship.It hurts me that he is overlooking my feelings of wanting 2celebrate our relationship b/c he wants 2 make a statemnt.
2007-02-10 14:10:29 · 5 answers · asked by dancer87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I only wrote about the bad and not the good--
I am still with him because we share a lot of the same interests. We love being together.
Most importantly---We live in the same residence hall in college, so we spend lots of time together. He initiates a lot of our "hanging out." The problem lies in the dating outside of school aspect.
2007-02-10 14:32:13 · update #1
errrr..... so WHY exactly - are you still with him?
"So I've realized that we operate in different social mannerisms" and "It hurts me that he is overlooking my feelings" you've already answered your own question.
2007-02-10 14:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, leave him now. I know it may not be easy and this is not going to be your favourite reply. But you sound like a very smart girl and trust me, I've been married many many years to the same man who treats me like gold. I've had friends over the years whose husbands were stick in the muds, and not the least bit thoughtful. It's left them very sad and envious of others who have good husbands.
Don't get stuck with someone now who already is showing signs of being utterly selfish and self centered! Social anxiety, ha, I'll show him some social anxiety when I come round and clip him around the earhole for being a jerk!
Don't walk away from him, RUN! You'll find someone better love and when you do, you'll wonder why you wasted your time.
2007-02-10 14:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Granny♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand not wanting to go out on such a busy day! Really I have anxiety issues and I hate places when they are Really busy- but he should do SOMETHING.. card and candies? If he does nothing hes a cheap loser.... drop him before things go any further!
2007-02-10 14:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is immature. why would you want a boyfriend who won't compromise? that's what relationships are all about. he sounds so very selfish. go and find a mature man.
2007-02-10 14:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times do you need this answered? What the hell. I'll answer again.....................drop his butt.
2007-02-10 14:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Nagitar™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋